Hi,
My name is Ann, and I was diagnosed just a week ago, to say that I am shell shocked would be an understatement. My lovely Daughter Andrea has been such a rock I done know how I would have coped without her.
I am having my op on the 3rd of August, in Salisbury. I really just wanted to contact some other women in the same situation as myself as I do not know anyone.
I hope someone could please help.
regards
Ann
Hi Ann
Firstly, welcome to the forums, I am sure you will find it a great source of information and support.
I’m sorry to read of your diagnosis, the first few days and weeks are always difficult when coming to terms with things and getting to grips with your treatment plans, etc.
I’ve given here the link to our Resource Pack for those people newly diagnosed. The pack is essential for anyone with a primary diagnosis of breast cancer. Filled with information to help you better understand your diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available.
breastcancercare.org.uk/heal … tionId/82/
Also, do give the helpline a ring if you need any further support or information. They’re on 0808 800 6000. Open 9-5 Monday to Friday and 9-2 Saturday.
Best wishes
Sam, BCC Facilitator
Hello Ann,
I’m so sorry that you have had to join us on here. It’s the club no one wants to join. But once you get used to posting you will find tha this is a very helpful place to be. We are all in the same place,just at different stages, my profile tells my story so far.
I also have a daughter who is a great help to me. You will get lots of support from the ladies on these threads. One thread I go on regularly is ‘Embarking on an adventure, your welcome to tag along’’ please feel free to introduce yourself to this great group of loopy ladies who are all great for a laugh or a moan. We’ll all be there for you on every thread.
Take care and come and join us,
Hugs and Best Wishes,
Isabelle xxx
Hi Ann,
We try and jolly each other up as best we can, as Isabelle says join us on the ‘embarking on a journey’ we try to stay cheerful while we are all going through our treatment, some just starting and some finished their treatment.
It has been a long struggle, after being diagnosed in February, three ops down the road, l am now half way through chemo.
Have you been told anything? how was it diagnosed? through mammogram or did you find the lump?
So lucky to have your daughter for support, l hope you will find us a support for you too.
love
Sandra xxx
Hi Ann sorry you have had to join us.You will find lots of support here as Isabelle and Sandra have said. I expect you must be still reeling with shock and disbelief its a lot to get your head around. Did you find a lump or was it picked up on a mammo? Do you know what your treatment plan is? I was dx end of last year on routine mammo, no-one was ever able to feel my lump.Have had chemo and surgery x2 and am waiting for rads next. My daughter too has been a wonderful support. Sending you hugs and best wishes. Jackie
Hi Ann - welcome. Do you know anything about your diagnosis and treatment plan yet? Perhaps it’s too soon, but when you do there will be plenty of lovely ladies here that will be able to share similar experiences. In the meantime, please be reassured that you are not alone, and although the treatment is generally unpleasant, it is manageable. The stage you are in is the worst - the shock and fear of the unknown can be overwhelming, but must of us have found that when we start treatment we start to feel a little calmer, knowing the fightback has begun, and the focus is more on the day to day business of getting through the treatment.
Please let us know how you are getting on.
finty xx
Hi Ann,
I to have had great support from my daughter, i have also found that seeing my twin baby grandaughters on a regular basis has also helped my recovery from bc.
I was dx in Feb and have had a WLE and node removal, i am due my 5th FEC chemo in 10 days , so i am on the road to recovery, i hope you get sorted as soon as possible, and the ladies on this site are great, i don’t know what i would have done without the ladies here.
The dx of bc is an enormous shock, but one you have your surgery and get a treatment plan you will be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel
Keep us posted,
Take care Sandrae x x x
Hello Ann
Sounds like I am in the same boat as you. I was diagnosed last Monday and have my op on August 3rd, in London. I’m finding the shock is like nothing I’ve experienced before and I suspect what people say about this waiting bit being the worst time is right. The doctor thought my lump was a benign cyst at first, the mammogram looked OK, then the ultra-sound looked more suspicious and so they did the biopsy which showed it was breast cancer, so it was a real up and down and is taking a lot of getting my head round. I find talking about it helps and this website seems really helpful. Your daughter sounds great. I don’t have children but am lucky to have supportive friends around.
