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Hi Ladies,
Nearly 11.30pm and will l be glad to get today out of the way, been an awful day, tears and more tears. Too long a story to go into, just something really upset me, sometimes it doesn’t take much, but this was well worth a tear or two. My old bestfriend/schoolfriend lives in Aussie land, so can’t even give her a cuddle!

Tried to keep busy today, in fact this is the first time l have sat down all day, thought l had better before l fall down!! feel shattered.

Sorry, rambling on and you dont know what about! enough

Heather’s duplex isn’t as exciting as it sounds!! had to look that one up! never heard of it! A Duplex scan is the name given for an ultrasound test that allows doctors to look at the flow of blood within arteries and veins.
Strange how it is in both legs Heather, could understand a problem with veins in one leg. hope all goes well!
If you feel dizzy when you look up Heather…don’t look up!! have heard that before, might have been my brother, he has spondylosis. Did they say to look up slowly?? or am l dreaming that!!
Will have to see where Banbury is!! well l know roughly, but perhaps we could meet half way! bit like half way to paradise! so near, yet so far away!!

Nell, l can tell no porkies!! l took the tortoise off the internet. l was looking up something about tortoise’s and this tortoise with a toothbrush came up!!! just felt it was for me!!

Jackie, come, come, was l the only one that said you were a drama queen!! it was the way you kept wiping your brow after a story!! but we love you for it! makes me smile!
Lego, can’t live without it! my grandson said that is all he wants for his birthday! easy presents, he already has lots. Even got two big boxes of his Dad’s and Uncles from when they were little! it was going to stay at mine so they had it when they came round, with their cousins, but each time they come round more and more goes home with them! told them take the lot!!

Son and dil had to finish off emptying her Mums home on Sunday, they were out in the garden, when youngest asked me what granddad was doing, told him he was watching the finals of Wimbledon, in he trotted, seems he took a Harry Potter dvd out and told his Granddad if he gets bored with Tennis he can watch Harry Potter. Granddad was very impressed!!!

Jackie, not sure what sj told you! have you tried going onto breast friends, and near where it says breast friends it says edit settings! if you click on that you can change the email messages you get!

Has everyone seen Carol’s hair? she went to a wedding and put her photo on fb, looks really lovely!
and not forgetting Izzy’s holiday snaps oh yes and her silage photo’s. gorgeous farm! oh l have silage too, cut the grass the other day, and now it is fermenting! does that count Izzy?

Hugs and Love
Sandra
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Hello can I tag along on this journey?
Was diagnosed last Wednesday with having Breast Cancer.
My name is Juli, Im 44, married and have two boys (12 & 17)
To be honest this is not the adventure I planned, just hoping it all works out in the end, how ever far down the line that is.
Im still waiting for things to start (appoinments/surgery…)
Just need to speak to other that are on the same boat as me.

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Hi Juli,
Yes this an ‘adventure’ none of would want to be on!! We are all but through our treatment, some still having Herceptin. You are more than welcome to tag along. We do tend to go on fb a little more these days! so if you are on there just let us know and we will add you!

Once you know your treatment might be an idea to start a thread for others having treatment the same time as you.

You will get lots of advice from us, ignore most of it, because they are all pretty mad! but we mean well.
Seriously any questions, know matter how silly they may sound, just ask!

I was diagnosed in February’10 after two ops had to have a mx, had lots of nodes with cancer, but doing ok. peachy mother is our word for Chemotherapy, just hate that word, peachy sounds so much nicer.

Did they say how long before any appointments start coming in? What hospital are you under?

Hugs
Sandra xxx

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They said I would be with Broomfield Hospital in Chelmsford, Essex.
Nurse said last friday she was getting onto the doctor/surgeon. Just waiting now (which I hate). Not sure how long before things start.

I am on facebook (constantly) my name is Juli, so if anyone wants to add me then please do send a request but also put that you are from this site/forum.

Juli x

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Hi Juli - yu’re more than welocme to tag along, bit of a crazy bunch here and guess if you get on FB with us then you’ll have more laughs along the way - won’t she Sandra/Kanga?

They call me Nell on here, all to do with Nll Gwynn; will leave the rest to your imagination!

