Little background - I was diagnosed with 13cm DCIS and 28mm IDC in April ER+ HER2+ and started chemotherapy in May. Pagets disease in the nipple and Location and size of the DCIS meant chemotherapy to remove the tumour and then full mastectomy for the DCIS. Followed by a bit of radiotherapy for the tri-fecta.
I got my mid MRI results yesterday and they show an incredible response from chemotherapy and the tumour is shrinking massively. Amazing news
That’s the IDC sorted and surgery will go ahead in late September/October and will be single full mastectomy.
Eating has been a struggle for me during diagnosis and then chemotherapy and teamed with a background of Eating Disorders which tried to creep back in at my lowest (and a love of running), I’ve lost weight and now don’t have enough tissue to reconstruct - (yet?)
I realised in my 3am wake up that I’d spent weeks convincing myself a double mastectomy would be better than single for symmetry instead of facing the actual solution of gaining weight to have enough tissue to reconstruct immediately. I’ll admit I barely have enough subcutaneous fat to find somewhere to do my GCF injections ?
I shan’t bore with the rant about how vain and silly I feel about that, or kid myself that one 3am epiphany will solve it forever. But I needed a safe space to verbal dump what I don’t want to dump on my friends - again. And again.
I hate the cliché advice and words from friends “Just have ice cream and cake for every meal” “chips with everything” “add full fat yoghurt to everything” and the favourite- “omg you can eat whatever you like for weeks and get a free tummy tuck”
I KNOW what to eat to gain weight. I have the supplement weight gain drinks which I hid in the cupboard and refused to accept they existed… i know the solution is eat more, gain weight, Live a life with two breasts instead of being so vain and facing a life feeling potentially self conscious at having one breast than temporarily staying thin. But mentally it is so hard.
I know that whatever weight I gain will make me happy in the long run, stronger to recover etc etc. But I don’t understand why I can’t actually do it when it comes to it.
I’ve smashed chemotherapy, faced every turn with dignity so far, why is this throwing me?!
I’ve got an appointment with the plastic surgeon on Monday to discuss options, so I suppose we’ll see what they say if it’s even going to be possible to gain enough by October…?
And here I am placing another pause on gaining incase they say no anyway. I’m such a fool. ?
I don’t suppose I know what advice I even need, just why is this so hard?