Don’t know what to do

[katied83]

Hi there,

Gosh I can’t even believe I’m writing this! So I had some thickening in my right breast and got it checked out by a breast consultant who said it was just fibrous tissue. Then I just kept on having a weird feeling about it and decided to get it checked again which was last night. They gave me a mammogram and ultrasound and the radiologist said she’s going to take a biopsy. She basically said to the consultant that my biopsy looked ‘sinister’ from what she extracted and they’ve basically said there’s a good chance of it being cancer. I go back Monday for my results but I’m struggling to get out of bed today. I just feel like I’m in a nightmare. I’m only 41 with 2 young children. Preformatted text

[Tigress]

Hi @katied83 I’m so so sorry you’re in this situation. Anyone on this forum will tell you that waiting for test results, especially the preliminary biopsies, is hell. I have just popped on to say two quick things.

Firstly, a breast cancer diagnosis, whilst shocking, isn’t as catastrophic as it probably once was. This is due to the amount of research into it and the development of multiple effective treatments which means that the vast majority of women get through it, out the other side and live their lives. I know it doesn’t seem like it now but odds on, if it IS cancer, which you haven’t had confirmed yet, then you’ll be treated and you will move on. Breast cancer is no longer the Big C but I get it that it takes time and exposure to the world to realise that.

Secondly, if it does turn out to be BC then can I point you to the ‘Younger Women’ subcategory which you will find under ‘Connect to People Like Me’ main category. If new to navigating around the forum, just use the at the top right and put in Younger Women. You’ll find lots of support from those with young families in there. Big big hugs.

[Nurse_BCN]

Hi katied83

Thank you for your post.

It sounds like you are going through a really distressing time, as you said, ‘it feels like l am in a nightmare’ and you don’t know what to do with yourself and it’s hard even getting up. It’s understandable as you are awaiting results following a breast clinic appointment.

As @Tigress says if it is breast cancer then you will be treated. It is best to hear what the doctor says next week. Having breast investigations and being told there is a chance that the breast problem you have may be cancer is very worrying and stressful. It can be hard to think straight and carry out normal activities and it can be difficult to know how to cope.

You mention you have young children. It may help to talk to close family and friends and tell them how you are feeling, and they may be able to help you.

Also, it may help as you are feeling so overwhelmed contacting your GP and talking through what is happening as they can sometimes help at this difficult time. They can offer support and medication that can be used in the short term.

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