Hi ladies, well who as got rain and who as got sun ? we have got both.Thanks for the info ladies for getting rid of the emails on FB, I have changed my settings so I hope it works, I have just deleted 176, I will check tomorrow see if I have done it right.
Sandra, hope your feeling a bit better today, have the tears stopped? hope so. It is awful when something starts you, I was like that last weekend, I was just really down but I am not sure why. Hope your DIL got her mums house sorted, you dont realise how much stuff they have, and it is really upsetting. It was lovely chatting with you and Carol yesterday, pity were not close enough for the occasional coffee 
Dee, fish and chips in Blackpool boo woo 
I love fish and chips at the seaside, hope you have a nice day though.
Carol, I don’t envy you having a bad back, I understand how you feel. Sounds like your doing a good job of ordering your men folk about in the allotment lol Hubby as grown some veg in our garden this year, I desprately wanted some home grown potatoes, he planted some and we have had 2 boilings of them so far.We have had beetroot, spring onions, radish and lettuce, tomorrow for dinner we are having carrots and potatoes out of the garden, you cant beat home grown veg.Hope you get some luck this time with your forms.
Kanga, do you go out looking for strays, or is it just your kind nature they find you, perhaps they think your lost lol Well if you dont want to go in my basket you can stand on the back, you will be safe unless I cross the road, or have to swerve quick round someone then I might tip you off. Probably you better get an helmet and some elbow and knee pads, beter safe than sorry.
Pam, you need to get work men like our Carol to work on your allotment,
Vickie, nice to see you back on the thread, not seen the poetry thread of yours I will have a look for it.
Maria, hope your ok, just seen your post on Fb and I am a bit confused. I hope everything is ok and your not leaving this thread are you? ((((((((hugs ))))))) incase you need them.
Well take care all of you,
Love Heather,
XXXXXXX
OK girls, back to “normal”
Heather, I think you have got very posh legs, it all sounds quite amazing, I am a nurse and I didn’t know so many things could be going on with legs. I hope they don’t hurt. Are they still red ? I will send you a pm to explain why I have left “breast friends”.
Kanga, you are just crazy; about to adopt another dog and his fit owner !! What a cheek, your OH, living with a drip, who has he been living with ? drip does not describe our Kanga.
Jill, I am glad you had a good holiday and just with OH, that’s nice, we never did that, never went away together without the boys, probably should have. The only problem about being at home and on holiday, is you see the dust and all the little jobs that need doing, so I need another mantra to make sure I remember that I am on holiday, I will have to be very strict with myself. Answers on a postcard please.
Vickie, I love your poem thread, there are quite amazing poems, some very moving and some very funny.
Sandra, sorry to hear you had a bad week, we do have difficult times to deal with sometimes, it just seems so unfair.
Tracey, things have been difficult for you too, pour it all out girl, and you will feel better for it, even if it is just for a while.
Little Nell, enjoy your fish and chips and have a chip for me. Have a good run tomorrow, I will be routing for you. And a big thank-you for your initiative on fb.
Carol, Just a thought, do you drink enough ? Apparently when we are ever so slightly dehydrated the fist thing to loose water in the cartilage between the bones in the back. I learned to drink lots and lots during my chemo in 2003 and since then I have always tried to drink lots and my back pain is less !! No Kanga not G+T, but water !!
Pam, thanks for the hugs and good luck with the weeding.
Karen, I hope all is as well as it can be for you
Jackie, Isabelle, Suze, Lesley,Gill, Patricia and Anne I hope you are well, please forgive me if I have missed anything important.
Group hug, love Maria
Hi Girls , bit of a funny day today , but loved all your news . Must try again to sort out the emails from FB , it´s just too much !!I will try what Jill and carol say , did have a go yesterday but to no avail.
