Hi @tinkerbell4
I was diagnosed with Hormone positive Invasive Ductal in April (8/8, 5/8 and HER2-ve), like you ultrasound and MRI had not shown anything other than the primary tumour.
It was like having the rug pulled from me when two of the sentinel nodes were found to have macromets - one 5mm, that had gone beyond the lymph node and one 3mm. It changed my treatment plan completely, from surgery and radiotherapy to chemotherapy, more surgery to do axillary clearance, then ratio therapy plus a CDK4/6 inhibitor and Letrozole for 7 years. I’m 52, but they said the level of treatment is because I’m young, could handle the treatment and they have a good chance of making sure it doesn’t come back.
I went strait to chemo - the oncologist talked me through my predict scores and what each treatment would add to my 5,10 and 15 year survival rates. That was enough. We have gone straight to chemo - 4 cycles every 2 weeks of EC and 4 of Paclitaxol. It’s not fun, but doable and every one done is a step in the road out of hell.
I asked my oncologist how they would know if there had been any cancer in any of the nodes treated by chemo - apparently they will likely have some evidence of scarring or a few left over cells.
Wow, this is a long reply! But I also used to be a psychologist who specialised in working with cancer patients. The level of treatment they have for breast cancer is phenomenally different to what it was 25 years ago when I started. Night and day. More and more things are coming on line all the time. I suspect in 10 years we may even be passing the need for chemo and shifting to immunotherapy. Your team will want you to live a long and happy life and will work with you to do the best you can make that happen.
In the meantime, acknowledge that this is terrifying, that you don’t want to be hear, but that everything you are going to go through is to give you back your life. It will change you undoubtedly, but that won’t necessarily be for the worse. Many people. One out of this feeling a clarity of what they want from life and a desire to live fully but not sweat the small stuff. Take all the support that’s offered, it will be practical things that help the most. Food people bring, baby sitting, pet sitting, food buying, popping in for a cup of tea in your good days. You will find strength you didn’t know you had, side by side by vulnerability, fear and sadness. All of these are good, all will help you even if they feel terrible at the time. Take very good care x