Hi
Hope you have a good holiday, and yes it does help to know there is life after…thanks xx
I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer yesterday on my daughters 15th birthday. Had a mammogram, ultrasound, cell scrape from lymph glands (I think that’s what they were doing anyway?), just been back today for an MRI. Will find out exactly what stage I’m at and what’s going to happen next on Tuesday 10th April. Husband is taking it very hard, I’m sort of ok but keep having outbursts of tears and worry. I think I am going to have to be very strong for all my family. I’m just so shocked, when they said cancer I wasn’t expecting it AT ALL!
It is a very worrying time, I was told last weds, and had an mri yesterday, i see my dr next weds which feels like forever, i was told i have invasive ductal cancer, hoping and praying it isnt spread, it is so hard to take in i was like a zombie last weds and went off to work thurs for 4 days, acting normal one minute then crying and angry the next, big hugs for you hun…xxxx
Hi Lisa and everyone else recently diagnosed
I was diagnosed last September, had a WLE & SNB in October which found further cancer, so had 8 cycles of chemo (just had last one today…hooray) and I am having a right mastectomy and lymph node clearance at the end of April. Once op is done and dusted, then onto Radiotherapy. Its a long road.
Little more to add really but to say no matter how scared, upset, angry you feel right now, it WILL get better. You just begin to accept this is whats happening to you and everything becomes do-able even if now you cannot possibly see the wood for the trees.
I too at the beginning cried. I tried not to cry in front of anyone, but at certain times my emotions would just build up like a pressure cooker and when alone and I started thinking about it…boy did i cry. But every tear helps ease the built up stress and afterwards you find an inner strength you didn’t know you had, so don’t you ever feel like you should not cry.
you will find coping techniques that work for you and when you need to ask anything, or just get crap days off your chest, there are many ladies on here who have every time in the world to hear you out and share your pain as a collective…I have never felt alone in here although I have never met anyone face to face from these forums.
Always remember there are thousands of women out there who faced the beast before us and have gone on to lead healthy cancer free lives, some of them have kicked cancers ass 2 and 3 times you just don’t hear from them very often as they are busy socialites lol.
At the same time I remember those that didn’t make it, every day I think of them and I will do all I can do to raise breast cancer awareness just as they would want us to.
You will NEVER walk alone
Love & Blessings to you all
Lisa
xxx
Hi rebeldrank and welcome to the BCC forums
I am sorry to read about the shock of your recent diagnosis, in addition to the support you have here please feel free to call our helpliners where you can talk things over. The lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 9-2 Sat on 0808 800 6000
I am posting a link to the BCC ‘Newly diagnosed’ page where you will find further support ideas and publications/ information you may find helpful:
breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis
BCC have also written a publication aimed at partners called 'In it together’which your husband may find useful to read, you can access a copy here:
Take care
Lucy
Hi Lisa, I am trying my hardest to keep strong and in top but it is hard, i sometimes feel very calm, other wierd thing is i am sleeping loads now, apart from that feel normal, tired but that too be expected, i am waiting until weds to get results of mri, and dreading those, they have already said it is grade 3 invasive ductal, it is too see if it has spread, i am just keeping busy, and trying not to get too emotional and obviously the thoughts of surviving it too, which i intend to fight…thanks for your kind words…xxxx
Hello everyone who has commented. I was diagnosed a week ago today. Had an MRI on Monday and I have an appointment at 2pm today to get results of that and hopefully be told my treatment plan. I feel sick to the pit of my stomach and have that horrible hollow leg feeling when I’m on my feet! I am still waiting for my inner strength to kick in but it still hasn’t made an appearance! X
hi doodles
will be thinking of you today and sure your iner strenght will come through
good luck x
Keep strong hun…deep breaths…let us know how you get on…x x x
Hi guys,
Just reading your posts. I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer. I’ve had mammogram, ultra sound and biopsies. They told me i had breast cancer but didn’t tell me what stage it was at and what type ive got etc. i was told it was localised though. im wondering how come i havent had a MRI or CT scan. i guess the localised means its gone no further.I know they can tell alot just by mamograms, ultra sounds and biopsies. My consultant told me 6hrs later…but i guess all cancers are different and are at different stages. It also depends how quickly you have found it.
I having a mastectomy…well partial mastectomy plus rads and chemo.
This is all new to me as well.
We all just need to stick together and we have to remember it is curable…:)…
Karen x
Hi Karen, dont know what localised means, maybe it will be ok, not spread thats good…thats good that he told you 6 hrs later, i had to wait a week for my biopsy results, and then mri on tuesday, next week have discussion for treatment, so you are lucky to find out quickly…hugs hun…xxxx
im not sure what localised means either tbh …
Update. MRI showed up another (tiny) mass. So had another scan and biopsy, which didn’t hurt half as much as last weeks. I now have to wait till the 16th April for the results. I thought I was going to get a date for surgery today but they cant tell me that till they know what they are dealing with. If the second mass turns out to be cancerous too it’s looking like a mastectomy, if not it will be a lumpectomy. Ugh! More waiting 
I know they are doing what’s best for me and need to get it right, I just feel like I’m stuck in limbo. I just want this out of me. Also I feel absolutely drained by thinking and talking about it constantly. I know people mean well and are concerned but I feel like my phone is constantly going with calls & texts. Moan over 
Love to all x
HI Doodles
Sounds like we are at the same stage. I was diagnosed yesterday and told I have 15mm invasive cancerous Cells in my left breast. I think they are micro calcifications rather than a lump as they showed on the mammogram as chalk dust (doctors words). I have been booked in to see a breast specialist on 16th also. Good luck xx
i know what you mean about the drained feeling…all i can think about is bloody breast cancer and its doing my head in. I keep thinking is this going to get any easier…x
Hi KB, I’m here if you want to talk. I’m still a bit in the surreal stages although I had a major melt down earlier - no one knows how to cook, dog will never be walked, rubbish wont go out blah blah but feeling a bit better tonight. How are you doing x
Hi guys,
I just wanted to say I know it feels endless now, waiting is the pits, but it honestly will get easier with time. I understand that is really hard to believe, but try to hang on to the thought of getting through one day at a time for now, and keep using this site for support.
Lynda
Hi all glad you feeling more positive doodles…big hug…waiting awful…i have till 11th , and i am just filling my days up with friends and outings, saw an old friend earlier whose mum survived breast cancer 12 years ago, yes kb it does seem to be the only talking point at the moment, it must get easier, i am feeling positive at the mo…sending you all love and hugs…xxxx
Hi guys,
Well its day 2 after being told i was dx. After reading other peoples experiences and treatments etc, it’s all starting to come to light.
I think it does start to sink in more and more.
It’s now 2.39am and I am having trouble sleeping so i have just got up. The first thing i did was come downstairs and read this site. Somehow i feel it helps and i feel i have got support.
I keep thinking to myself that this horrible thing inside my body as been caught early and thankful that i have been seen and sorted.It could have been a lot worse.
Think i better get back in to bed and try and get some sleep…
Hi all, just got up and done some chores now having the first of many cups of tea, then going to get ready to go out with some friends, and keep positive…havent cried yet today…not to say it wont happen…have a good day all…keep smiling…xxxx