I can’t believe all these nice people on here !
It is so nice to talk to other people going through the same ( well nearly I know each case is unique ).
Anyway Steve should have left for work this morning at 10 am but he came with me and said his customers will have to understand, he has been crying all morning I thought I would be ok but as soon as I saw the pink rose above the door I turned into a jibbering mess ! I had to sit down for a while to try and compose myself !
I was waiting ages ! and I couldn’t stop shaking visibly and all !
I have a lovely cancer nurse and she took us in a room then she said " he wont be long ( consultant) anyway she said " Rachel ( who is the nurse I first saw last Thursday to say I neede scan mammogram biopsy etc ) said that when you came in you ( me ) said to her “I don’t want to waste your time” she told my nurse that I really never thought I had the big C . I said to my nurse " Did Rachel know that I had the big C when she laid her hands on me ? " she said " YES " I said " I knew she did " even before I had mammogram and everything , The nurse said " well she knows what they feel like how hard and everything.
Anyway she is coming to my home on Thursday ( I am not really sure why to be honest ).
The consultant was a bit abrupt to be honest but he probably thinks himself a god which in fact he actually IS !
Cos I said I had been on this site and he was quite mad with me he said " I dont want you talking to others every case is different and all the information will be out of date and even what they could do 2 years ago they do diffrent things now !
I did think OK keep your hair on ( excuse the pun ! )
Anyway he said that I have grade 2 , I please please want to know more about these grades my sis said there are only 3 for breast cancer but there are more in other cancers ? also what does grade 2 mean ? Does it mean how aggressive it is ? ( I know mine is invasive already as it’s spread ).
Anyway back to diagnosis I have grade 2 but that might be 2/3 in a review he said .
He said I have 2 in my lymph nodes one is 13mm and the other is 8mm.
God for a minute I thought it was CM ! ( until Steve told me later ! , god I am so silly ),
He said my cancer has been sent away to see which chemo will work on it best, and that I will have to have to have 2 different types of chemo one after the other.
I also have to have a C T scan to see if it has gone anywhere else ( but he did say " I don’t think it will have ").
I am having chemo for 6 months altogether then surgery to remove the breast, I said to him " I knew I would have to I am not stupid "
This seemed to upset him again !!!
and he said " NOBODY SAID YOU WAS "
I thought I better keep my mouth shut after upsetting him twice already ! so I just agreed with him after that !
He is removing my breast and my lymph nodes ( all of them I don’t know how many I have ? ! )
I forgot to say this I was at first told I had 2 cancers and a cyst but he said " I have 2 under my arm thats the 13 mm and 8 mm ( which he is concerned over ) and I also have the breast one which he never said how big that is but I also have another suspicious one in my breast , which they never did a biopsy on cos I had already had 3 biopsy on breast and 4 on under the arm, so cos they already knew they never bothered with that one. and that is why he said I have to have the breast removed.
They said I will start chemo within the next 2 weeks I will have it macmillan suite Grimsby hospital, Shell I may easy come and see you seen as you are so near !
we could give each other a hug ( a big one ! , we need it we all do ! )
I do not know if it is to do with oestrogen or owt like that he never said but I am having chemo that is deffo, so maybe it is ?
Thats about all I know for now till Thursday till my nurse comes here then on Friday I meet the oncologist ( probably spelt wrong ! ) to tell me about the chemo and effects and all that!
GOD I am just so pleased that they can do something !!!
I really thought they want Steve with me to tell me there is nothing they can do , thats why I fell apart before I went in.
I must say this too that 4 months ago I thought I had a lump !!!
then it went , then came back bigger !!!
I said to my nurse my dr. had asked why I had left it 4 months ? I said cos I wanted to make sure I did have a lump when I did I went to Dr.s
Anyway I said to my nurse that I had a lump and she stopped me and said " DON’T TELL ME IT WENT !!!
I said " YES IT DID "
she said " thats because when the cancer starts as a small lump it then goes further down into your breast and gets like cobwebs on it spreading out then when it grows it becomes a mass and shows itself …
I was really bothered about how long I have had it but the consultant said " don’t beat yourself up about that "
I don’t know why I am bothered about how long I have had it ( but I just am ) but if that is the case what my nurse said I can’t have had it much longer than I think.
The consultant was abrupt with me but when he was going he shook my hubby’s hand then mine and said " Don’t worry we will beat this together " !
Which really cheered me up cos I know he is a serious guy and he obviously means what he says.
keep well / cheerful/ bright we will all beat this damd thing together !!! one for all and all for one !!!
PPS He did say that cos my graet nana died it is nothing to do with her because she is too far back ?
and it’s just like Rachel said in the first place IT’S THE LUCK OF THE DRAW ( we all lost that draw by the way !!! )
love Caron sorry this is so long !