Yes we will supoort you too, lots of hugs and tips, as we’ve all been there and got the t shirt - I’ve done chemo, mx, rads and due recon in the coming months, just a year on for me post dx.

Stay with us, we’'ll keep you smiling…

Nell xx

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Hi Ladies thought I would put a new Lola pic on my profile,Nikki sends a new pic everyday, its really nice that she keeps her us involved with everything to do with Lola.
Juli, Hi and welcome to the crazy gang, we have all been on a journey we didn’t want to go on, but we have met some fantastic people on the way. You will feel better when things start to happen, then at least you know that horrible cell will be gone. I will look for you on FB and try to add you, I am not good at FB though lol
Kanga, if there going to hang me from 2 stories high they will need a dam strong rope, or better still a thick chain.
Sandra, sorry you had a tearful day yesterday, when something starts me off crying thats it for the rest of the day. Hope your feeling better today, I’ll send you a (((((((hug ))))))) there does that feel better. Guess what I was singing today, ‘The railroad Runs Through The Middle of The House’ can you remember that one Sandra, Carol,Kanga, Jackie,Dee, who else ? I went on you tube and it was on there and I was singing along, then I had ‘gillygillyhosenfefer’ (can’t spell it lol) but can sing it though, and then ‘I’m a pink toothbrush your a blue toothbrush’, and they were all on youtube I had a right musical afternoon lol
Sandra, the consultant can’t understand why it is both legs, because I have only got a bad vein in one leg. He said he would ask for the scan to be done just to check them out. I dont know if I have to move my head slowly or not because nobodys told be about the spondylosis. It would be nice to meet with you all one day, if you come closer to Banbury sometime I would be able to get there.
Jackie, I could perhaps get Kanga in the basket at the front of my scooter, she would just have to dangle her legs down. I am not that red hot on FB Jackie, I see a post then puff its gone and Ive lost it lol The treasure hunt idea of Sandras is excellent, hubbys eldest 2 grandchildren are coming for a couple of days in August, we have to think of something to do because the little boy is a live wire lol, think Sandra should patent her treasure hunt idea, you could make a bomb Sandra.
Isabelle, I haven’t seen your pics on FB I am going to have to go have a look now.
Carol, I haven’t seen your pics of your posh hair do, I am going to find that aswell.
Dee, hope work is going ok, and your not getting to tired.
Right I am off to FB,
Take Care,
Love Heather,
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Hi Juli, welcome to the adventure none of us planned on embarking, but here we are.

Well everyone, I have been reading but not posting, I feel we are a victim to our success, I can no longer keep up with all that is going on, and I feel I am often not there to support those of us who are having a bad time, so I do apologise. With all our names on fb, here and in real life I am having great difficulty in remembering who is who, in-spite of starting a little blue book. Is it my peachy-mother brain ? I doubt it, my last one was last September.
I think I told you I am now back to full time work, and I am coping well. Other things are moving forward for me too, but at a nice pace so I do not feel overwhelmed. I still don’t know what I am going to do for my holidays this summer as no 1 son will be here for most of the time, so I don’t want to go away while he is here. PFDIL will be working for the summer at my centre, so she will be with me for at least 6 weeks, which will be great and no 2 son will be thrilled.
I send everyone hugs, especially those who are having a difficult time. Please take note of my mantras:

  • Share things here without reserve, especially when you are down, that is the strength of our thread.
  • Don’t google any thing
  • Keep to safe threads, you all know what I mean.
  • One day at a time
  • Don’t borrow tomorrow’s sorrow (thanks Vickie, for that one, but please take note yourself !)
    Love to all my cyber family, you have been my saviour.
    Maria
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Oh Maria, what lovely words, you are an inspiration to us all; you have been through so much yet have always there to support us and give us words of wisdom - especially in your mantra (oh yes and the words you used to beat me at scrabble - twice!).

Been thinking about you today and wondering how No2 got on at the “taster” session and when is the next?

Ooh Heather, hope you get those legs sorted! so much going on with you too ((hugs)).

Well work is going ok so far, but only doing two day so not a lot, but must admit last Friday I flopped on the sofa and fell asleep when I got home and that was after only two days!

Managed to get out on the “Silver dream Machine” on Sunday - we Vrmmmd off to Morecombe, just for the ride really, oh yes and a sneaky icecream - oops but don’t tell anyone cos we’re on WW!

