Finished all treatment today-what about starting a family no
Finished all treatment today-what about starting a family no Hi all,
Finished all my treatment today,no tamoxifen to take as hormone neg tumour. Saw my oncologist after last radio treatment and she has advised me to wait 2 years before i think about trying for a baby. I am currently 32 and only got married last July. She has said that she if i want to then the baby will be ok and will not be harmed by the chemo that i have had but that with my particular tumour the risk of reccurence is high within the first 2 years after diagnosis, so what shes basically saying is if the cancer returns whilst im pregnant then it will be somewhat of an emotional rollercoaster.
Me and my husband are desperate to start a family but we both want me to be ok, but my thinking at the moment is; say i leave it for 2 years and then try the 3rd year theres no guarantee that the cancer isnt going to return in that year or for years after. Does anyone else understand what im thinking? So do i just start trying as we all know after being diagnosed with this disease that life is too short!!
Any comments would be much appreciated.
Cheers
Luan
— Hi Luan,
Firstly I would like to say how happy I am for you that your treatment is over. I do understand what you are thinking and have to say I agree with you. None of us knows what is round the corner, and I say live for today. Time and life is so precious and we have to make the most of it.
I am so glad I had my son when I did, if I had left it any later all the chemo and tamoxifen would have made it very difficult for me to have a baby.
I say go for it. But only you can make that decision.
Good luck and have fun trying 
Love Carole.xx
—Hi Luan —My daughter is in a similar position to you, same age and only been married for 3 years, they want to start a family. She had to have chemo for Hodgkin’s Lymphoma and was told to wait for 2 years after treatment before trying, she’s over one year on now so I think they will try at the end on the year.
One of the reasons they gave her was that all the drugs she’d had pumped into her over what was 6 months would have put a strain on her heart and other organs, and being pregnant wouldn’t help them recover, plus as you say just in case of a recurrence, but we won’t go there.
On the positive side I find it encouraging that she was told not to get pregnant, as that must mean after having chemo she is still capable, I hope so anyway.
Good luck with whatever you decide, as you rightly say there are no guarantees.
Jan
— Hi, i would say go for it, if its what you really want.
I was diagnosed whilst pregnant and i now have a gorgeous baby girl and she was fine, i had to have a C-section but apart from that everything was fine! Good luck trying, and have fun! lol
Louise xx