faith, your not waffling at all. your doc was being insensitive and there is no set time when you should go back to work. my kids help me stay focused, i have a son and daughter and they are amazing but then i would say that being a proud mum. i can remember having a mammogram arranged days b4 my results were back and the consultant had me in tears he made me feel totally brainless. as he asked how many relatives had cancer etc and i told him it was all down my dads side and he asked about mum who thankfully is fine. and he shook his head and said no no you will not have brca, he continued to say he could count on 1 hand the amount of brca women he has seen. and told me he didnt see the need for me having a mammo but said since genetics sent me he had to. he left the room and i got dressed and ran out crying feeling like a time waster. within 4/5 days i had a positive result. i wrote to the head of cancer for scotland and recieved an apology from that consultant. i was then given a new consultant who i see every 6 months and is amazing. i sometimes see the rude one when in hospital but put myself 1st and tell them what i need as it’s easy to feel like just another number… love lainey xxxx