Met up with a good friend today , she is the person i take over from on Tuesday at the charity , also one of my models for the fashion show . Lovely girl , 52 ,looks 35 , slim size 8-10 …hate her guts !! So had a bit of a chin wag at the market , she will be doing the new pilates class when it starts in the autumn . Was pleased to be able to talk to such a bubbly positive girl , cos we have a bit of a problem with a neighbour . Wanted to get our track cleaned and tided up , cos at the moment it looks amess , and one of the neighbours replies …well ! I seem to have touched a raw nerve with my " would´nt it be a good idea …and it will only cost about 38 euros …" He´s come back and told me what he´s done here with his own tools for no thanks and no reward ,and if we are going to pay anybody , why not him ?" Really relly upset me . I´m one of those people who is usually reasonable calm , but when I turn i want to kill , and I really want to go for his throat , but common sense is telling me that I must reply in a calm and reaasonable manne and discuss his claims , whereas ." You s** of a w**** what the F***** f*** do you think you´re on about and just who the hell do you think you´re talking to ? Would you like to detract some of the s*** you wrote or do you want me to tell the world that you´´re not really a builder as you claim , but in fact when you arrived her 12 years ago you were actually a long distance lorry driver , after being a hair dresser , and also you´ve never paid either spanish taxes or the local tax sine you´ve been here you w****´s son !!
What a dilemma ? Do I go fro broke , or do I go the diplomatic route ? Decisions decisions ! I think I´ll take the middle ground and just temper itr a little . Actually , although I´m joking , it´s really upset me , I slept very little the last two nights because of this . We are talking about pulling up a load of weeds , is life for him so tedious , cos I know lots of very deserving ladies who would do so much more given life than that useless piece of c*** !
Vickie , I absolutely loved youor poem , thought it was wonderful , but it did bring tears to my eyes .
I , perhaps like a few others , prefer this thread to FB , so glad Maria that you are not leaving us . I think we all who are not working , appreciated vrey much that some of you are having to start back at work and have very full lives away from the trauma of BC , but we do appreciate thet you are not leaving us , despite getting on with your lives . I just feel that you and I , together have been through so much , but sometimes I don´t want to be reminded of just how awful last year was . Selfish , Yes I think so , but I can only do so much , Juli has come on here and like you all , I will support her as best I can and cheer her through her treatment , but I annot cope with hearing the dread details of lots of poor girls going through this journey , if that makes me a bit of a "lightweight , " then I really am sorry , but sometimes on FB it´s so doom and gloom , I just cannot cope and come away feeling so low .
Tomorrow is another day , and i will proberbly feel great , so ignore the prattlings of a confused mind !!
luv to you all
kangaxxxxxxxxxx
I tend not to come on this BCC site very often - agreeing with Kanga I find it very difficult to hear the newly diagnosed ladies etc going through what they are - it does hit a raw nerve with me too - maybe I am just going through a sensative patch but I find it easier not to read stuff rather than letting stuff dwell on my mind (which it does). I think there is a way of just coming straigtht to this thread which I havent quite fathomed out yet and then I wouldn’t have to see posts and be tempted to have a read! I like facebook as I tend to go on every day and it brings up stuff for me immediately so its easy on the eye and the brain! I am getting a bit confused with all the posts on the breast friends though and I think its getting a bit out of hand.