To be honest, the op is the thing I’m most worried about - I haven’t had to have an operation since having my tonsils out aged 5 when it was all a big adventure! And I’m now 46 so it was a long time ago. Think I’ll be relieved when that’s over. Perhaps we can compare notes.
Be kind to yourself and take care. I’ll be thinking of you.
Julianne
Hello Ladies,
Ann I hope that you are keeping ok, the waiting for everything to start getting done is the most difficult. Once you get started and know what your treatment is going to be it helps you to get your head around things a bit, though the waiting in between appointments can do your head in a bit, as once you get started you just want to get on with it and get your treatments over.
I have to go tommorrow to get my rads setup done and am hoping to start them next week, fingers crossed, started on Arimidex a couple of weeks ago, so far so good.
Julieanne, so sorry you’ve had to join us here, you will find that the ladies on the site are very helpful and supportive. I, like yourself had never been in hospital since I was a child and had never had an operation. That is what I was most concerned about. When it came down to it I need not have worried at all. The doctors and nurses are so good and put you at ease, when I went down for my op I was very nervous, but it only took seconds and I was asleep and suddenly waking up again and it was all over. I felt much better after that, it’s the unknown thats the worst, and if I do ever have to have another op I certainly won’t be scared of that part of my treatment. The waiting for appointments and results is definatley the hardest bit of all, but hopefully things will happen quite quickly for you once you get started.
Keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on,
Best Wishes to all,
Isabelle xxx
Hi Everyone,
Thank you all so much for making me feel so welcome, I have read all of your posts and feel much better that I have found someone who understands.
I found the lump myself, just a small tickle and you have to scratch, that’s when I felt the lump. I must admit that I have not been checking
myself needless to say that I will in the future. I made an appointment with the Dr the following morning and everything took off from there.
I am due my results this Friday the 13th at 2pm, I have been told that I will need radiotherapy, I think that’s what it is called, so then i will have more idea of what will be in store for the near future.
I hope to catch up with you all on friday evening and thanks for your help up to now
Ann
xxxx
Well today was, well lets just say the friday 13th really lived up to its name.
Got the results today, have to have another op on 25th to remove all of the lymphnodes from my right side, not even possible chemo, and then radiotherapy.
Just when you think things can’t get any worse, it always comes back to bite you in the ass. With my luck i shouldn’t have expected anything else.
On that note i will go not and see what tomorrow will bring.
night night everyone
Ann
Hi Ann
I remember that feeling all to well.
One piece of advice I can give from someone who has just come out of the other side after 18 weeks of chemo, and 15 double doses of radio is never give up even when the chips are down. Rant away on hereto get rid of frustrations, sadness and even anger. That’s what we are here for… To listen and help. I have made some great people on here who I couldn’t have done it without. I too have a great daughter who at 14 has a wise old head on her shoulders chanting for me all the way !
Take care x
Van,
thanks so much for your reply, it is kind of you. I am still at the shell shocked state, but I think that now it is starting to hit me. Since I found out that I had had this I tried to get hold of my sister who I had lost touch with. her last location 16 months ago was in Germany. I tried every phone number email address and anything i could think of, finally through a colleague at work knew my nephew, and had made a passing comment about 6 weeks ago that she had spoken to him, well to cut a long story short, my sister and nephews appeared at my door 2 hours later, they now live in Eastbourne. I desperately needed to let her know my situation in case it would effect her to.
thanks for listening and I will keep in touch, I know nobody who has or have had so need people to talk to.
I hope that you are well as I have no idea what is in store for me in the coming weeks and months.
thanks again
Ann