Hi lovelies, Im at the start of my roller coaster ride too. Found the lump, was too busy to get it checked until I took my 11year old in with an ear infection a couple of months later.
Im having my biopsy for margins on monday and blood tests, my surgeon said he doesnt normally talk to women before that, but my ultrasound was pretty conclusive. a 2.8cm mass surrounded by 5.8cm of changed tissue.
Apparently even dds cant come back from that being removed. (im a little disappointed in the girls!all those years of supporting them with pretty bras and underwires)
He said preliminary plan is to shrink it with chemo before removal.
it doesnt appear to be in my lymph nodes.
Im dealing with it mostly with gallows humour and madly singing and dancing with my children. They’re 10 and 11.
Ive told most of the people around me, skipped in with the ‘its treatable’ it’ll be fine routine. But those waves of black boiling fear are getting worse. And they sneak up on you. And its getting harder to wrestle them back in the box.
Reading all your stories helps immensely, but once my eyes start leaking they cant seem to stop.
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Sorry you’ve ended up here but it’s a great forum!
I was diagnosed a month ago and was struggling with all the scans and waiting etc. but once I had a treatment plan in place I felt a lot better and more in control and was ready to fight!
I have a 4-5cm lump that has gone to the lymph nodes so I’m having chemo first too. Actually had my 2nd round today!
I told all my friends soon after I was diagnosed, I did a mass FB status to just get it out there! Found the support from everyone brilliant and that has really helped. I am only 30 with two small boys so needed the big support network.
I don’t know your age (it’s rude to ask!:)) but I have found an absolutely amazing FB page for people under 45 with BC. The ladies on there have been fantastic!
Thank you for replying. Im 45 , dont feel old until my girls want me to jump on the trampline. aint nodody needs to see that!
I have a couple of weeks to wait for tests to be reviewed, not long in the grand scheme apparently. It just sneaks up on me.
I decided today to be 'not home ’ and have tucked my car behind my neighbours house so I dont have to face up to anyone. It gets tiring acting cool the whole time.
I shall follow your journey , I felt like such a plonker with such a big lump, I was expecting something pea sized and assumed I just had lumpy boobs. Pfft.
I still have to tell my mum, but am waiting till I have a treatment plan so she has something to think about.
Its amazing how kind the people around me are. My girls are at a country school, , the teachers said if I get stuck coming back from town they’ll just take them home and look after them.
Actually I feel better just knowing you’re there too. How was your chemo?
My pleasure lovely. It definitely helps having people to talk to, especially people going through the same thing. If you’re on FB, get yourself on the page, it’s been fantastic for me. Any questions you have you get a speedy and lovely reply. And they listen if you just want to have a good old rant! Look up Younger Breast Cancer Network and send them a message. I tend to do most of my posting on there but keep coming back here to help newly diagnosed ladies as it really helped me at the beginning.And you can always find me on FB and message me any time…or message me on here obviously!
A couple of weeks isn’t a long time but unfortunately at the moment for us 1 day feels like a week!! And I panicked when I felt my lump that it was massive and how did I not feel it before! But I have a fast growing cancer so chances are it wasn’t there for long! Chemo is now shrinking that b*stard though!
Chemo wasn’t too bad. My first one was a dream, no sickness or anything! Then I caught my sons cold when my immune system was at its lowest and ended up in hospital for 5 days! Learnt my lesson there!
It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, we’re all in it together!
And days 8-11 after chemo is your most vulnerable apparently so note that one down! I’m going into hibernation those days
We all cope in different ways and I have chosen to try and laugh my way through with friends and family it if I can…otherwise I think I would be a mess! Xx
Hi Keepmumsane,
If you have a good imagination this may help at times when you feel a bubbling up and have your own space…think to yourself I just need to get through this and think of somewhere you love…a place, the sights and sounds, how relaxed you feel in that place, the weather, breeze, sun, wind whatever it is that makes that place make you feel real. Focus on it imagining you are there…if you can do so you’ll gain time of pure escapism, relaxation and will feel stronger for it.
Also be kind to yourself, only natural to get teary at times and anyone who counts will know that.
X Seabreeze
Ahhh bummer!! wonder if there is anything like it for other parts of the world!
I’m happy to become friends on FB if you want to talk any time. Just private message me if this is something you’d like to do and we can go from there.
If not, keep using this forum, lots of lovely helpful people here too xx
I’m very glad you seem to be keeping your spirits up! good luck deciding which games to remove…could be interesting!’
Real shame about your trip away, sounds like it would have been a perfect time to get away for a bit. But hey, time to get yourself better and go after all this sh*t we’ve got to get through!
You’ll be able to do gardening just be careful at certain times after chemo.
Good news is that I’m feeling fine 2nd chemo on Wednesday and not feeling sick at all. Felt quite tired yesterday but after a good nights sleep last night I’m feeling fine today. Even shared a bottle of wine this evening which went down well! long may the minimal side effects continue!!
I’ll send you a private message on here saying how to find me on FB, then we can say hi on there xxx
but it’s a great forum!