Love, (((hugs))) to all and special (((hugs))) to those that need them right now.

Nell xx

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Hi, Julie, welcome to Maria’s thread, you will get lots of support on here.

wise words from our wise Maria. I have to admit that I find FB a bit confusing, doesn’t take much these days! I’m so pleased that you are enjoying being back at work full time, must make you feel so “normal” again. I can understand you not wanting to be away when your son is at home. mine is nearly 35 but I still miss him when he’s away. he’s just announced that he is going to live on the south coast for a couple of months, try and ge some summer work. will he ever settle down??

Heather, that song used to be my favourite! I will have to go on utube. have you found the talking dogs yet? the one about the bacon is the funniest. I managed to get to see my GP today. I went with a list!!
she has refered me to ENT to get my ear and vertigo sorted. so, hopefully I will get to the bottom of it.

had a swedish massage today for a student (free) she was very good as I was the first real person she had practiced on, I still feel nice and relaxed. early night I think

love and hugs to all

Carol xx

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Carol pleased you enjoyed your massage - but the early night cos you feel nice and relaxed?

Nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more - ehh Sandra?

Love & Hugs,

Nell xxx

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you can think what you like, you dirty girl!!

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Mods…l haven’t said a word!!!

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Hello everyone,

Have just come back from a few days holiday near Oban… and there were no midges!! Which I think is a first for a holiday on the West Coast of Scotland. Just me and OH went away, the children went to their Grandparents and the dogs went to their own holiday home.

Dogs are back home with us now and curled up asleep in their bed. I hope you are feeling better about Archie now Kanga, you can’t switch love on and off like a switch.

How is the back Carol, are you managing the allotment. Finally got to ours after a couple of weeks of total neglect. The weeds were doing great and the veg were under them somewhere! Got it all tidied up and more carrots and beetroots planted then off we went on holiday for five nights, I expect all the weeds will have come back again!

Jackie, I’m still trying to get the hang of FB and yes I find this site easier to navigate around. I have set up a separate folder in my outlook email for all my FB emails… I used the “Rules & Alerts” under “Tools” to set up a rule to filter off any emails coming in with “facebook” in the title. It keeps them all together and away from all my other emails.

Hi Juli, welcome.

Heather – what a cute Lola photo, and no I cannot remember “The Railroad Runs through the Middle of the House” Good luck for the scan.

Denise – hope you are not too tired with going back to work. I still sometimes have wee snooze in the afternoon after work and I went back in Feb! I’m sure ice-cream is allowed, full of calcium which is essential for your bones!!!

Maria – glad you are coping. It’s time things went your way for a change. I do still definitely agree with “one day at a time” sometimes it’s the only way to do things. Holidays don’t have to mean going away, doing things you want or with your family is a holiday too.

Sandra – love the tortoise. Am off to see my Mum at the weekend, she had 2 tortoises still from when I was a child. We have no idea how old they are. They are loose in their garden and our dogs never know what to make of them if they come across one.

That’s enough for now. Hi to everyone else. I am reading on FB but never feel I have much to add, but it is good to know how everyone is getting on.

