Hi, new to this as diagnosed today. In a state of shock at the moment. It’s 5am and I can’t sleep! So many things going through my mind. I’m a 45 year old mum of three fab kids and feel like my life has been ripped apart. Would be good to hear some positive thoughts as I know I’m not alone unfortunately.
Hi Suedehead
Welcome to the forums, you’ve come to the right place for some good, honest support from the many informed users of this site who I am sure will be along soon to help.
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To help you along I have put for you below the link to one of BCC’s publications which I hope you find helpful
Take care,
Jo, Moderator
Hi Suedehead, you are absolutely right that you are not alone. (You’ll notice a lot of posts in the early hours of the morning.) Whichever of the many types of BC you have and whatever treatment you have ahead of you , someone will have been there before you and will have advice … just ask .
Not knowing your situation is tricky but you say you want positives so I’ll tell you my story . I’m in my late 40’s and couldn’t have been more gobsmacked when the lump I’d been monitoring in the hope it would go away turned out to be nasty! I had WLE and sentinel node biopsy in November. Tumour was 1.8cm and a margin of 1cm healthy tissue was removed around it which gave me clear margins so no more surgery. Lymph nodes were clear and it was a grade 1 tumour so no chemo needed. None of the procedures were as bad as I imagined and i can’t honestly say I’m any more lopsided than many women are naturally. Scar is 3 - 4 cm long and alt though dark red it is narrow and will fade. Currently half way through radiotherapy. I’m on tamoxifen because my tumour was very highly hormone receptive and so far no side effects (touching wood!)
Now I realise I am so much more fortunate than many of the astonishingly brave ladies on here but I hope some of this rings a bell and you have a good outcome.
Hugs,
Kitt
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Oh I’m sorry ! Whilst I know there is no logic in feeling guilty about being in my position rather than that of many others on here it does feel that way.
We find strength that we never knew we possessed and it’s great that you have a supportive family and you will get loads of help, not to mention a few very important and unexpected laughs , on here.
Do you have a date for next stage of your treatment yet?
Hugs,
Kitt
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Hi Jackie,
It’s really going fine - bit of a hot itchy boob but skin holding up fine - session 10 of 15 + 4 today so I’m past the halfway mark. We’ve had a January thread going on the Radiotherapy section of Going Through Treatment which has been really helpful in knowing what to expect.
The waiting is really hard, isn’t it! I started feeling like I was getting my control back once I had my results and treatment plan was in place.
Kitt
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