thankyou for all your lovely and honest comments. We do have a rota which my daughter happily made this week so that everyone has something to do every day even if it is little things its a help she also made a point of putting the oh on it lol xxx Im sure it will sort its self out one way or the other and to be honest im in the frame of mind where im not letting it get to me too much now had a convo with the kids and they are feeling a bit happier and i made a point of saying we will get through this as a family no matter how hard it is we have each other to help each other out, told them i know its hard on them they got exams etc… going on also. But just want us all to be open and honest and cry get angry if we need to. I just hope the oh pulls together with us if not then its his loss two beautiful kids a soon to be healthy girlfriend who cares alot about him i have a lovely family and i feel extremely proud of children xx this time next year we can hopefully look back and think damn that was hard but we came out the otherside either as a family of 3 or 4 xxx
Hi Alleycat and Libravet,
I know exactly how you feel and have been in a similar situation myself. OH wasn’t living with us which probably made it easier but shipped out rather than support me through this time. I guess bc shows you who the true friends and lovers are. I have loving kids and some excellent friends and I appreciate them all the more because they have stuck with me when times have been hard.
I know it is tough and lonely, and I want nothing more than for someone to tell me that they love me whatever and ache for a cuddle sometimes, but if that isn’t the case I am better off knowing and as you say, you will both come through this with the love and support of those who do care. If it means finding a new partner who wants to be with you whatever, then so be it. At the moment I am fine with just me and my kids.
Once I am well and in the future I would love to meet the right man, but getting through this and being healthy for my kids matters more. Keep strong, we will all come through this stronger people xx
thanks mary grace xxx what will be will be thats what i say now !!!