Hi everyone. I hope you are all doing well. My mum recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. The only symptom she had was this lump in her breast and pain that’s on and off. Yesterday we got to know and said the lump is about 5cm and 3 lymp nodes affected. Now she has CT scan this coming Tuesday and than they can plan a treatment plan for my mum. I feel so anxious and scared, she has no other symptoms apart from this lump and pain. Otherwise she is doing well and she doesn’t even look like she has cancer. She got type 2 diabetes. Would you mind sharing your journey and how you all stayed or staying positive and any tips how to change your mind as someone like me who will be part of my mums journey looking after her. I suffer from anxiety and since yesterday…well I am awake now writing this post and now time is 4:05am 
Thanks really appreciate for any response 
Hello, so sorry to hear your Mum’s diagnosis. It is a shock for you all. I was diagnosed 19 years ago and came to this forum as my 80 year old Mum was diagnosed a couple of years ago with the same type. We both had chemo radiotherapy etc… whilst it is a rollercoaster , as treatments can go on for some months, overall it’s a journey to get through and you will come out the other side. She will gets lots of support through her hospital, breast care nurse, and there is lots of support on here as you will have questions as new information comes along. Treatment has come along way over the years and the outlook is positive. My Mum is nearly 84 now and doing really well. Take it step by step which will make it easier to manage. Best wishes.
Hi there. I’m sorry to hear about your mum. Unsurprisingly, you are anxious and scared, but hopefully, the treatment plan will.make you feel more in control and less anxious. Breast cancer is unlikely to make you look or feel ill. The only symptoms other than breast changes happen if it has spread, so your mum looks well. This is why it can be such a shock.
I was a fit and healthy 46 year old. I found a lump. I had lymph node involvement so needed surgeries to remove the cancer and the nodes. I had chemo and am about to start radiotherapy. Now I am a fit and healthy 47 year old!
Depending on your mum’s age, health, type of cancer, grade of cancer etc, she may need chemo or radiotherapy. She will almost certainly need surgery. You will know more after her scan.
Once you have that plan, you can prepare her for the treatments. Until then you need to help her through the waiting period. Breast cancer is common and you are not alone. There is a lot of support on this website about different drugs, chemos, surgery types and radiotherapy:
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Wishing your mum well. She is lucky to have you looking after her. Let us know how you both get on.
Hello
You’re going to be ok and its absolutely fine to be worried and anxious
Everyone has moments of these feelings and you’re mum is going to have heaps of support from her team at the hospital but if you need it please let your GP know, call the nurses helpline on here or if you have a maggies centre near you pop in for a chat
There are going to be good days and bad days ahead so get used to distracting yourself with a lovely walk, listening to music or a podcast and download some fab films and boxsets
Set up cuppa times with friends
Good luck to you and your mum x
Thank you everyone for your kind and encouraging words:smiling_face_with_three_hearts: @bluesatsuma @Curlywurly1 @edp I am glad I found this forum and it really makes me feel better hearing other peoples experiences and stories. As the only child in the family, it’s so much, so many things happened in the last couple of months, so it’s bit overwhelming.
Hi @sshini93, thank you for sharing your story and I am sorry to read about your mum’s diagnosis.
Please remember that if you or your mum ever feel the need to chat things through, or have any questions, we’re always here. You can find more here
On the forum, you can also find this space which is for the people who support someone with breast cancer
Sending you our warmest wishes,
Zoe
One thing that helped me was just taking it one day at a time and not googling too much-it made my anxiety worse. Being there for your mum already means a lot, and it’s okay to take breaks and take care of yourself too.
Thank you for your advise 
once I know the treatment plan, I will feel much better. I believe I’ve been told after her CT scan, they want to begin hopefully by end of April.