HUSBAND SEEKING HELP
HUSBAND SEEKING HELP I thought I would post some positive news for a change!
My husband who is self employed stopped working last Oct when I was diagnosed. This was his choice and though it was good to have his support early on, in recent wks I have been trying to get him to return to work as we really need his income. He refused. Not in so many words, he would say he was looking for work then do nothing. Most of the time I had very little energy to pursue this and trusted him. He made no effort to get work.
Over time I realised he was depressed and couldn’t return to work, he wasn’t able to emotionally. After a few chats with my MacMillan Nurse who offered to talk to him (He refused, ‘I don’t need any pills etc etc’), She hatched a plan. She got our GP to write to him and get him to come into the surgery for a routine blood pressure test. It worked!
He went in yesterday to see the nurse. His blood pressure was high so she has refered him to the GP. But the best thing is she has managed to get him to talk about his problems. He told me today he asked to be refered as he knows he is unwell! This feels like a miracle has happened, I hope it is the start of a more positive time in our lives and that HE is seen by others as having needs through this crappy illness of mine.
Will keep you informed of his hopful progress.
Irene
Irene,
glad to hear your positive news. I have recently went through a similar experience in our family with my father who we could all see was suffering from depression for the last year , although he couldnt , until about a month ago, he realised he had a problem and went to his G.P. he was prescribed antidepressants which has taken about a month to work, now we have our dad back, although it has been a long process getting there, so i sympathise with you. Dealing with this illness is hard enough and we could do without any added distractions, but life is life and these things are sent to try us !!!
Good luck and hope things work out ok
Lorri xx
Hi Irene,
I remember following your posts a little while ago when you told us what was happening. I am so glad to hear this very upbeat post from you. I hope hubby continues to accept help now and that things really do improve for you both. Good luck,
lol Dawnhc
great news Good to hear about your hubby am sure you will both benefit from this help…
Elaine
very often the partner is suffering and we don’t realise how much.
mine suffered and got help, he was so angry as well as low.
glad you are getting help now.
sharon