Hi -first time of posting...Jools

Hi -first time of posting…Jools

Hi -first time of posting…Jools Hi all
my name is Julie, I live in Oakley, near Basingstoke. I am 35 and have been diagnosed with breast cancer
My feet feel that they haven’t touched the ground. It has literally been a month from finding the lump to having it removed. I know from reading the posts that I am so lucky to be treated so quickly. It still doesnt seem real though -that when i wake up in the morning it will not have happened
I had a lumpectomy last tuesday and my Dr has said I will be having chemo and radiotherapy. Will know more tomorrow when we go back to the hospital for results
I work in a lovely little infant school. I interviewed for the job three days before we broke up for Easter. I then found the lump and was diagnosed over the Easter holidays. I then had the difficult job of going in on my first day of my new job and saying 'you know you hired me with a clean bill of health… well over easter …this has happened. Luckily they were fantastic and said ‘we hired you because you were the best person for the job’
i am married to a fantastic guy and have a little boy of 6. We’ve had up and down days with my son. he listens and then comes out with stuff that i just know he’s been brooding. He’s been funny since my op and it turns out that he’s been too scared to cuddle me incase I start bleeding. How do you answer your son when he says ‘Are you going to die …mum?’
My husband has been brilliant but he’s so stressed, I just don’t know how to reach him or help him through. I can tell he’s stressed just by looking at him. Today he crashed one of our cars. He’s ok but it hasn’t helped. I want to help him but am having a hard time dealing with all this myself
Hospital is pressing us for an answer as to whether we want to save eggs as i haven’t gone through menopause.We always wanted another child but its Too much to decide…i feel i just can’t cope
Anyway -I just wanted to introduce myself …sorry for going on too much but nice to have found somewhere to talk
Jools

For Jools Hi Jools

Welcome to the forums, I am sure you will receive lots of helpful advice and support from the other forum users. I am sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis, please feel free to contact our freephone helpline on 0808 800 6000 where you are able to talk to someone in confidence about how you are feeling at the moment. The line is open Monday - Friday 9am - 5pm, Saturdays 9am - 2pm

Breast Cancer Care have recently published a Resources Pack which you may find helpful to read, it is filled with information to help you better understand your diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available. You can download it from the following link or you can ask for a copy to be sent to you via the helpline:

breastcancercare.org.uk//content.php?page_id=7514

I hope you find this helpful.

Kind Regards
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Breast Cancer Care

Hi Hello Julie, sorry you have had to join us but you have come to the right place!

I’m 36 and was dx last june, i had a mastectomy and node removal, unfortunately mine were’nt clear but i have had chemo and rads and 10mths later im back at work and feeling really well!!!

My kids were great through it all, i made sure that they knew as much as they needed too and always asked them if they wanted to talk about anything and to be honest they coped really well.

It may seem all doom and gloom at the moment but it will get back to normal again, this last year has been the saddest and yet the happiest year of my adult life, we have never stopped laughing and enjoying life, Cancer makes you re-evaluate what is important to you and for me it is for my kids to have a happy childhood and live life to the full!!!

After i came out of hospital i had a card off an old headmistress i worked with and the last line of the verse said " and the sun will shine for you again" at the time i couldnt see this and didnt think much about it, but through all my treatment it kept popping into my head and now i can and it does shine again, so keep being positive and take one day at a time!!!

All the best and keep in touch

Gilly xxx