Diagnosed yesterday, haven’t stopped crying since as I fear I left it too late. I should have got it checked last August. I can’t believe I didn’t. I’ve been unwell since last summer but docs put that down to other medical conditions that I already have, hypothyroidism and fibromyalgia. I lost my dad in a matter of 6 weeks when docs said he had 6 months. I want to be strong for my children as my husband is weak and can’t handle this. Any advice greatly appreciated. I’m terrified with too much info on the internet!
Hi Puddywuddy
Sending you a great big hug.I am sorry you have had this diagnosis.When I got my diagnosis I cried all the time,my eyes just permanently leaked but when you get your treatment plan you will get a little stronger as time goes on.Do not Google anything it is too much.Phone this helpline for advice and use this forum .I found it very helpful to feel I was not the only person facing this .I, like you wish I had sought advice sooner but the treatment available gives us a good prognosis now.
xx
Hi Puddywuddy - did they give you any information when you were diagnosed like what’s going to happen next. If they haven’t I know this is easier said than done, but try not to second guess what they are going to say. I know you won’t believe this at the moment but once you know what you’re facing & begin treatment it does feel easier. Xx
Hi Puddywuddy, sorry you have to cope with this diagnosis, the early days when you are waiting for results, treatment plans etc are the hardest, it does get easier. Like you I ignored changes in my breast for about 7 months for all kinds of reasons. I was diagnosed Feb 2015, initially treated with Letrozole to shrink tumour, then had mastectomy and node clearance in September. My tumour was big - 13cm and 11 out of 18 nodes affected, but CT scans showed no spread. I have just completed chemo and am about to start radiotherapy. The treatment is totally manageable, you will deal with whatever you need to in your own way and find a strength you don’t know you have.
I have been wracked with guilt with the thought that I have jeopardised my future and the impact that will have on my family by not seeking advice sooner, but what is done is done and there is no point dwelling on what might have been. I am reassured by the team treating me that there is every chance I will survive this, no one knows what the future holds but there are very effective treatments and you will get the very best care. Don’t look for info on the Internet - stick with this site and McMillan is also helpful.
I wish you all the very best in your treatment xx