We put our house up for sale this week (had first viewing today) so madly cleaning everthing - even polilshed the taps! The house we are renervating is coming on a treat now - next week having the conservatory build and the week after the kitchen installed - the bathroom is currently being done - so hoping to move in around September time - hopefully by then our house will be sold - so as well as working full time, am really busy with getting stuff and chosing paints/curtains/carpets etc which is really enjoyable but expensive! saffron x
Hi ladies,
Kanga I understand you, I am very much the same (are you sure were not related lol) I am very placid, nothing bothers me much, and it takes a lot to make me angry, but when I go I am terrible. A red mist definately comes down and I just go balistic. I bet I can count how many times I have gone like that, I just don’t have a temper, but I hate unfairness. Your neighbour sounds like a bit of an a**Se h**e are you sure its not my ex lol think maybe you should wait a while before you tackle him, dont want to visit you in a spanish jail lol I can really understand how you feel, and it will play on your mind till youve sorted it, perhaps some kind of sarcasm (A cutting, often ironic remark intended to wound) I copied the meaning for you, thought that sounded good lol
Saffron, wow you are going to be busy, sounds like your going to have a lovely place when its finished. Watch what your doing though, and dont do to much
Guess what I did today, I had a go on the euro millions last night, checked the numbers this afternoon, all I had was 2 numbers on one line, so I riped it in half. Then I looked at the prize breakdown and you won something for 2 numbers, well I didn’t know that. Told hubby what I had done, and he said you sure youve not won the jackpot lol so he said I have got to ring someone so he rang my daughter, my grandson answered, said is mum wasn’t there so hubby said ‘your grandma as won on the euromillions and ripped the ticket up, its a good job it wasn’t the jackpot or I would put her in a home’ lol then my grandson gave my daughter such a jumbled message so she rang. I told her what had happened and I was laughing, she was telling her hubby and he’d had 2 numbers and threw it away, he didn’t know you won something for 2 numbers, so its not just me lol
Well peeps have a nice Sunday,
Love Heather xxxxxxxxxx
Just sending Kay a message of support for her recent surgery.
Do hope you’re being looked after and feeling as comfortable as possible.
I’m afraid I hadn’t realised your situation until I read a recent posting on the ‘relationship breakdown’ thread. Really really sorry to hear about your situation.
Do hope your new partner will continue to support you through this continuing nightmare…
Good wishes and good luck.
Hello to everyone else on this thread.
This ‘moving forward’ after treatment finally ends is not always such a smooth pathway is it?
Hoping for an easier pathway for all of us very soon…
Wx
Thanks for popping in Wendy. I hope you are well.
Love Maria
Oh Saffie , wish I could say that we were somewhat nearer to selling ! Twelve months and only had about 8 to view, soooooooo many for sale and of coursethere´s so little money around . Tends to be belgium ´s that view , but they want the world !Sick of polishing taps and losing things , which I seem to do everytime someone comes around . I chuck the stuff under the beds and in cupboards , but it´s never three when I come to get it out . Reckon it´s those blasted rats again !!
Saffie , if you just want to come onto this site , as I mainly do . I think you click the top right hand side of the thread where it says "add to my favourits " or something similar , I cannot remember exactly . Then when you sign in , it´s got a thingy for in-boxes and favorite disscusions , click that and "embarking " should come up and you can get straight in here without having to go through latest posts or anything a bit scary ! Well , it´s something like that anyway ! You know me .
Glad FB is sorted .
My OH said I must go the dip`lomatic route ie keep mouth shut !! Not too happy about that , really would like to tell neighbour´s fortune , but I suppose i must let it lie .
I had a real Kanga moment this morning , but I have´nt time to tell you now , cannot believe myself , just what I did . I don´t get better !
I did´nt know you won something for two numbers Heather , what do you get ?
Hi Welsh Girl , you´ve not been here much recently . everything ok with you I hope ? No I agree , we all thought that after the actual treatment finished all would be "back to normal , " but it does´nt work that way at all .
I´m finding at the moment , that if I´m not at the hosp . then I´m there with my OH , gets a bit tedious . I hate the fact that I know all the short cuts around the hospital !! Thats scary .
Have to go now , done nothing for dinner and it is sooo hottt . They reckon tomorrow it will be over 40% . I´m staying in !!
luvKangaX
Hi everyone, I broke my dominant arm at Christmas (on the ice) which has left my hand really weak with loads of soft tissue damage. Having treatment every week which is only now improving…so any activities using my hand had to come to a standstill! Using a knife/scissors was impossible to grip, so cooking was extremely limited!!! Also no artwork since…
Did have some lovely holidays away in May/June but came back with a virus and a real collapse with M.E. symptoms which are constantly leaving me aching/fatigued/empty!
