hello everyone , sad to be joining you but so glad im not on my own , diagnosed friday but wont get type results till wednesday , i am terrified , emotions running wild , cant sleep and food holds no pleasure , i have what i feel is anxiety knot in my chest and have never known fear like it , please someone tell me this is all normal because i think im going mad , my name is trish , i`m 48 , 3 daughters and a wonderful partner x
Hi Trish
sorry you have had to join us… everybody reacts differently and some people are very calm and even unreactive but some people are completely traumatised by the news… the waiting for results is horrible as you just dont know what they are going to tell you, however the majority of BC is very treatable and even curable.
try to be good to yourself… and try not to jump too far into the future… take little steps at a time… dont google too much or youll drive yourself potty too.
we are all here to support you… and you can call the helpline who are great at giving one to one support.
love and hugs
Lulu x
Trish, there are so many responses to this horrible disease, and all of them are normal. Have replied to your other post.
CM
I too am 48 with 2 kids 9& 7. I was dx recently with bc left breast but I beat it 14 years ago and intend to do the same again!it’s more than normal to feel fear, it will settle with time xxxx we are all rooting for you xxx
hi trish ,what you feel is so normal cancer is a word that just does that!you have found great support here and the fear will ease and you will put on your boxing gloves and come out fighting take care love rachelx
Its normal,i thought i was the only one to act that way,then i started treatment in jan 6xfec,and i got in2fight mode…How dare cancer come and take over my happy life!Im 47thought i was2young until i started reading this site…Iv calmed down alot,have20rads to do nxt its a long road anyone can do it if i can…I was a nervous wreck! X
Trish,
You are so normal - and what has helped me the most is these forums where I can be “normal” about my emotions etc so that I cope better most of the time by sharing the scarey thoughts and ways of coping along the way of treatments. Waiting for results is really hard so do let us know how you get on on Wednesday - only one more day to go and you will then know the reality rather than having a brain in overdrive - at least that’s how I am when waiting for results.
Hi
I am 50 (a very young 50 i might add lol!) got two kids 17 and 15 but recently divorced.
waiting for my results on 23rd May, had two operations - lumpectomy and full clearance of the lympth nodes, i am “borderline” chemo and this is the bit i am so scared of - the ops were a breeze - well allmost! receovered very quickly. find it very comforting to look on this site and there are so many people going through the same thing. i have had some very down moments and so anxious but for some reason feel quite calm at the moment. just feel like there isn’t much to look forward to at the moment.
Cheryl xx
if i can speak what i feel then this is it. in my darkest moments i see light , when the cold attacks my darkest fears i feel warmth , my body lets me down but my heart is strong , i have seen so much but my sight has been blighted by granted ,how easy days came and nights went , how much i took for granted i would have tomorrow , the arguments . the love , the depressions and the highs , they were all preperation for this day and today i thank you that i am here . for today i begin the first step of the rest of my life , we will walk together therefore we shall never really be alone xxxxxxxxxx
Of course the fear is normal, especially in this early period where you have the basic bad news, but no details and no plan. Your partner will also probably be rather scared, but trying not to show it.
Paul.
What a beautiful worded verse Trish1968, it summed up my feeling beautifully.
The first time 3 years ago when I was diagnosed, I also went into aspiral of fear depression etc. I planed my funeral on minute cos that was the end, to I’m not giving in and planing a holiday. Your feelings are so normal. This time even though it’s a lot more serious I have been so much calmer, so any emotions are ok. Take care, be kind to yourself and try not look to far forward.
Sending you a hug BD xxxx
Trish so thoughtful - thanks for sharing this verse. Sharing is so positive - loneliness on top of the diagnosis would be awful. You are helping me to acknowledge the complexities of emotions and for that I thank you
Fran
Hi Trish,
I’ve just joined this forum too. I was given the official news on thursday that I have breast cancer and its turned my life upside down. Hence I am sitting here at 6.05am on a sunday morning with the biggest hangover the world has ever seen! I don’t think anyone can say what amount of fear is normal or abnormal! I’m just wanting to lash out at the whole world at the moment. I think i’ve argued with the whole world and his wife over the last 24 hours! I just hope my family can forgive me for the hell I’m putting them through at the moment. I can’t even begin to describe the thoughts and feelings that are going on in my head. I’m 50, have two grown up children that have left home and a two year old grandson. I’ve always been the one that solves everyones problems and suddenly I have the biggest problem ever and have no solution at all. Everything is out of my control and it’s scrambling my brain! lol. I wish you all the best on your journey through this, but don’t worry about being scared. I think we would be incredibly weird if we wasn’t!!
Hi Trish & Kakady,
I am so sorry that you have both found yourself here.
I was diagnosed in December at 40yrs with 4 children, 2 of which are still quite young.
There is nothing that can prepare you for the shock & fear of a Bc diagnosis but i promise that as soon as a treatment plan is put into action that fear changes to a feeling of relief that plans are now in place to eradicate every last bad cell from your body.
I am just coming to the end of 6 lots of chemo to be followed by radiotherapy & Tamoxifen, it has been tough but totally doable & the end of the path is so much closer than it was at Xmas when i 1st started out.
You will get tons of advice, support, love & friendship from the ladies & men on this site & there is also a brilliant helpline that you can call for either support, advice or just a chat.
Much love to you both
Sarah.xxx
Hi Kakady and welcome to the BCC forums
In addition to the support you have here please call our helpline as 021210 has kindly suggested, it’s open weekdays 9-5 and Sat 9-2 on 0808 800 6000.
I am posting a link to the BCC newly diagnosed resource pack which you may find helpful:
Take care
Lucy
Hi Kakady
I was only diagnosed 10 days ago, awaitng wle and snb on friday. Altough my news is really new and everything is only just falling into place, with the help of everyone here I’m already begining to think this is do-able and I will get through it.Believe me your thoughts and feelings change from day to day and hour to hour, you just have to go with it and be kind to yourself, that is what I am trying to do, although it’s not easy!!
jane x
Hi Trish,
Sending love. I was diagnosed yesterday and had an MRI scan today and waiting for results too. I’m with you. Just don’t know what to do with myself. I just want to know the prognosis and the treatment plan so I can feel a bit more in control and know what to expect and when it’s all going to happen.
Sending love and strong thoughts.
x