Hi Kittyhawk
thought your name was a bird so have been looking ‘kittyhawk’ up in my bird book (for quizzes) to see what type of bird you are but its not there so no further foreward!!!
These days I try not to take life too seriously, I just literally 'get on with it ’ each day.
I was diag. last july, had 7 chemos, wle, full node removal, 1 node affected then 3 weeks rads in March/april. Am 53. So its all over is it???, well yes, for now at least. I look at it that last year was, quality wise, non-existant. It was b. awful in lots of ways as everyone knows. I am on Arimidex and get pains in lower leg and body aches includng my hands. I feel my body has aged as it constantly reminds me. My hair is slowly getting there, although the new growth has a life of its own and sticks out, bit like an ostrich really…I am forever trying to plaster it down but it springs back up…
I know that this life is so uncertain, but I refuse to waste what I still have. I didn’t go through last year to give up now or I may as well not have had last year.
I have put on weight, like many others but instead of letting myself go to completely to pot I have joined a gym. I even have a personal trainer (£25 for an hour)… I only plan to use his ‘expertise’ once a month for a couple of months so I know what to aim for as I am not rich enough to keep paying up. He has taken me through some weight training sessions, omg, you should have seen me the day after, …nothing worked, I was in agony… all my muscles were screaming, I couldn’t sit into a chair, I could bend my knees so far and then had to drop into a chair as thigh muscles had seized. Apparently I am getting FIT. Obviously because muscles werent used much last year, lots of time in bed, they are now having a rude awakening. Thankfully the weights are once a week, then twice a week cardio vascular which I find a lot less difficult. I find it helps to have something to aim for and concentrate on. At the gym, I totally ignore the skinnies and the muscle bound , put my music on and just concentrate on whatI have to do, thats all thats important. Even through the pain afterwards I get a buzz that I have done it. My friends at work (I only do 27hrs a week shift work) laughed at the state of me and wondered why I had spent good money to end up hardly able to bend. Needless to say there was little sympathy.
I try not to dwell on things now, yes I have my quiet times where the fear creeps in and then the tears but it passes. I am frightened when I check my boobs but then not checking them won’t change a thing.
Life is tough for many but lying in bed last year I was desperate to feel ‘well’ again and be able to do ‘normal’ things, so that is what I’m going to do for as long as I can. (even the weights… hmmm)
(I have given the trainer leaflets on Arimidex and lymphodema).
As Fozzie says we only get this one life, don’t sit and wait for better things to happen, get out there, think about what you enjoy and go do something to get it started, its hard, but do it. Wish I was better able to express myself. I dont post much now as there are many who don’t like ‘positive’ people, it doesn’t come easy, but I will dig hard to find it.
hugs and lots of understanding
you will get there
just take one step to make a change
Chris x