Hi everyone
As someone who has recently been told they have liver mets (and had no symptoms at all and in fact had never felt better, probably because I hadn’t had any hormone ‘therapy’ for a while), I do feel very sad that you are worrying so much.
I would urge you to do your very best not to. Living in a state of permanently heightened anxiety every day is physically and mentally exhausting and will destroy your quality of life every bit as much as SEs from treatment.
My fear is in a box and every now and again I take it out and look at it and then put it away again. I’m busy living and despite weekly chemo I feel well, if a little tired and have carried on working and - more importantly - playing!
You only get one life - live it - there are no rehearsals. Be alert for symptoms, but don’t worry yourselves sick, literally.
I would also suggest that the primary diagnosis and several drastic treatments (surgery, chemo and rads) in a very short space of time are a lot to get over. An onc once told me it can take a good two years from the end of all that to starting to feel anything remotely like normal. Our bodies take a terrible pounding and then there’s the stress and shock of a diagnosis to cope with as well. It’s no wonder that we can be beset by all kinds of genuine (but not sinister) aches, pains, niggles and worries as a consequence.
It’s hard to do, but I try to emulate my OH who ‘never looks back’, never says ‘if only’ or ‘what if’, just deals with what’s in front of him at any given time, goes forward all and doesn’t go looking for problems. I’ve found this helps quite a lot.
But I often find myself ‘bargaining’ with God, too! - do you think he feels as tho’ he’s being nagged? ![:slight_smile: :slight_smile:](https://bcnproduction.discoursehosting.net/images/emoji/twitter/slight_smile.png?v=12)
And in my more philosophical moments I can see that I’m not the first person in the world who’s been dealt a s***t hand and I surely won’t be the last.
The two week rule is a useful one, I feel. Thanks for reminding us, Val. Sukes, I would get your neck and shoulder pain checked out for your own peace of mind.
Thinking of you all and wishing you a peaceful night.
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