how long for swelling to go down?

Hi all, i had my recon on the 30th november and it is still sore bruised and swollen, i had tissue expander put in. i have seen my bc nurse and she said all is well but cant start expanding untill the swelling has gone down, has anyone had the same and how long did it take to go down? sorry if i am moaning but i am sick of being in pain i am 33 and want all tis to end so that i can carry on my life.
take care
clare xxx