I probably shouldn’t be typing this now as I’ve had a couple of glasses of wine but I’m getting really fed up of waiting. I’ve waited for core biopsie results, then waited for lumpectomy results and now waiting for re-excision results. I am fed up! My boobs look ok at the mo and I do not want a MX! Thats my next step according to my cons. After last time they said if the cells have continued to move we’ll move forward - I don’t want to move forward I want to stop now!! Can I get off this bus? Sorry - just having a bad moment. will be better after Tuesday (hopefully). This is so shitty and why do I have to have it!! More aaagh!!
Thank god OH is being more caring than he’s ever been - mind you I would love rampent sex and he thinks I need kid gloves, so gentle!
Sorry - just needed to say it…
Katie
Katie, I, like you, had to have a re-excision in order to get clear margins. The wait was awful and I even told my surgeon to take the boob off if it was easier! Luckily my margins were clear and I have very little scarring or deformity from the 2 surgeries. At the time, I was so blase about telling them to whip the breast off, but now I don’t know how I’d cope with it, especially when I read some of the ladies comments on here and how difficult (understatement) it has been for them. Yes, there IS more to sex than a breast but it’s still part of who you are, how you see yourself, and how others see you. I just told (tell) myself that if a mastectomy is my only course of action, to prolong my life, then so be it. But what a rotten prospect to face anyway, this bc is c**p, isn’t it?
Really hope you get the news you want on Tuesday, no-one can blame you for feeling so desperate. Once you know the results, you’ll at least know what happens next. Let us know how you get on and you’ll get plenty of advice and support on here.
Pat x
Hi Katie
The waiting is always the worse.
As Pat said some of the women on here have had a hard time but do know other women personally who have coped well with it.
Think its really hard as the media seams to think tits are everything
Maybe I’ve been lucky but for me my bobs have never been of much interest when it comes to sex (my least erogenous zone). Of even more importance is the fact that for both of my “physical activaties buddies”
(following divorce was not into relationships but somehow ended up meeting these lovely men and developed these casual liasons, didnt expect either to last more than a month or so 2 and 3 years later still on, and both considerably younger than me)
my bobs are of minor importance, so no it does not have to be the end of sex. I may also add that both seam to think that my enjoyment is a darn site more important than theirs.
Will be thinking of you on tuesday, and why not ask your man for what you want (ok thats a tough one I certainly couldnt do it but maybe a little seduction or text him) remember men are rubbish at hints its got to be obvious.
Take care
gx
hi Katie
Wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow. I know how hard it s to hear that you will have to have an mx and will be thinking of you. Let us know how you get on and I hope that you get the result you want tomorrow.
Love
Jane x
Hi I’m a 34(tomorrow) year old woman ,mum of 3. I’ve had problems with my boobs for 2 years. It as taken me so long just to be taken seriously . One of the problems was a blood stained discharge. The others were: Lumps , soreness and itching. I was first seen in 2007 , I had 3 visits to clinic . first I was asked my history ,sent for a scan , and sent home. Not once was I asked to produce the discharge. At the end of 3 visits I was discharged. January 09 I was seen at a new clinic , the procedure was the same for the first visit. I was scanned ,and then seen by a doctor, who told me There was no discharge . His advice was , to wear a sports bra ,and to stop drinking tea. Visit number 2 was different , I was so angry I demanded that he took a sample of the discharge . This was done ,and he booked another scan 4 day’s later.
At the scan I was told I had a small cyst that needed no further treatment!!! A week later ,I had another appointment with the same doctor , he said that I needed a fine Fna to get the fluid to be tested. In the scan it was decided that it was not a cyst ,and I needed a core test. This was done , in clinic I was told that the discharge contained blood. Two weeks later 5/08/09 , I was told that the core biopsy of the nodule confirmed that it could be a fibroadenoma , after a short chat the consultant booked me in for a Hadfields procedure . This was done on the 7/08/09. I’am now waiting for the results!!! I’m worried now this as been going on now for too long. How long do these test take, I know that the bleeding is serious , also fibroadenoma often are cancer. Any advise or anyone who is going through something like this . Thanks Paula
Hi Paula - I’m so sorry you’ve had to wait so long and had such bad treatment, it’s c**p isn’t it. Can you speak with a BC nurse at the clinic to explain what’s been happening and to see if she can give you some answers or at least time scales? The BCNs are really good at my clinic and always happy to answer any questions.
Thanks for your thoughts Pat, G and Jane.
I got my results and they were a mixed bag. I don’t have to go back for surgery again (hooray). Margins were clear and whilst they found more DCIS they removed it. I hadn’t asked previously what grade the DCIS was and today I was told it was high. Also told I had signs of lymphovascular invasion. I have a break and then will start chemo for 6 months followed by 5 weeks radiotherapy, Tamox for 5 years, possibly an oophorectomy.
take care everyone
Katie
Paula
Just wanted to say have a lovely birthday.
Take care
Katie x