Hi mrsquincey- first of all a big hug and a warm welcome to this lovely forum, I’m so glad you found us and hope that we can help and support you through this.
You have just had a huge shock today and not surprisingly you feel like you have just been hit by a truck. I remember a similar shock at the clinic - the first consultant I saw told me that he was 100% certain it was benign but once I had the mammogram and ultrasound they decided it didn’t look so innocent, and the biopsy confirmed their fears.
From what I have read on here, and heard from friends going through treatment, it is very usual to do further scans to check you over, I had the same as you are having. The team need to be sure what they are dealing with - and the waiting for results is the hardest time. The best advice I received was to take one day at a time and never ever to google things - Dr Google doesn’t understand your individual diagnosis and will only worry you. This is the time to be very kind and gentle with yourself, and to keep yourself busy - I am sure you are very busy with 3 children, but when they are at school that is the time for you to get out some trashy films or whatever helps you. It may sound odd, but it is easier once you get a treatment plan in place and especially a start date. Your team will hold your hand every step of the way with chemo, but please ask if any of us can answer specific worries or questions.
I also had chemo first, then surgery.
You might like to join the October chemo group that has just been set up - forum.breastcancernow.org/t5/Chemotherapy-monthly-threads/October-2020-Chemo-Starters/td-p/1343687 There is a group each month for people to join and everyone supports each other through treatment.
I’m sure you will have been assigned a breast care nurse at your hospital who you can call with questions, but there is also a lovely team of nurses on here - number at the top of the page. Or you can get in touch with the Someone Like Me service, who will put you in touch with someone with similar diagnosis to help support you.
You need to keep in mind that treatment for breast cancer has improved so much over the years and you will be under the care of a very experienced team who will consider your case very carefully. If you have specific questions, jot them down in a notebook and also write down the answers at the time - I found that if I didn’t write things down straight away it was all a blur once I was out of the appointment!
I have probably overloaded you with information so I will stop now! But please keep talking to us - come back and ask any specific questions, or just offload. Everyone just “gets is” on here, no explanation is every needed. I often found it easier to chat on here than I did to friends and family.
You really will find the strength to get through your treatment, even if it doesn’t feel like it today.
My very best wishes to you, Evie xx
you use the threads as much or as little as you need Put yourself first, do everything your own way, no right or wrongs it’s your journey Always ring your team about anything that doesn’t feel right during treatments you should be given a rapid response card before chemo Getting through safely is what your team want you to do and they won’t mind how often you ring them, they will be glad you are vigilant, it helps them help you 
