Do you ever stop feeling scared?
Do you ever stop feeling scared? I feel sick all the time- Worrying about my mum as i don’t know what will happen. I hate the fact I think cancer is the end but reading other forum areas i seem to feel more and more scared and just want to grab my mum and run.
I feel selfish as I am always crying, buts its not happening to me. I feel slefish as I can’t lose her as I need her forever and feel vile as I fearful of loosing her - Not always the case. But in reading I am scared i’ll never see her in the same light - i’ll always be scared when she tells me things hurt. As it is she has had a headache since the diagnosos (2days ago) so worry about that, her knees hurt (have for a while) is that something to concern me - Will i ever see her as ‘Good old Mum Again’??
I’ve had cancer and I’ve watched people I love, including my mum, go through it, and I know which I found harder. You’re not selfish to cry, or to fear losing her, you’re a loving daughter.
The coming months will be hard for you both - you’ll know more after her surgery when you find out the details of her cancer and what treatment is recommended.
I was diagnosed over three years ago, and I’m well as far as I know. The frantic everyday fear and worry does pass, though of course worry never completely goes away.
It’s early days, you’ve both only just heard this devastating and shocking news. I read your other post and saw that the moderator suggested you use the Breast Cancer Care helpline to talk to someone in confidence. If you haven’t done so already you may find it a help to talk about how you feel and perhaps get some of your questions answered.
Best wishes to you both, your mum has a loving and caring daughter.
Dont worry, you will get to a point when things are looking up and you forget about it, stop worrying for tiem being. I feel excatly like you do, worried and i need my mum i couldnt bear to lose her, but we arnt necesiarlly going to do so. As for being selfish for crying. Your not, i cried constently and still do at points, however something i would advise would be to try aviod crying around your mum, my mum doesnt partically like it, i suppose because it gets her upset, but also find someone a friend, anyone you can talk to about all your worries. Mind me asking, how old you are?? dunno if your married but do talk to someone…
My mum had grade 2 breast cancer eleven years ago and she is alive and well and hasn’t had cancer for 10 years. My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer last year and she has had her treatment and will not go back for another 6 months to see them.
When they were both diagnosed I went through torture imagining the worst. Now I no longer worry about my mum and I am not particularly worried about my sister anymore because they say she is free from cancer too (she had the diagnosis more recently, so I am a bit frightened still). But the terrible agony you are going through now will go away, I promise.
Use this forum to get help and support. You sound like the loveliest daughter, I bet your mum wants you to be happy more than anything in the world.
Take care,
Lilly.xx