hi all,i have been diagnosed last week with stage 3 invasive breast cancer and it spread in my arm…im 30 years old with 2 small children,( 20 months old and 5 years) im so scared…what are my chances of being cured? im having a ct scan tommorow to find out if and where else it has spread…what if it has? what are my chances to survive this? I dont want to leave my babies i cant stop crying…
Hi Petrusha
I am sorry that you are having such a worrying time at the moment, in addition to the support you will soon have here our helpliners are on hand with practical and emotional support for you, Please feel free to call 0808 800 6000 weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2.
You may find the following information and further support ideas from BCC helpful too:
breastcancercare.org.uk/younger-women
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi Petrusha84
I was dx with grade 3 invasive in feb 2012 it had also gone to lymphnodes in arm pit 3/20 affected, I had surgery to remove lump then 6 x chemo followed by 4 weeks of rads, Im now on tamoxifen for 5 years minimum, its scary I no i broke down when told the grade and invasion but you get past that eventually and focus on the treatment
once you have seen your onc and have your treatment plan it gets so busy that you dont have as much time to think about it, Its not a walk in the park i wont try and rose tint it but IT IS DO-ABLE , lean on whoever you can for support, there are lots of lovely ladies on here ready to help you in times of need and if you are tired and emotional give yourself time for you, it does get easier I promise but its very early days and your prob still in shock, take care of yourself and PM me if you need any more information or help xx
I’m sorry you’re going thro’ this but it isn’t all bad news…I was dx over 6 years ago …it had spread to my lymph nodes too…I’m still here, enjoying life…
Hi Petrusha,
I’m so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I was diagnosed with grade 3 IDC breast cancer in February, just six weeks after a clear mammogram). I had lymph node involvement too. My tumour was really large and I was absolutely terrified. I have a daughter and of course you think of your children first 
The waiting for scan results is awful (and I got more and more terrified of cannulas). It is really important to have a good raport with your consultant, so do speak to your breast nurse if you do not feel happy or confident.
Hopefully your other scans will come back clear. Then starts the (hard) road to recovery. It isn’t an easy roaand with chemo and surgery and radiotherapy, my journey will have basically wiped this year out and that’s hard. But you will get through it.
Early on a friend sent me a book called Silver Linings. Too self indulgent in many ways but the principle is good and I’ve kept a blog diary through my journey and logged silver liniings and there have been many: my marriage is so much stronger because we rediscovered how strong our love is; I never knew I had so many friends and their support has been terriffic etc. It definitely hasn’t been all bad.
That said it isn’t easy with children. My daughter has been a pain in the bum at times - and we worked out eventually that she was deeply angry that this had happened to us. But we’re working through it 
HUGE luck with all your scans, and on your journey back to health x