So life isn’t that rosy and mammogram is looming…
Two year anniversary is approaching and I’ve been reliving those early days in quite fine detail…
Recognising this I’ve come back on the forums in a big way!!!
I do a small amount of activity then have a rest by sitting at the computer several times a day and obviously can’t resist a post if I feel it’s appropriate…
In the past, I’ve read more and posted far less as work and voluntary jobs (with cancer charities) has taken up more of my time.
Life does change after BC but it’s wonderful to know I can pop back here when I need to and offer support, receive support and generally improve my knowledge of diet/lifestyle choices to improve recovery.
So glad you’re all able to support each other still.
You are a very loyal group.
Best wishes to you all and keep on with that road of recovery…
Wx
Like you Kanga, I’m at the hospital more and more but with unrelated BC issues. Do hope your OH is improving…and you too.
Hi ladies, well I don’t know if I have caught Sandras teary week but are full of them today. Had a real sh**ty day, just felt poorly, been in and out of bed. Then my daughter rang me tonight in floods, a good friend of hers was due to give birth to her baby this week. She was talking to her on Friday, telling her they haven’t found out what sex the baby is because they have a 3 year old little boy and they wanted to suprise him with either a brother or a sister. Well she went to the hospital today, they have been keeping a check on her because she had a miscarriage. She is also a nurse so she as had plenty of checks. The baby was due this Friday, but she was all prepared to go any time because her little boy was early. So she went today for her last check and there was no heart beat, the baby has died. My daughter was in a right state, how the girl feels I cannot begin to understand, the thing is they have given her a tablet and sent her home to go into labour. They have told her is she hasn’t gone into labour by Wednesday they will induce her. It is just so awful to think she has to give birth to this baby, going through labour and everything knowing the baby has died. Life isn’t fair sometimes is it, but I think we all know that. I hope you dont mind me coming on here and bothering you ladies, I just wanted to talk, and I am still not sure about how FB works yet. Sorry to moan but I just feel quite sad at the minute, I feel so sorry for them all, I just can’t think what they are going to tell that little boy, he is 3 and as been waiting for his brother or sister to be born. Still as they say life goes on.
Love Heather, xxxxxxxxx
hat a sad, sad story, Heather. wouldn’t begin to imagine how I would cope with that. you moan away, if you can’t do it here you can’t do it anywhere. hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Wendy, no wonder you’ve been quiet with all that going on
I think all of us are drifting back to this thread, it’s kind of like a comfort blanket with a bit of insanity (yes you Kanga) thrown in.
looking forward to hearing about you latest adventure, Kanga. it had better be worth it! diplomatic isn’t the first word that pops into my head!!
good luck with your house sale, Saffy. are you moving far?
Maria, you might be right about the water and back pain, but I drink 2 litres of filtered water every day. I think I need to find some excersises to do as I always feel good when I have been to the gym or swimming, but my back seems to stiffen up in between.
Herceptin number 11 for me tomorrow, so at least I’ll get a sit down for a couple of hours!
love to everyone
Carol
I was on my way to bed, when I saw your post Heather, goodness that is just so so sad. I really don’t know what to say. There is nothing worse than loosing a child, and to have to give birth to a baby that has died, its just too horrid to imagine.
Carol, you are right, it is like a comfort blanket here, as long as you just come here and don’t go reading all the other threads, that can be just too frightening, I do hope your back feels better soon.
Kanga, I am looking forward to hearing your latest, I have still not forgiven you for not taking that fit man home with you (and his dog)
Wendy, you must be careful which threads to go to too, or you will get into a state, but you are always welcome here.
Hugs to all who read this
Maria
Oh Heather, that is so very sad. That poor girl and family. Sending you a big hug…you are not moaning at all, talk away. xx
Welsh Girl, you have had alot on your plate…hope you are feeling stronger very soon.
Kanga - am watching this space to hear about your Kanga moment!
G’night Maria, sleep well.
