Hi all, I am 40 years old and found what i can ony describe as “a mass” in my right breast a few months back, at the time i thought i would just use the watch and wait approach- now i know i shouldnt have. I went to my GP on monday but to see her about another matter and mentioned the lump. She examined me and said it needs to be investigated and would refer me. My appointment was at 11.20, i got home at 12.00 and the hospital rang me at 12.30. I was quite shocked at how fast this was and really was just expecting a letter in the post. They said they have given me the first available appointment for on monday to see a breast surgeon. I am at my wits end with worry, i have 3 children, the youngest being 4 years old who is disabled. As stupid as its sounds my main worry is that my parents go on holiday sunday night- My mum is really concerned and I can see her “well up” as she talks about my appointment. I dont want it to be bad news and have to tell them whilst they are away on holiday celebrating my mums birthday.My husband just says to me “i dont think it will be bad” but what if it is? I have basically told myself to expect the worst news ever and in that way im prepared. I have even had a sneaky look at our life insurance policy!omg i know how stupid that sounds!!!Just looking for some friendly words of adice basically or even “calming words” …before i send myself nuts lol
ooooh poor you I’m in a simular position so I don’t have any wise words for you but I’m sure others on here will, you’re in the right place. My mammogram is next tuesday and my consultant appiontment the following monday. It seems like years away I keep telling myself that 9 out of 10 lumps are not bad news… but I’m terrified none the less. I’m single with children and don’t have close family so not sure who to tell sad isn’t it. Have to keep busy. Let me know how you get on and if you have any tips with coping with the wait.
Foxy 
x
Hi Jocro
have just read your post and to say l am thinking of you, l see my consultant oin 25thlike you very scared and husband reacting same way, hard to stay focused but want you to know you are not alone at this anxious time
PCAZ
Hi
you are in a state and no wonder, but a few thoughts -
- GP referral means the breast clinic have to see you within 2 weeks, so it may be that you’ve got a cancellation. A quick-ish appt does NOT mean it’s ‘serious’
- the whole point of the clinic is to RULE OUT cancer and put your mind at rest
- whatever tests they do - mammo, ultrasound, biopsy - will take time to establish the results, so you won’t have anything to tell your mum for maybe 2 weeks.
remember if you DO get a diagnosis of breast cancer, the breast clinic will offer you the best possible treatment and do everything they can to get you well.
in the meantime use this website, the helpline, print off the publications, and make lists of questions to ask - it’s a good idea to take someone to you appts to make notes so you have stuff to read through at home, cos none of us take it all in at once.
all the very best
grumpy
two years from diagnosis and fit and well…
Hi jocro, and also Foxy
I’ve just read your post and want to send ‘hugs’.
Grumpy is so right, you may have just been lucky to have got a cancellation although I can understand your train of thought. Also, take note of the content of her message, and of what the others are saying. We have each had our ‘anxious wait’.
The necessary investigations to determine the nature of your ‘lesion’ will take a while to be processed and a high percentage of lumps/bumps are not serious.
However, I can understand you preparing for the ‘worst case scenario’ and I was the same when waiting on results. Whatever anyone says, the wait is the hardest time of all. Your husband will be struggling to ‘hold you up’ too. It will be hard for him too.
I imagine you are feeling like you have been caught up in a whirlwind, out of control and don’t know where this will take you. You WILL come through this. You WILL feel a lot of support from hospital staff, friends relatives, this forum and more. I hope all this helps to hold you up and that your fears are totally unfounded. Maybe you can feel all of us here ‘holding your hand’ all the way.
I hope you don’t mind, but I’ll be praying for you, for this to be an innocent and harmless bump but also for you to feel an inner strength helping you through.
Well, I’ve prattled on long enough! I need to be up in good time tomorrow (I’m not good in the mornings!) as have trial run prior to starting Rads on Monday.
Keep posting if you need to ‘talk’ or ‘vent’.
Take care
J
hi all, thank you for all your kind words of support. I am feeling alittle more upbeat today and have talked about it alot which has helped me heaps. Foxy Im so sorry you are going through this too and also that u have to go through this alone- I have just read your other post from today- Is there no one you can talk to? I saw that you are also some pain today- i have had no other symptoms but this week have had chills thats start every evening.Its made me wonder if this is just a coincidence or whether connected.
Pcaz -please let me know how you go on at your appointment. I will be thinking of you both too and hope its good news.
Sending huge hugs to you both :)))
Hi to everyone
I have come to the forum new as someone who has just been referred to the breast assessment centre, appointment next wednesday.
Like you Foxy I am a single Mum with no family so have not been able to share this with anyone.
for the past 2 weeks I have had pain in my right breast and armpit together with swelling of the breast and chest and neck lymph nodes. I’ve been feeling quite out of sorts for some time but much worse over past few weeks. The pain is getting worse and it’s a first for me as I have never suffered from breast pain at all. I feel so much worse in a different way than I have ever felt before that I really feel there must be something going seriously wrong in my body.
