Had abnormal Mammogram on 20th April, Thurs 23rd received appt for further investigation. Went for appointment yesterday, found a lump, had u/s and biopsies. Was told looked suspicious and now have a week until my next appointment to receive results and discuss treatment. I feel so strange, numb, sick. I feel like i went into the appointment one person and came out another. My family and friends are already full of kind words and pity. Never been very good at being a patient. I am a bit of a control freak and suddenly I have no control at all, scary!! Would be good to hear from others who have just been diagnosed or who are waiting, how do I get on with a normal life now!!
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Hi Sarn66 I’m almost any the end of the longest week of my life and will have my results by the end of today. I came out of my appointment last week thinking that my world had ended but gradually each day I have felt better about what is possibly coming and now feel strong enough to cope with today. Wine does help too x
Hi ladies
I was you both at the beginning of the month.
I fell to pieces the first couple of days tried to carry on day to day and fell to pieces again the following weekend.
I suddenly woke one morning with a ‘kick ass’ attitude- I had my sons 6th bday to plan so put everything into doing that… And looking at my three beautiful kids helped!!
I’ve armed myself with supportive family and friends, the breast care nurse helped on some degree but I thought she brought a bit of negativity when I was trying to be positive ’ she wouldn’t let me use the phrases cancer free, cured or remission’.
I’ve had my diagnosis and after a bit more investigation to determine some odd cells these have come back clear- I’m booked for surgery to remove my lump and then we will proceed to what’s next… It’s. Does become manageable and it’s the waiting that makes it harder to deal with but as I’ve been told time again they can afford to take their time for the right diagnosis and treatment.
This forum is a life saver and always someone who has been your shoes xxx
Hi Sarn66 I’m OK, news wasn’t good I have at least 2 grade 3 tumors and cancer in my lymph nodes. I am a bit emotional but only because I’m worried about everyone else x
Hi Sarn66 I am also going through the awful wait for results mine are on 7th May which may get delayed because of the bank holiday. I had my appointment on 28th April expecting to be told I had a cyst. The consultant thought it was too until the radiographer said it wasn’t and I was sent immediately for a mammogram, they told me they found another area for concern in my lymph nodes and that the lump looks cancerous so the did some biopsies on both areas, assigned me a bcn, gave me some leaflets on living with cancer and the appointment on the 7th. I spoke to the bcn yesterday and asked what the likelihood is that they would come back clear and she said if they did they are concerned enough that they would disagree and run further tests! I am 33 and I have two little girls aged 5 and 2. I am going through a range of emotions everyday but seeing the news about Rio ferdinands wife broke me earlier. I am finding it hard to function normally and questioning any health symptoms I have (I have been permanently exhausted for about 4 months, pains in my arms etc). The waiting is killing me I just want to know what I am dealing with. I told my team at work, just got them altogether and explained that they suspect I have bc but do not know for sure until next thurs and in the meantime I need their support to continue making me smile/laugh and treat me like a normal person so I can get through this week. We are a very close knit team so it wasn’t too hard but I knew they were wondering why I didn’t come back from my Hosp app on Tues - so far they have done exactly what I asked and no looks of pity! I will be thinking of you on weds
Hi Sarn66,
I am sorry to hear that you have also been diagnosed but glad it sounds like you are so far ok with it xx It would be a shame for your daughter to miss out on such a great opportunity but I can also understand why she would not want to go, my sister was working abroad when my mum had bc and she worried so much more because she wasn’t here.
I have also been diagnosed with ducal grade 2 breast cancer but they are still waiting for results on lymph nodes so got to go back next thurs for full treatment plan. They have booked in a lumpectomy and because they don’t think its too fast growing I have managed to get them to push it back a few weeks as we have a holiday booked to take the kids to disneyland. Depending on results thurs I still may have to cancel it though as may need MRI and we have to decide if non receptive if we want to try and freeze eggs as it’s likely I will have chemo purely because of my age. Also got to have genetic testing because my mother and her mother also had bc.
I don’t feel it has fully sunk in yet and I am full of a mixture of emotions about it all - the consultant said I was remarkably calm but I think I knew the result before I got it so just waiting for it to fullyhit me! It helps that the children keep me incredibly busy when I am not at work! My husband cried his eyes out last night to his brother I haven’t known him to ever cry in the 14 years we have been together so feeling a bit worried about him and a need to remain strong whilst others crumple.
Hi Sarn
I have now had ct bone and mri scans to check for spread, thankfully all clear but I have 4 tumors in my left breast but the extra one is slightly irrelevant because I have to have a mastectomy anyway. My treatment plan has Changed slightly and I now have to have chemo first because of the aggressive nature of my cancer so should start treatment within a couple of weeks. I was so convinced that it had spread so knowing that it hasn’t has made me a lot more positive about everything.
How are you feeling?
Hi Sandra
I had a meeting with my oncologist on Tuesday, I start chemo on Thursday. When do you start treatment?
Hi to everyone. I am so new to this type of thing, not too good on computer I find the sites confusing so not sure if in right place. I have regular mamograms which have all been clear. Had this one and was recalled that was the first sick in the stomach feeling. I had another mamogram and ultra sound or was it a scan? It didnt feel like it was happening to me? very odd. I asked why I had been recalled and Consultant said there had been some calcifications that had changed since last mamogram? I was not aware anything was even there! I think it went a bit hazzy from then on. I emember him saying that I had to have biopsy now but after waiting there was a problem with my blood thinning medication (heart bypass) so eventually after blood test had to go home. They rang before 9am next morning to come in for biopsy. I remember the person that did the Xray/computer/biopsy saying that with calcifications some are ok to leave and some are not could be sign of early breast cancer and there was talk from the consultant about a lumpectomy mine are “insitu” my mind is going round and round until I cant think anymore they gave me some leaflets on DCIS i think it is it still feels that “this is not me” theyve got it wrong it will be clear, they say some women have a second mamogram and its ok but if I have had to have a biopsy does this mean I need surgery have I got breast cancer.
I have to wait until 10th June for my biopsy results. Its the only thing in my head all the time I dont want to do anything like shopping I just feel empty.
Like one of the other ladies my Husband is not much of a conversantionalist normally and you have to talk to him otherwise he can stay quiet forever! He is not comfortable with “womens problems” I never could talk to him about my Stents and Heart bypass he just doesnt know how to deal with these things he is my second husband and we have been together 17years – my rock is my daughter but I dont want to be talking this subject with her all the time I want her to see me as a best friend I am registred sight impaired and she is my Carer and has helped me through my knee replacement recently as well…so really has enough to do we are together every day (I am 68 and my husband still works) I am sorry to go on but when I get these results if it is bad news I am worried about not being able to talk to my husband, I know if I mention it if it is serious he is the one who will break out crying and thats not helping me so I wont mention the subject.