S x
Darlings so sorry to hear your news sending you love and hugs soory had many trys at this but server not working here or FB here goes love and hugs
More (((Hugs))) coming your way from me Heather; just so very sad. Happened to one of my friends, she had to give birth and then she had a funeral too; just unthinkable and can’t imagne what they must go through.
Nell xxx
Heather, just can’t say much! too many memories, l had two friends that this happened to about 30 years ago, sadly one Mum died while giving birth to her stillborn son! the other Mum still remembers her son every day, she couldn’t have any more children and it was her first. heartbreaking xxx
Sandra and Heather that is all so sad it still seems that despite men having been to the moon that we are still loosing little babes. Hugs J xx
Sending (((((((((((hugs)))))))))) to you Heather, what an awful tragedy, poor lady. Makes you remember how fragile we all are.
Also sending hugs to anyone else who wants one. Still busy with work 7 more get ups then it’s the 6 week holidays, thank goodness.
Had a very teary weekend (mainly cos I sent for some new dresses for the Suze Cruise) and when I put them on they looked awful with my bloated tummy so ended up in floods of ‘feel sorry for myself’ tears. I now realise I have a problem as I keep buying clothes by the million and I think it’s to try and find the new me or something not really sure, anyway I have to stop before my house sinks with all the new clothes!! Why can’t I just wear pj’s ???
Moan over, I know other people have more significant problems.
Anyways it’s late so off to bed
Hugs Suze xxxxxx
Hi Ladies thanks for your huggs and messages, think it as just been one of those weeks for me this week. Getting worked up about FIL’s op next Monday also. He rang yesterday afternoon said guess what, I hate it when he says that. Well they had cancelled his op because his white blood cells were to low, said they would book him in after about 3 weeks. Then low and behold not 30 minutes later he rang again, the op is now back on, the surgeon didn’t want him waiting another 2 weeks so there going to give him a blood transfusion before the op. Daughters friends not had the baby yet, it is so awful. Your poor friend Sandra, and not being able to have any more children.
Suze, I know just how your feeling, I buy clothes and I look like a badly stuffed sofa I hate it. At the monent I cant just get my head round anything, just wish something good would happen, oh boy I am a right misery sorry. My daughter came to see me this morning hubby had asked to come round and try and talk me into going to the doctors. It is my legs or hip I am not sure, the injection in my hip didn’t work this time. It is a pain like tooth ache, it just dont go away,I just don’t like to keep bothering him.
I might see if I can get an appointment tomorrow.
Well take care everyone, I will try to be a bit happier next time,
Love Heather,
xxxxxxxxxxx
Hi Ladies,
Oh Heather, keep thinking of that poor lady, having to go through so much heartache…
As for your legs/hips Heather, get yourself to the doctor, you will make him redundant!!
Besides your bloated tummy, you must be very excited Sue! what is the bloating due to? l’m not bloated, just fat from eating what l shouldn’t and doing too little excercise!! can you not deflate?
Oh and the chance to meet Kanga!! experience of a lifetime!!
Wendy, nice to see you posting, hope you M.E. is easing!! if it can? two year anniversary!! wow, hope the mamo goes well for you xxx
Maria, How are things? any more forward to finding somewhere nice for Seba? and when does number 1 son and pfdil come to visit? you will be rushed off your little feet!! l am sure they are all very helpful! even if it is keeping out of your way!! be lovely having them with you for the summer.
Hope everyone else is ok, and if Sue comes on asking you to look for a moon! don’t bother getting out of your chair!!
Lady l was in hospital with had an appointment with the onc yesterday, think l have mentioned before our onc does tumour marker blood tests, well hers had gone up, so he did a scan and she has more cancer on her liver, only had one small one at first now she has two large ones and a small one, so he is changing her tablets as they are obviously not working! so everything crossed for her, she is a lovely lady, and we often go out to lunch, she doesn’t stop talking!! talk the hind legs off a donkey! wonder where that saying comes from?
Hugs all round to you lovely ladies, and anyone reading!
xxx