Hi Glenna - you’re so right about friends. My oldest friend (as in number of years we’ve been friends) broke down and cried SO hard I couldn’t cope with her reaction. Even now I find talking to her draining; whereas an aquaintances put a bit of a ‘bl00dy hell mate’ slant on things. She told me I didn’t have anything to worry about as I’m a fighter and don’t take being pushed about lightly, so there’s nothing to worry about! Now she texts and calls regularly to make sure I’m fighting the good fight!
You’re description of Cancer being an upside down disease is so right!
Reading the threads on this site is so reassuring isn’t it? Makes you feel normal - says she with a drain full of guff hanging out of her right armpit, with bed hair and the baggiest tracksuit bottoms on whilst mum is slogging away in my kitchen making my tea! Oooo how quickly we descend
I am 5 years down the line but remember very well the feeling that I had to cancel my life! I almost told them ‘you can’t be right, I am far too busy to be ill!’ Actually treatment etc was much more do-able than expected, and I ended up working more or less as normal (just a day or two off each cycle) as I much preferred it to sitting at home. Also fitted in holidays abroad.
So you may get your like back quicker than expected, just see how it goes. It does pass, you will get through it!
Probably all of us will identify strongly with your comments about the shock and unreality of it. It takes a while to get your head around this new reality that’s suddenly hit you - I certainly found that for a while I felt like two people, the “me” I had always known, and the “me” with cancer. It took a while for the two to even start speaking to each other.
Hi BRIGHTEYES,
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AS I WAS DIAGNOSED ON JUNE 14TH. I HAVE TWO CHILDREN A GIRL FOUR AND A BOY EIGHT.I AM 41 YEARS OLD AND ITS THE LAST THING I EXPECTED.I HAVE HAD MOMENTS OF DESPERATION AT THE THOUGHT OF NOT BEING THERE FOR MY KIDS SO I KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH BUT ALSO THE TREATMENTS NOW ARE SO ADVANCED THAT WE JUST HAVE TO THINK POSITIVE.I FIND IF I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING AND TELL MYSELF “TODAY I GET TO SPEND WITH MY KIDS” YOU START TO APPRECIATE EVERY LITTLE DETAIL OF YOUR DAY.CANCER OR NO CANCER ALL ANY OF US REALLY HAVE IS THE MOMENT WE ARE IN.TAKE IT DAY BY DAY AND IT STARTS TO GET EASIER.
back from my mastectomy last week with axillary clearance.all went ok i have more flowers than you can shake a stick at you realise how much people think of you!!! have pathology results next week has anyone else had their prognosis???
I start chemo next week and went and got my free NHS wig today! It looks so much better than my real hair - the style I always wanted but never could achieve.
Hi Brighteyes, how’re you feeling? So pleased you have lots of love and support around you. Like you, I couldn’t move for cards and flowers, it is really quite humbling isn’t it?
Hope your path results are kind to you and that you’re able to tackle your chemo with your bright and perky approach. I’m just waiting for my chemo start date - should be middle week of Sept. Do you know what type of chemo you will be having yet, or will that be dependent upon the path report?
How you getting on with the exercises? I’m up to three times a day now, as I had troubles with seroma and mild cording, but massage and gentle streching are seeing those off.
