8 weeks after mastectomy and reconstruction the normal life I craved is harder than I thought, because I try and be positive 99% of the time, I don’t allow myself time to be down and now realise that I am positive for those around me but don’t always believe it myself.
Dear will668
It might help to give our Helpline a call to talk over how you are feeling. They will be able to offer you practical information and emotional support. The opening hours are 9-5 on weekdays and 10-2 on Saturdays. The number is 0808 800 6000
Very best wishes
Janet
BCC Moderator
Hi
8 weeks is still a very short time to be able to feel that what has happened is ‘real’ and that you are now normal again.
My experience has been that you do adjust, it takes time, but it is a ‘new’ normal.
Be gentle with yourself and don’t feel bad that you can’t be upbeat all the time. What you are experiencing is only natural. Many hospitals and BC charities offer counselling which you might like to think about?
Take care.
Mary
Thank you Mary for your kind words, I may even consider that although I never thought I would.
Thank you Janet, I’m going to call next week as I think it may help as I have had and beaten cancer before, so although feel very lucky, I now feel very scared that third time not so lucky is just round the corner.
Will668 agree with Mary, I have undertaken councelling and finding it useful - this is taking place now I have finished all treatment and have my hair starting to grow back and everyone thinks I look amazing and am strong.
NO - I feel cancer has aged me and feel weary and being brave for others and feel let down by health professionals as I have fears re side effects etc and no answer. I am looking into doing a moving forward course so if there is one near you try this - I also went to the Penny Brohn Centre in Bristol and found them amazing perhaps you could consider this - best to you