No one has got in touch as yet. Am I using this site properly. I live in billericay Essex. live alone but have wonderful family and friends, but am so scared. Have had a lumpectomy, with several cells still there, so am having lots of tests this week, and then back to the consultant to see what can be done. you’re all so cheery, wish I could be like you, but finding it very hard to cope at the moment.
CHRIS
Hi Chris
I don’t know where else you posted but this is the first time I have seen it. Someone usually responds straight away because none of us want to think of someone suffering on their own. We are all here to help each other and these ladies are really getting me through this. Although we may have caring friends and family, those on here really understand, because they all feel, or have felt, the same. I had a WLE and SNB on 23rd Sept and am waiting for results next Thursday, and have felt really scared.
Have they given you a breast care nurse you could ring or if not the helpline on here? It may be really helpful for you to actually voice your fears to an understanding person.
I suggest that you post as often as you need to, because you will keep thinking of new questions. You won’t ever be alone.
Love Ann xxx
Just to say hello and you’re not alone and that I’m sorry you had to join this panty club!
Take care and a big ((hug))
Katie
Hi Chris (and others)
Welcome to the website and really sorry you’re having to join us. I was diagnosed on 28th May and have had lumpectomy, sample lymph nodes removed and four weeks radiotherapy.
There are a bunch of us over on ‘friends needed - diagnosed early May’ Please come and join us there, you will have plenty of laughs and a few tears, but remember that tears are healing. ALso, the period just after diagnosis is probably the most scary. Once you have a treatment plan in place, things do look brighter, I promise : )
Lots of love
Shenagh xx
Hi Chris
Thought Id reply to you as i noticed you live in Billericay. I live in Laindon. Are you under Basildon hosp then? I see Jean, Mr Collier and Dr Trask at Basildon.
The waiting when you are first dx is the worst part. Once you have all your results and a plan, than it does get easier.
I was dx Feb 08 age 34, with 2 children aged 1 and 4. Had 2.1cm grade 3. I had to have all the scans to check for spread, which luckily were clear. I then had lumpectomy, 9 lymph glands removed by snb, 4 wks rads, and am on tamoxifen (was also on zoladex for 15 months, but stopped now as they removed my ovaries instead in July this year)
Wishing you all the best, let us know how you get on.
Welcome Chris, This is the first post I have seen from you. Sorry you are having a difficult time but there are a lovely bunch of ladies on this site who will be around to support you. Day AND night sometimes as some of us have odd sleep patterns! The most difficult part of BC is the waiting for results. Once you know what is happening you will gain the courage to cope. I was diagnosed over 20 years ago and am having chemo just now. But through this site I have made lots of new friends and tomorrow a few of us are meeting for lunch in Edinburgh. (My appetite is poor just now so last time it was just a bowl of soup for me). But it was good to see in person, these wonderful young women. I myself am 59, will be 60 in February, and have had invaluable support from everyone here. I hope to have helped others too with my long experience of BC. Take courage. We are there to support you, to listen to your worries and celebrate the good days. Much love Val (Scottishlass). XX
hello Chris and welcome to the club no one wants to join 
I myself have just started a thread as I am due for a lumpectomy this weds, a month after having my mamma recall letter ( see my thread wobbly Weds)It’s all so scary isn’t it, the hardest for me has firstly trying to get my own head round it then having to tell close family and freinds and work ones. Emotionally very draining. wishing you all the very best in coping with it all and i shall look out for you on the forum. Hugs ~Deb ~
Hi Chris
Scary times. There is a way through this. I’m dx 16 December last year, WLE, and have just finished chemo then rads. Now waiting for my post rads onc appointment, and I’m on tamoxifen.
You will run the gauntlet of every emotion, every black place, and you’ll find yourself in light spaces of hope too. You’ll find a balance in due course, a way to keep breathing, keep going, and yes, keep laughing at the things that have always made you laugh. Everything is in turmoil just now, and it’s the waiting game at every stage of this that is the absolutely pits, but believe me, and others will confirm it too, you do find a way of dealing with this. I don’t know how we do it but we do. A lot of it is to do with starting active treatment, chemo, rads. A lot of it is to do with this forum, and the support you get here. And a lot of it is simply the inner strength that right now you don’t think you have, but you do.
Keep asking questions as they come, here and of your med team. Oh, and don’t be scared of the med team. If you’re not sure about something, harp on at them till you’re happy you’ve got an answer you understand. They are there to work with you, to help you through this.
And, if there’s one place you can come and just let out your worries and fears, it’s here. Remember, if you don’t want to be “public” you can always PM anybody you want to talk to.
Carole