Hi
I’m new to the site. Sadly my friend just been diagnosed with BC. She is at her wits end and at the moment can’t contemplate coming online for help and support. I would like to join the site in order to gain some knowledge to help my friend.
Love
Belinda
Belinda
Well done you for joining this to get support for your friend. when the time is right she will come on here herself and get loads of love and support and tips - the time just has to be right for her. I must have looked on here and read posts for one or two weeks before I plucked up the courage to join in.
Please tell her I am thinking of her and if she has any questions, most of them will be ansered on here. We have all been at her stage, and its a very scary time - and it seems to be typing this now - but she will get thro it. I was dx in July and have gone thro most of the treatment. with the support of friends like you, she will get there.
There are going to be many ups and downs, but my closest friends have been there with me as I am sure you will be there for your friend.
Its never easy to go thro this, but somehow this time of year makes it harder.
Tell her I am thinking about her , and you - you will get thro this.
Take care
Fiona
x
Hi Belinda
Welcome to the Breast Cancer Care discussion forums. I am sure you will receive lots of helpful advice from the other users.
Your friend may find BCC’s resource pack helpful, it has been designed for those newly diagnosed. The pack is free of charge as are all our publications. If you would like a copy just follow the link below:
breastcancercare.org.uk//content.php?page_id=7514
I hope this is useful.
Kind regards
Sam
BCC Facilitator
hi belinda,
sorry to hear about your friend, how lucky she is to have a friend like you to support her…and she will need a good support network.
my dear friend jackie, my darling husband and my dear family were my support network…and believe me i needed them…and still do…[diagnosed in jan 04, lumpectomy, grade 3 12mm tumour, no node involvement, ER+, chemo, rads now tamoxifen]…the whole awful experience is a complete rollercoaster of emotions.
you will find lots of support on here and someone will always try to answer your questions…or your friends,
does she have any idea of her treatment plan at the moment?
karen x
Hi Belinda, sorry to hear about your friends diagnosis, you sound like a good friend !!! I can understand your friends feelings at this time, her head must be all over the place. Like Karen has just said the whole experience is a rollercoaster ride and having been through the ride it was a comfort to me knowing I had a very good friend by my side, which is obviously what you are doing with your friend. Give her the time she needs and when she is ready perhaps she will want to come online for support or perhaps not, everyone is different and its not always everyones choice. For me I wanted all the information I could get about breast cancer and still do. ( I was diagnosed March 2005, age 31 )
I am sure you will be able to find out lots of information from this site which in turn will be able to help your friend, it really has been a life line to me since diagnosis.
Remember there is always someone here with a listening ear who can help and advise, whether you have a question about your friend or if you want to offload too.
take care and sending best wishes to you and your friend x
You sound like just the sort of friend she needs right now. Make sure she always goes with someone (not necessarily you, but someone) whenever she goes for consultations - you need someone sane to listen to what’s said and remember it.
Hi Belinda,
It’s times like this that you truly find out who your real friends are, and you are certainly a true friend.
I can’t add much to what the lovely ladies above have said. I was diagnosed 20/10 this year. Each of us can understand the
emotions your friend is going through at the moment. Everything happens so fast, it will all seem surreal. She will feel as though
she is on a conveyor belt which she unfortunately, can’t get off. She will ask herself a million times why, but never get the answer and
be more frightened than she has ever been in her life. Please, please tell her that it does become more bearable. I don’t suppose any of us accept it
but we learn to live with it and, to a cetain extent, cope. It is the school of hard knocks, but all of the ladies on here will love, help and support her and you.
We will hold your hands every step of the way.
Lots of love and hugs,
Dyzee. X