My GP has confirmed that the right breast is bigger than the left and my feeling is that this was not always the case. The speed of onset of these symptoms makes me fear IBC. I have a relevant family history. My Mum died from ovarian cancer aged 53 and my aunt had BC aged 48 but survived it.
I know many ladies on here have gone through this part of the journey and can share your experience and those of us starting at the time time can hopefully support each other.
Sending love and support to you all
Hi Jocro & Funmum,
It seems we are all three at the same place so perhaps we can hold hands as it were. I wish you both well and hope like me you are finding this place a help.
sweet dreams to you both and all and fingers and toes crossed!
Foxy Xx
Hi Everyone
I am 25 years old and have had some pain in my right breast as well as some bleeding from my nipple. I also have soreness under my armpits and chills at night. I hadn’t thought that the chills might be connected untill now but see that others experience it also. . Im trying not to worry but the truth is that I’m absolutely terrified. I’ve felt so anxious this week and keep having waves of panic. Other peoples symptons and stories seem identical to mine and I know deep down that it’s not good news. I can talk to my boyfriend but don’t want to worry the rest of my family until I know for certain. I have appointment at the hospital for full testing on Tuesday. Can anyone tell me what i can expect from a mammogram? If the mammogram doesn’t show anything ( I’ve read that it’s not particularly effective for younger people) will they carry out other tests right away? Is it advisable that I take somebody with me?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Jen xxx
Hi Jen
Welcome to the BCC forums, I am posting a link to the BCC web page where you will find an information publication about being referred to the BC clinic and further support ideas which you may find helpful
breastcancercare.org.uk/worried
Take care
Lucy
hi all, i had a telephone call yesterday to say my appointment on monday has been cancelled- apparently the consultant is doing somer emergency surgery. They have rescheduled it for tuesday evening!! Nightmare, gonna be there all night by the sounds of it and will have to take children with us, but wont get my results same day, have to then go back wednesday morning for the results- im gutted about it, have worked myself up enought just waiting for monday to arrive! 
Hi Jocro, Just read your post hun, sorry to hear they pushed your appointment back thats hard, every minute seems to take long enough.
So just to say I’m thinking of you and let us all now how you get on :). My mammogram is Tuesday but don’t see consultant until Monday 30th and they say I probably won’t know that day either.
Foxy x
Hi all you ladies in the waiting room…
I want to send you all big hugs during this time, as it is a very worrying time… When I was there, it consumed my whole time, worrying about it…
I also read that Foxy and Jocro have split appointments, so the test first and then seeing the consultant… Are you both going straight first to have a mammogramm? I see that in some areas that way round is performed, in my area, the consultant sees you first for an examination, you are asked to fill in a form, then if the consultant thinks it is necessary, I was then sent to mmg, then for an ultra sound and finally biopsy, all in one day, although I had to wait for results…
The time seems to go so slow, and if like me, you want to wish it all away, the time, so you can get it over and done with…
Hugs to you ladies, at this very worrying time.
Hi there,
Its Tuesday for my mammogram and then results are sent digitally to consultant who I see on Monday 30th who apparently will then decide if I need further tests if (big If?) I do then it may/may not be that day but def won’t get results on the day I spoke to his secretary. I will go by myself this is better for me. Please do you know is it possible to diagnose BC from the mammogram by itself?
Off to see an old friend today think I’ll probably tell her and drink a lot of wine lol.
Thank you and hi to the others x
Hi Ladies
Are they any seats left in the waiting room? Cos I need one too please!
I felt a lump in my right breast on Tuesday evening, went to Dr’s wednesday morning and they rang me on thursday to book an appointment at the breast clinic. My appointment is next thursday (26th)
The GP did say the lump felt ‘smooth and mobile’ and suspects a cyst but in view of the fact my mum had BC aged 46 (I am 48) she wanted to send me ‘to be on the safe side’
But they told my mum they thought her lump was a cyst so I certainly don’t feel confident!
In February this year my poor 44yr old brother died after being misdiagnosed in A&E and sent home despite having an aneyursm which burst and killed him. Needless to say we have all be shocked and devasted by this…and then I find this lump
I just can’t bring myself to tell my parents. My sister knows and will come with me to the hospital.
My daughters also know and are really worried too although I put on a brave face in front of them.
I just hate giving everyone this worry!
I have friends who have been treated for BC and have done really well, but I am just so, so scared.
Good luck to everyone that has their appoinments earlier than me. Hope everyone posts back to update.
hi summer, i dont think mine is a split appointment. I went to my gp last monday arrived home at 12pm and the hospital telephoned me at 12.30! It was that quick. My appointment was to see a breast surgeon today and have all tests and results same day but unfortunately its been cancelled and rebooked for tomorrow evening- they said they will do all tests but highly unlikely will get the results then, will have to go back wednesday morning.My appointment is at 5,15pm. Foxy and pcaz sending u both hugs-please let me know how u both go on, i will be thinking of you both xxxx
Hi Jocro
Ah right, that sounds like a one stop shop then.
You’re almost there, I know it is late in the day, and it means waiting all day today and tomorrow, but it will soon be here.
Gosh, a few of you in the waiting room this week… At least you can all gain support from each other.