hey girls.
im new to the forum today, as i have recently been diagnosed with BC. 3 weeks ago.
i had to have major throat surgery 2 weeks ago, and in the end they did a lumpectomy at the same time, as another operatin wouldnt have been possible for some time. i go later today to get the results of grade stage ect ect. i cant beileve the pain im in from my breast. my throat is a walk in the park in comparrision. and the numbness is odd. under my arm is very numb
my fears, well for months it was of having my thorat cut open and a part of my windpipe being removed. then bang 3 weks ago, reast cancer, im 41 and have had more than my fair shair of crap over years. so why do this to me, !! ive been told i will need ecemo and radio, so the haor thing is my biggest fear, being sick and not being in control of my life is also an alwful dread, the consultant actually said you have a very tuff 12 months ahead. brill.
im in a relavaty new raltionship, 7 months, and he has been amazing. he lives with his 2 dughters 7 and 9, and they only know about my bad throat.
i havent any kids and i ould have liked some, so thats all gone out the window.
how will my life ever be mine again
Hi there poppy333
Welcome to our Forums, I’m sure you’ll find them a great source of information and support.
Whilst you’re awaiting responses from others, I thought you might be interested in our Resources Pack aimed at those newly diagnosed.
The pack can be ordered through the link below and it’s filled with information to help you better understand your diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available.
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Best wishes
Louise
Facilitator
Hi
I totally empathise with how you feel as it seems like you have no control over your own life at the moment. If you read some of the posts you will see that lots of us say that this period of waiting is the hardest time of all. Once you start to find out what treatment you will have and have been given dates to start it gets easier because although it can be months (I’m halfway through chemo with rads to follow after) you at least know there is an end at some point. As most of us say, chemo is not nice but is doable and rads is a walk in the park after. There is a thread about how to cope with side effects which is really worth reading as I found it a great help. As for the hair loss, this is the hardest thing to cope with and discussed lots in the early days with those you can link up with via this site who are on the same timescale as you. Keep posting whenever you need to as it can help so much to get answers, share feelings or just link up with people who can understand how you are feeling. Most of us also say that life will never be the same but that it can change for the better. I have already decided that working for hours at home (for free) was leaving me with no time for family, which being off work for six months is giving me. You will be surprised at times who will offer help and support and take all offers you feel comfortable with.
HUGE hugs and good vibes (mega!!) for your results later today
Ali.xx
Hi Poppy333
I was diagnosed in February, had surgery, finished chemo 4 weeks ago and start rads on Monday.
The reverse to you, just before my last chemo I found a couple of ‘lumps’ on my throat, one on the thyroid and another (cant remember where they said it was, but throat)… I go to have surgery for that on the 1st of November - like you, they will also remove some bone along with the lumps.
I dont know how I feel about that, a little anxious maybe…
But what I wanted to say is that you will get through the BC treatment, it is scary… the unknown is terrible.
For what it is worth, chemo was ok for me, I contunued to work and only really had a few days every three weeks when I felt poorly. I appreciate that I am one of the lucky ones, but it does happen and everyone’s experiences are different.
I planned for the worst and hoped for the best, ultimately was very lucky.
Best wishes, I hope your results were ‘good’
Marguerite
HI there - So sorry you are going through this too. I am a new one too. 4 weeks from finding a lump to now sitting at home 3 days after my op (lumpectomy & node removal) waiting for the drain to be removed. We are all different but I think the rollercoaster ride is the most accurate description I keep seeing. Yes it really is going to be a hard year BUT you can get through it - take whatever support you have on offer - cry when you need to and try to laugh still when you can.
The main thing I find hard but also reassuring is that life does not stop even though you feel like it should have. try to just focus on each step as it comes without thinking too far ahead about next treatments. As each day passes that’s one day nearer to getting better. We are just at the beginning but reading others stories on here has already helped me so much. Unfortunately we are not alone. so many women are having to deal with this and more and more are younger which is awful as you just don’t expect it.
right now I’m just slightly abusing my tramadol as it makes my head a bit fuzzy & sometimes that’s wnat I need as well as for the pain - but who cares - whatever helps right now. Having this happen has also made me realise just how many people care. there is so muchg support out there as well as the tons I’m getting from my family & friends - use it - I intend to & hope to even make some new friends out of this.
Hope things settle & you feel a bit better soon but |I think it is all going to be up and down for quite a while
thanx girls. xx nice to know im not alone xx