Hugs from Jill

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Hi Ladies, been chatting to Sandra, Carol and Fiona on FB, I read something on FB then click Ive lost it lol
Went to the hospital Wednesday, I am not sure what he said about the right leg, but I have got a bad varicose vein in that one. The Docter that did it was more concerned about my left leg, I asked him what he had found, I knew he had found something because he kept going back to that leg. Anyway he said the valves were compouned in the main vein at the back of my knee. He said the blood was flowing up but when it got to the valve instead of it flowing to my heart it was dropping back down. He said he would send the report to my consultant that evening and I should hear fron him in the next couple of weeks. It as really come at a bad time though because FIL as his op a week on Monday, just hope my appointment don’t coincide with him being in hospital.
Jill, glad you had a nice few days away, it is nice to get away sometimes.
Carol, did you get your forms filled ? I hate filling forms in. Your hair does look lovely in that picture on FB.
Sandra, it is sun shining here now, hope it stays nice for my daughters school summer fair, sorry you’ve missed your picnic, you will have to have sports day in your garden when the weather picks up.
Dee, I read about you burning your self, hope its getting better, where did you find some sun lol glad work is going ok.
Maria, you do sound really positive at the minute, that is good. I am with you at remembering everybody on FB, but I am soon confused. What confuses me is the different names people have on Fb I am never sure who is who lol love all your small statements at the end of your post, especialy ‘dont google anything’, I googled what the docter had said about my legs and I shouldn’t have, sorry :frowning:
Well better go and dry my hair, thought I had better come on the thread and let you know how I got on at the hospital.
Take Care,
LOve Heather,
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Hi Girls , welcome to Juli ,very sorry you are here. Oh Sandra , we all hate it when you are down , ifonly we all lived closer . Hope things work out for you . This time last year Juli , many were going through their treatment , and we all had days when we desparetly needed virtual hugs and words of encouragement from our friends , all of whom understood exactly where we were coming from , whereas , family and uninvolved friends , bless them , just cannot , with the best will in the world appreciate our moods.
Like you jackie , I want to get rid of all the email alerts about Fb , becauuse it´s becoming a bit of a nuisance at the moment . In fact I´m far more comfortable here , than I am there . I know you all , and we´ve been through so much together , you´re more than friends …“I´m More Than Freeman !” ( my surname is Freeman .) Well done completing an aerobics class ! My Pilates starts again in September , but I must get and do something energetic before that …And using a toothbrush ,Sandra , Nell is´nt energetic enough , not even an Oral B with Everready .
So the Duplex was seeing brain activity in your legs ? Or have I got that all arse backwards Heather , good job is was’nt on a man ,. I really dread to think where they would have to check for brain activity ! Are they going to be able to do something to make you more comfortable now they know what it is . Adore your photo of the lushest Lola …what a doll !
Fancy cheating about Toby ? I would never have guessed or known . It’s brilliant . Cannot believe you found something so exactly what we were talking about .
Girls I am not going in anyone’s basket ! Especially not Heather’s . With her track record for accidents …no way ! I’m enough of a basket case now !!
So glad you keep popping back Maria , please don’t leave us , in a way you are our mentor and we need you . You’re part of all our lives , you and your boys .
I love Oban . My elder son used to live in Mull , so I had to go to Oban to catch the ferry . Fabulous fish and chips !! * Oh God , me and my stomach again! Your suggestions about the email alerts sounds good , but terribly technical , I’ll see if jackie manages it first , go on jackie , have a go !Thank you for your kind words about Archie , there’s not a day goes by that I don’t think of him . I’m waiting for some feedback from his new family .

Talking of dogs , which I was even if you were’nt ! Yesterday I was not far from here when i saw a staffie on its own . Well thats not good in Spain as they are classed as dangerous dogs and if caught , put to sleep . So I got out of my car and followed her * I saw it was a “bitch " . Went up to her and she nuzzled into me , so we wondered down the road , thankfully now going away from the main road > I’m thinking to myself , " Oh s ~~~~! I cannoot leave her here , I’m going to have to take her home , OH will blow a fuse , Jack will be in seventh heaven !” She was black and white ,big , lovely but obviously old . The all of a sudden a youngish chap appeared , " Oh god , there you are , the kids have left the gate open again , look at me , I’ve only got my pants on ." He was so emabarrassed , explained that she was profoundly deaf , so did’nt hear when called , * I’ve got an OH like that …but thats called “selective hearing .” He kept on about hispants , I said " Don’t worry , I’m not bothered about you in your pants , its the dog I’m interested in !" Thats when I realised I was old !! Cos he was fit !!
In the hospital today with OH . First traumatology cos he has a problem with his neck , then ugencias , cos one of his stitches from the plastic surgery on his face to remove the tumour , was’nt taken out , it was missed , so it’s been in three weeks . Tried to get an appointment at the local clinic , with the nurse , nothing , not even on monday , so we were told to go there . Obviously we had a long wait . At one stage I said to OH , “Well at least you’re not ill like some of these , they’ve all got a drip next to them .” He turned to me and said , " I’ve had a drip next to me for over 40 years !! "
So his neck was bad before ?? !!

Love you all
KangaXXXXXXXXXXXX
When I was out yeste

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Hello from me!

I am not going to even attempt to catch up on the gossip/news as will take me til Sunday, but wanted to check in, say hi and send my love to everyone, especially Maria!

