Hi ladies. I know you all have problems of your own, but I just had to get this out before I explode. I know you will understand how I feel.
Some of you may know that my mum had an op for low grade DCIS, and is, thank God, all right now. Well, life has come along to bite our family on the bum yet again - my sister, who is 41, has an appointment for a mammo, ultrasound etc. on the 25th, as her breasts feel very tender, and our GP said she could feel a small lump, but she said it could be breast tissue, or hormonal changes, but with our family history, it would be best to get it checked out. Needless to say, my sister is bricking it at the moment, and says her chest sometimes feels tight, which I know is anxiety, but it doesn’t make her feel any better!
I know there is nothing that any of you can do, but I just thought I would put my feelings down, and know that they will be understood by those who read this. You have been so supportive of me since I joined these boards, and I don’t know how I would’ve got through it without you all.
I’m praying every night that it’s nothing, but it’s doing my head in. Why can’t the powers that be give our family a break?
I am so sorry to hear that having gone down this road with your Mum you now have to re-visit it with your sister. Life is crap at times isn’t it and this BC is just getting out of hand. I sincerely hope that your sister get the all clear on 25th.
Don’t worry about posting on the boards - we are all here to support each other so feel free to rnat whenever the need arises.
when my sis was diagnosed with lob invasive bc i thought it was unfair as she had dealt with other health issues… i can remember saying - it should have been me…so unfair…
a year later almost to the day it was… and i have followed much the same route as my sis mastectomy, node clearance… i am doing the chemo etc… then rads…
it’s not a clear genetic thing… it is just one of those things.
I hope your sis is ok
TC J
Hi there sweetie
I know exactly how you feel! My mum was dx with lobular invasive, and is still very unwell. A month later I was dx with a lump and had to go through the breast clinic, mammograms, ultrasounds, fnas core biopsies and everytime I went I thought I would get some good news. My results came back inconclusive and I had to have breast surgery! (lumpectomy) My poor mum was beside herself about me NOT about her own cancer, but 12 days after surgery I got the news that my cells were atypical but not Cancer! My daughter also has severe depression and today I have been told there is a chance I have MRSA!! So I feel the same I wish my family would be left alone. My mum doesn’t know yet if her cancer has spread the whole thing is a bloody nightmare.
Nine out of ten lumps are benign so there is a good chance your sister will be fine.
Good luck.
xxx
Ps genetic breast cancer is a very small percentage of cancer. When I told them my mum had cancer and her age they were not connecting the two and were not worried. They said its only a worry when there are at least two people who have had bc and early in life, certainly not post menopausal women who have it.
I know how you feel as my mum was dx and not long after both myself and my sister were checked out for lumps - i think you tend to look more when somebody in the family has been dx. Both my sister and I were fine at the time …but were both dx later, her 11 years after and me after 13. We aren’t sure whether ours is genetic or not as we are only now going to the genetic clinic. Don’t panic too much and I hope the news is good.
XX
Thank you for your concern and good wishes, ladies. They really are very much appreciated. I’ll let you know the outcome on Wednesday - meanwhile, I’m just praying every night.
EDIT: My sister has had her mammo, etc. and is absolutely fine - what a relief!
Thank you for all your support!