A couple of things that i need to know if anyone can help?
My supervisor is abolutly vile. Before BC we didnt really get on, she wasnt my supervisor then she had a promotion while I was off. I toleraed her as I jst had too! I went back for a couple of days before my last recon opp and we had a big falling out because the way that She speaks to me is awful and she shouted tme in front of the whole office and made a complete fool of me, I even got that stressed with her I got a nose bleed lol!. I had a quiet word with her to ask her to not speak to me in the manor that she does, she thanked me for not going to managment andgoing to her first. Well I returned properly on tuesday and my manager said that my supervisor has made a compalint and said that I have been causing tension which is most definatley not the case! She did this while I was off sick and couldnt defend myself and now seems to have my boss wrapped around her finger! I now feel like I am not being taken seriously as im on hormone treatment and im worried that my supeervisor wll play on this and say that im moody…which was said to my manager, and which is not the case…I will not be spoken to like dog dirt and not say anything, im just not that way and i did retaliate but feel like i was within my rights. I feel like i dont have a leg to stand on and I feel quite bullied! Im worried that my supervisor is trying to push me out…the question that I have anyway is has anyone else dealt with this after returning to work and what was the outcome?
Finding a new job…how difficult is it and is it hard to get taken on? Im really worried that nobody will take me on as of my attendance record? I have been off for 9 and half months and am worried that a new employer wouldnt take me on as of my fairly recent diagnosis. Has anyone else found this difficult?
I’m sorry to hear you’re having these difficulties at work, I know there are others who use the forums who have also found difficulties when going back to work and I’m sure they’ll be posting to support you. In the meantime I have put for you below the link to BCC’s publication Employ Charter for you to read which you may find useful.
There is a thread ongoing on the forum called bullying at work or something like that where a few people are experiencing the same thing you are. It might be useful to contact them as they have gone through it all and know what’s what in terms of legal rights etc.
I think you have to ask yourself whether you want to continue working at this place and if so, what you can do to make it better or if you think this supervisor will calm down once you have been back a while. If you really think that it has gone beyond negotiation and you hate it, then start looking for a new job. I think as long as you are now fit and off treatment, there should be no reason why an employer wouldnt want to take you on. Life is far too short to put up with bad situations at work.
This is my personal opinion - please don’t get involved with the bullying at work thread, this is three people discussing situations that have been running for years, its very involved and specific. I also think its better to try to resolve things
Can you get another job ? yes absolutely - the past is the past, and you are legally protected, if you are at work now and your treatment is behind you, you cannot be discriminated against. I would brush up your CV, do some practice and start looking for a new job, these are not easy times for alot of people and it may be difficult to get another job in a way that is NOTHING to do with breast cancer. Honestly - If I were you I might want to wait two or three months, catch up on sleep, build up your strenghth and think what you really want to do. Concentrate on you - not some vile person at work, everyone has one !!! i do as well.
On the supervisor situation - be thoughful and careful, keep good notes and let a little time go by so you have a pattern of behavior, if you have an HR person it might be better to discuss with them.
I think I am just saying you have only been back a couple of days, take a little bit of a breather and think. Its not about being moody, but its bound to be really tiring and you need to think of yourself first,
Hi Emily,
if you feel your are being bullied and go on to resign because of it then you have a case for constructive dismissal - hopefully it won’t get to that but you need to read up on your rights see link… direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/RedundancyAndLeavingYourJob/DG_10026696 for some good info.
I have taken an employer to tribunal and won for being unfairly dismissed because of being ill so know a bit about it.
My advice would be to put in writing how you have/are being treated and how it makes you feel to your employer and counter complain about her - that way it is on record and they have a duty to do something about it.
Clarabelle xx
Thanks everyone, I have decided to carry on looking. If im being honest I really dont care as its just a job. Im trying my hardest to bite my tongue and get on with it! Im writing everything down that she is doing and I do plan to go to HR with this so she doesnt get away with it again.
It makes me feel better that knowing that I can get a new job thank god! I really need a career change anyway, she is just giving me more of a reason to go out looking!
Just came across your discussion about work. you may have already resolved this situation already, and so might find it useful for information purposes.
firstly your supervisor has no right to speak to you like the way she has been - it is not professional and if she had any issues she should have taken the appropriate routes to address these these with you. so she should had an informal chat with you on a one-one basis. if things didnt resolve then she should have taken guidance from HR and worked within the relevant HR policies to resolve matters. its seems like she did none of the above.
as an employer your organisation should make reasonable adjustments for you during andafter your treatment, to support you and reassure you that your job is secure. there is legislation around this and all organisations should be complying with this. Your manager has clearly not been complying with this and you should definitely point this out to her.
If the bullying persists then you are within your rights to take out a grievance based on bullying and harassment against your supervisor. i would advise you to make a note of every incidence and anything being said to you.you should ask for your bullying and harrassment policy or grievance policy from your HR department,which will clearly state everything.
as for finding another job, i would not worry at all about it. please be honest about any time taken off or career breaks on your cv/application. and if shortlisted for interview you can mention it at interview. so please let me reassure you that it is not a problem. I work in the human resources profession as a recruitment specialist so can reassure you about that.
hope this is helpful. sorry its quite a long response.
Thanks jas, i must say your advice its very re-assuring. Things get better, then she will come in in a mood and it will be the same again. i am having my pdr next week and am going to bring it up then with my manager. ill pm you tomorrow when i have more time, to get some advice on how i can go about it if thats ok?
Hope you are well and things at work have improved or your work situation has changed.
I have been away from the forum for a long time and havent connected with anyone for a while. just felt the need to come back here and saw your posting.
Please email me if you require any assistance or advise. I work in HR and if cannot help you directly i have great HR friends, who can help.
Regards
Jas
ps - I will ensure i keep a look out for your posting and visit the forum regularly to see how things are for you.