Will make a concerted effort to check in and keep up. Don’t want to lose touch.

Anyone seen my poetry thread? Go have a look. I am just such a cultured thinky person nowadays :wink:

Hugs to all

Vickie
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Hi Ladies,
Thank goodness it is Friday, been a teary, teary week!

Jill, You reminded me, my friend and her husband and her brother and his wife went to Oban one year, her Mum made her and her brother go in seperate cars, in case they had an accident, said she couldn’t live if she lost both of them!! this was 30 odd years ago, my friend and l still laugh about it!
So very jealous your Mum has two tortoises, l have been looking for another, think it would have to be a girl, seems two boys bang their shells together!! sounds more like a mating thing!! seen lots but they are too young, need a mature one!

Heather, lovely chatting this morning, never got my work finished, dil phoned and asked if l could have grandson, while she sorted her Mums house out, don’t realised how much stuff there is to sort out!
Sounds like you need to call the plumber in with those legs of yours!!

Kanga, could you imagine if we all lived closer, it would be coffee at 11 every morning!! then an afternoon tipple!!
Oh really must find a Pilate group, use to have loads around here, but can’t find any at the moment, all Zumba or something!!
The tortoise profile was amazing, couldn’t believe it when l put tortoise in and this came up!!
Bit of a magnet to Dogs Kanga!!! keep it clean!!!
My Yankie is deaf, l still call her, but she takes no notice!! just an age thing, once l couldn’t open the fridge without her being there! now l can stand behind her and rattle the biscuit tin and no response!! at least the fire works don’t frighten her anymore!! not much consolation! l get a bit sad when l think she cant hear me saying ‘l love you’ as l do!! but hope she can lip read!!

Hi to everyone else, hope you all have a good weekend.
Hugs to all
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Morning ladies,

Yes FB can be a bit hard to keep up with can’t it! (despite having a ‘who’s who’ lol).

More space to chat here too…

Jill we went to Oban last year during our mini Scotland tour on chemo (pics on FB); it’s a lovely place isn’t it and would love to go back one day. We stayed in the Caledonia overlooking the harbour, had a suite on the top floor and the views were stunning.

Sandra, Tracey I know you’ve had a teary week so more (((hugs))) for you both, and some more for our K too (((hugs))) and anybody else that needs them (((hugs))) - please help yourself.

Work is going ok - people have started to say “I’m so glad you’re back”, before giving me loads of work… it’s all gradually coming back to me and starting to feel like I’ve never been off!
Not too tired as only doing two day a week at the mo(Tues & Fri) but they are full days when you include the 60 mile commute driving.

I’m off to Blackpool today with my son, mum and dad, having fish and chips too! Forget the WW today, need the carbs in the batter for tomorrows Race for Life - well tha’s my excuse anyway!

Must go and take OH a cuppa and get him up before the in-laws arrive,

Love & more (((Hugs))) to you all,

Nell xxx

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morning, ladies

Jill-weeds, weeds weeds, it’s like painting the Forth Bridge!!
don’t know why my back is ok some days and bad other times. last Sunday I could hardly walk so just shuffled round the allotment giving out orders to son and OH what needed doing. OH transplanted 2 rows of cabbage seedlings and now he can hardly walk!! his back is worse than mine cos he’s minus a disc. still, the cabbages are looking good!
yes, Heather I posted my form off. if we are refused this time I will give up trying as our financial situation won’t change now unless we win the lottery then I won’t care !!
Kanga, loved your story, what ARE you like?
I managed to sort my e-mail messages thanks to Pam. whenyou are on FB. go to accounts (top right hand corner) -account settings-choose notifications-scroll down to groups-click on change email settings to include groups-untick breast friends. easy peasy, if I can do it etc.
finally, Nell, hope you have a nice bracing day in Blackpool and lots of fish & chips to set you up for tomorrow. weather forcast sounds better for tomorrow in Mchr, so, good luck.

off to Asda

love Carol xx

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Hi everyone. Glad you managed to sort the deluge of emails Carol. It was really getting to me!
My tiny veg patch is full of weeds despite my constant attention. It had been neglected land before so will take a while I think. Pleased with the produce so far though and lots more to come. I’m not experienced like some of you allotment holders.
Hugs to those that need them today. Love Pam x