Yes, i feel the biggest loss of identity it is unreal. I think ‘health’ was always an element of my personality & now feel that has been taken away from me too.
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Yes I get that completely… it’s not what you want for your 40th is it and the uncertainty is horrible I’m still trying to get far away from it because it does get easier you almost forget you went through it but I think that’s my brain shielding me because to keep reliving it is making you suffer. I’m sad that I can’t be back in that bubble looking at like my inlaws for example old happy & pottering around the garden, you always think it’s a given until it isn’t. Xx
I empathise greatly. I was 36, fit as a fiddle with no family history. I was very shocked. I was triple postive so had the full raft of treatment and thrown into menopausal symptoms instantly. I am now years down the line. I learnt quickly to not focus on why and keep busy and found a new way of managing the new, different me. I sank myself into work and focused on exercise. I started running and found that was the best thing to manage my physical and emotional symptoms. I also found planning things to look forward to helped focus on positive, mindset such as holidays, trips to friends. It’s not easy but you will adapt and settle into moving forward. It just takes time to find what works for you.. I wish you all the best.
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That’s so nice to hear, I’m ready I think, to start running again we have woods at the back of the house, that’s actually how I found the lump when I was out running xx
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I just don’t want to live like this or with the ‘uncertainty’. I am miserable everyday.
I don’t understand how we can send people to the moon, complete sex changes yet don’t know what causes cancer. I know of 3 - 4 people in my age group taken by this beast & I just don’t know why.
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@sbee sending you a hug my love. xxx
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How are you doing? Xx
I found this incredibly uplifting to read, thank you!
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Sbee, it’s me again. When I was first diagnosed, I thought “why me”. 15 years ago I had a blood clot at the base of my brain, lost the use of my legs and couldn’t see. I was very ill but the type of stroke I had kills 98%, leaves 1% with locked in syndrome and 1% may survive. I was so determined it was not going to get me and two years later my sight returned, I learned to walk again and, today, strangers would never know what happened. 8 years ago I developed chronic adult onset asthma with ambulances coming to the house 3 times a week on average to save my life. 4 years ago I was asked to trial a new injection. I have them every 8 weeks and have never had an asthma attack since. You can image therefore how I felt when the third whammy 2 years ago was cancer! I dug deep, and here I am, treatments finished, medication for life but I’m finding a way through with the help of a great husband, and friends.
Sbee the people who have lost their lives to this ugly disease are far, far outnumbered by survivors who have gone on to live great lives and appreciating every moment. I know you can find it in you, with help, to be one of those survivors. I send you love, hope and hugs in equal measures. GIllian
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@sbee My heart goes out to you, I can remember these days so well, wishing you well. Please remember we understand how you are feeling, wish I could take you pain away.
Love and hugs Tili 
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