Diagnosed yesterday and scared

Hi I’m a newbie

I had the results of my biopsy, ultrasound and mammogram yesterday. I have 2 lumps which are adjacent so are being treated as 1 30mm lump, a b cup (so I’m guessing a mastectomy!) biopsy said my lymph nodes are okay. Mri scan is on Monday so I guess that will say if lymph nodes are fine or not. I’m just scared my body doesn’t seem to stop shaking no matter what I do to try and resolve it. I was okay yesterday but watched a programme on TV whereby a man’s daughter has breast cancer had it removed but it travelled to her head now I’m a complete mess. I’m just looking for guidance, lots of support and virtual hugs 

Hi Claudia - I’m so sorry to read your news, but you have come to exactly the right place for support and help. First of all I’m sending you a massive hug. The diagnosis day and then waiting for results and a treatment plan are the hardest days - I know I felt as if I had been hit by a truck. It’s good that the biopsy didn’t show node involvement and I hope the MRI will confirm that.

I had a mastectomy (I’m similar size cup to you) plus chemo, node involvement and radiotherapy - so happy to answer any questions you might have once you know your plan.

Best advice given to me was to take one day at a time and not to google as you will scare yourself. Chat away on here and ask questions, it’s a safe and non judgemental place and everyone gets what you are feeling without you having to explain.

My very best wishes to you.

Evie xx

Hi Claudia3609

Welcome to the Breast Cancer Now Forum.

We’re sending you all our love ahead of your scan on Monday. Remember our team is here if you need to chat about anything! 

Bernard

Dear Claudia, 

I know the first shock causes such an avalanche of emotions but it is doable, I promise. And the fear becomes less frequent companion with time. All the wonderful BC survivors who have already answered are right; total uncle Google ban, solution focus approach, not reading horrid stories as most will not apply to you and you have got it girl! We are so lucky that medicine has moved so much in this field and the prognosis have changed so significantly. I was diagnosed in August last year and yes, there have been many difficult moments but on the whole I think my assumptions about the treatment were all proven wrong; even the chemo was not half as bad as I anticipated. You might not even have the chemo (depending on the BC biology) and there is laughter, love and so much more during and after cancer! We are all here for you whenever you need a chat, rant, cry or laugh. x Anna 

Hi Claudia,

I cannot add anything to the excellent advice you have already been given. I called the helpline today and feel much better for it so I would certainly recommend them. 

I have previously had cervical cancer and the diagnosis was a huge shock. I can empathise with how you are feeling.  I know it is a different situation but when I knew that my treatment plan was a hysterectomy I felt more in control and thankfully I had no evidence of spread so that was it over. 

I wish you all the very best. 

Dear Claudia 

In exact portion as you .

I am a nurse and the little knowledge is driving me insane .

I am.not copping at all .

I.feel like I need constant reassurance .

This are such hard times .

You can chat to.me privately but not sure how to go.anout it.

Would love a chat with anyone just to calm my nerves. 

Claudia we are in this together. 

You are not on your own .

Can I.write my number on here?

Not sure very new to this forum sorry 

Panic is heightened at the moment, my husbands uncle passed away yesterday from cancer, we weren’t close to him but has increased my anxieties tremendously. I have been having slight pains in my breast were the lumps are located and I’m convinced that it means its spreading… Chemo starts on the 13th July is it strange to look forward to treatment starting?