So today I found out I’ve joined your club too. I met with surgeon who told me the results of my repeated biopsy on the lump is malignant and so is the calcification. I have to have a mastectomy on 1st April with deferred reconstruction as until they know extent of cancer they can’t say if chemo and /or radiotherapy is needed. Was kind of expecting it to be BC but not quite the extent. Was (and have continued to be) calm about it all which threw Consultant somewhat. Telling my parents was so hard and I know telling my 3 girls will be equally tough, feel terrible having to put them all through this distress and worry. The thought it of needing chemo is what is freaking me out most but guess I will deal with it if it comes to it.
Anyway, enough of my ramblings, just wanted to say Hi and thank you in advance as I’m sure these forums will continue to help me keep my sanity. Jules xx
Sorry that you have had to join this group, but you will certainly find great support on here. I was diagnised on 4 march and this week having lots of different scans, then looking at an op and chemo. From what ive seen on here, waiting to know results of the extent of it is the worst part. I’m too worried about chemo, but the ladies on here are quite reassuring on that - some even running between sessions. We are all here for each other as we go through our journeys x
Hi jules, I too found out yesterday that I have BC, mine is very early stages and the outlook is good but I am still shell shocked, Like you I feel so awful at having to put my family through this, my sons are grown ups and I haven’t told them yet but I’m dreading IT as they will be distraught, I’m in a how the hell can this be happening to me moment right now but know this is something I have to do so will find away to deal with it somehow, talking helps and knowing Im not going through it alone, you do feel like it’s just you,hopefully we can help each other
I am sorry to read of your diagnoses, I am sure the support here will be a big help in coping during this difficult time for you and your families. Please also feel free to call our helpliners for further practical and emotional support on 0808 800 6000, lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 10-2 Saturdays
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Sorry you having to go through this. I,m going back today for my results. I have had a recurrence and they need to check for spread. The waiting has been horrendous. Now you know your treatment plan things will get a bit easier for you. It will be a roller coaster ride but you will get through it. Once you have told your girlsit will be easier as well. I found was the hardest part telling my sons but it amazing they way they cope once they get over the shock. Mine were older you don’t say what age yours are but I,m sure they will help you get through it…Keep posting try to keep calm and remember we are always here.xxx
Morning all. Thank you for your lovely messages, its so good to be able to talk to people to know exactly what you are going through. Am trying to keep positive and busy, but admit get waves of panic at times. My girls are 21,19 and 17 and I know will help me through this but how I wish I didn’t have to put them through it. Telling them this week, want to wait until the elder two are home from Uni so at least they aren’t getting the news on their own away from home. The family and friends I have told are bring amazing, poor Mum and Dad took it hard and hubby I think can’t quite take it in. BC nurse phoned me yday to check I was OK and answer some if my questions, what lovely people they are. Really want to know the full extent and what the long term plan is but will have to wait 2-3 weeks after op for all results to be known so looks like mid to end of April before I know for sure. Pre op assessment next Friday and haircut, dentist and GP also so lots to do to keep me occupied. Off today to buy a post surgery bra, which might make it feel a bit less surreal. Love and hugs to you all xx
Sorry to hear you’ve joined our rather unwelcome club but one that is full of lovely ladies. You can also join the Snivel’ club! It’s for us ladies who need a good snivel now and then, not to mention a good meltdown at the most inappropriate times (my specialism!) members must like cocktails and cake and choccies, ti be eaten in quantity when feeling low! Seriusly, all the emotions you have felt and will feel over the next few weeks we’ve all felt I think. Disbelief, feels like it’s happening to someone else, fear, sadness, sometimes anger , why me, I was diagnosed at the end of Jan and it was surreal. Just couldn’t believe it was happening really. It’s a big shock after all and everyone reacts differently. My husband was very upset and my 30 yr old daughter also. It was awful telling her over the phone but as she lives a way from us I couldn’t do it face to face. It will very hard telling your girls and of course they will be upset and very scared but I think you’ll be surprised how strong rhey will be for you. It’s the waiting that’s the worst rhing and when you have BC every week seems like two. Some days I have ‘booby brain’ as I call it! Can’t make a decision about the simplest thing, could cry for England or just can’t get it out of my mind. Normally I’m a sensible business woman. But other days I just get on with things and carry on as before. It’s all very strange really. Waking up in the estly hours with it all going round in your head is to be expected I’m afraid. No wonder so nany ladies post on here early in the morning or sometimes in the small hours! I see my oncologist on Wednesady to agree a treatment plan. i have grade 3 DCIS and invasive but fortunately it hasn’t spread to the nodes. Have had a lumpectomy already and will definitely need radiiotherapy but will know more next week. Waiting again! Anyway, you’ll find heaps of support and really useful tips from the lovely ladies on here. It’s so good to talk to other people who are going thro the same as you, as they understand how you feel. Sending you virtual hugs. Xx
Thank you all for your lovely comments and support. I’m doing ok, just the odd wave of panic. My girls were so thoughtful yday for Mothers Day and I kept thinking how much pain and upset I am going to cause them this week when I break the news to them but hoping if they can see me strong and positive this will help them accept it all. I just want to get on with the treatment but at the moment the op on 1st April still feels a long way off so I’ve decided the best way to deal with the waiting is to keep busy so I’m starting by redecorating our bedroom! Take care and love to you all xxx