Hi All
I recently replied to a post about the inability to cry when you get the news that you have breast cancer and I said that the only thing that made me cry properly, bizarrely, was when I was losing my hair. I find myself tonight though really emotional as my nephew’s girlfriend is currently in labour with a new generation of our family. It’s is so emotional for me to hear this and hopefully I can meet the little one (a girl) on Saturday.
I’m not crying because I’m sad, just happy as it’s so life affirming somehow and this little girl will be such a welcome addition to my family. I tell my parents all the time I’m going to be OK but being older and unaware of the progress with treatment for BC they can’t help but worry. But now it’s so fantastic that they will become great grandparents and it will make them so happy again.
Just had to share!
Cecelia. x
That’s lovely. A lot of people around me have been having babies. My best friends seem dumbfounded and transfixed by the wonder and complexity of it all since they had their first baby recently. Great news!
I am unable to cry about having BC - but some other things seem to set me off, and as you experienced they are nearly always a happy event. I think I am just so relieved that happy thins can still happen. Things that happen in the family that give others a focus, and take away their worry for a bit is great. I am so greatful when this happens as it relives me of the presure of been upbeat for a bit. I take a backseat and enjoy “the view”. I have felt very guilty about making people sad.
Jane
Hi Cecelia,
I am so pleased to hear of your family news! A new baby always brings new hope and someone else to focus on.
I cried today (remember my post?)- it was the ending of a book that I read (fiction but the woman died of C). Still can’t cry about myself but I am getting nearer!
Kat x
Yes, Kat, it was your message I was thinking of! Yes the news is great and my parents will be able to focus on the new life rather than get all upset about me.
Happy days… (well as happy as they can get right now!)
Cecelia. x
Oh Cecelia,
what lovely news about the imminent arrival of a new family member. Congratulations to all!! I seem to be able to cry at the drop of a hat these days, its mad!!!
I hope you are able to meet the little one on saturday and I’m sure it’ll be lovely. Take some tissues!!!
Take care,
Kelly
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Hi Cecelia
I too haven’t been able to cry. However, last night I found out about a friend’s nephew, aged 18, who has been killed on a rugby tour in Argentina. You may have seen it in the national press. I did feel a great deal of sadness for the family and it did bring a tear to my eye. I suppose it also made me realise how easily life can be taken away and with the right treatment I have hope and the chance to get better. He never had that chance.
Pleased to hear your happy news. I am sure the new baby will bring happiness to everyone in your family. It’s always nice to hear good news.
Lots of love.
Julie N.
Dear All
The little girl is doing well, and everyone is fine. I will make sure I take a box of tissues! I’m going to be crying more than the baby when I meet her.
Julie N, I’m so sorry to hear your news, actually I did hear about that and it’s terrible. My condolencies to all of you and your friend’s family.
Cecelia. x
Hi Cecelia
I didn’t cry when they told me I had bc - which seemed surreal. However, this week I haven’t seemed to be able to stop. I start chemo next Tues and am getting scared as the day gets nearer. I think now i have opened the flood gates I can’t shut them - but not a bad thing.
Although I wish I had some control over it - standing in the queue at Asda is not a good look to be sobbing as you pay for your groceries!!!
Glad you have had good news, sending lol,
Tracy xx
Dear Tracy
Don’t be scared, it’s all for a very good cause, and I found the anticipation much worse than the event itself which was not that bad, in fact not bad at all! Neither were the side effects. The nurses are amazing and I bored them to tears with all my questions. Make sure you ask them all you need to know, it’ll really help.
Good luck on Tuesday, be sure to let us know how you get on.
Cecelia. x
Bettyboo
I am a day ahead of you - start on Monday - and like you I think its gonna be a very emotional day.
Let me know how you get on
wishing you all the best
Fiona
x
Dear All
I am crying a bit today - but with relief, its my last FEC this afternoon. For those of you about to start - its not so bad once you get going. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and its a treatment which has worked really well for me (8cm tumour almost disapeared) so it really blasting any other cells.
Good luck next week
Cecilia - hope your neuts are doing OK
Jane