Hi all. I was diagnosed with breast cancer with liver mets in December 2014. Im 13 weeks into my chemo (which I have weekly) and have 5 more sessions to go. So far the results are fab and my consultant is really pleased but I think its just hit home that its ALWAYS going to be there. How the hell do you cope with trying to carry on with your life but knowing its always there?
My hubby says I should stay positive until my chemo is over and I have the results of the final scans and I think Im doing a pretty good job of ‘keeping my chin up’ to be fair. Im still working full time and Im very lucky that I dont have really bad side effects but occasionally I just dont know how to deal with it all.
It looks likely that once chemo is over I will start on Tamoxifen. Should I be pushing for anything else??? Or should I just wait and see what they say once the chemo stops?
I just need somebody who knows what Im feeling to give me a positive kick up the bum I suppose!
Hello SmartiePants and welcome to the forum. We are sorry you had to join us. I have found friendship and support. There is also lots of practical advice. My story is bc dx in Sep 2013 bone mets 2013 . All a bit of a shock. However the emotional part didn’t really hit me until Feb 2015. I think it was the shock and just getting through treatments. Everyone is different and we react differently . I think carrying on as normal is hard at times and some days impossible. Be gentle with yourself, you are human. I think of the big C as a playground bully. It was just bad luck it decided to pick on me.When I have a good day I cheer inside because C didn’t win that day. You are still you just a new you. You can still enjoy your friends , laugh and have good times.
When the bad days come C still doesn’t win , because the support and sometime madness on this forum gets me through those days. I am on Tamoxifen and bone injections. Tamoxifen (fingers crossed ) is doing its job at the moment. With no bad side effects
So take care and welcome
Marie xxxx
Hi Smartiepants, sorry you have had to join us but you have come to right place for support and understanding, my primary dx was 2007 then mets last year, mine are in my hips,ribs and spine and I am on tamoxifen, zoladex and denosumab. Please don’t be too hard on yourself, you don’t need a kick up the bum your human and you are dealing with a rotten horrible disease, I am for the most of the time quite positive about life but every so often the reality of the “big C” bites hard!!!
Take care hugs Janette xxxx
Hi SmartiePants - welcome, I am sorry that you are joining us but you will find everyone friendly.
My bc dx was in March 12, and secondaries to rib, spine and lung in Jan 15 - I am still waiting to have my treatment plan but hopefully this will be sorted out soon, so I can’t advise you there.
As the Janette, Marie and Helen say, they all meet on the Bone Mets thread and have a lot of fun and support for each other.
Take care
xPx
It’s such early days for you Smartie P be kind to yourself. I can’t say I have it all worked out at all, I muddle through and I was diagnosed with my secondaries in 2003. Keep in touch, this is a supportive place. X
Hi all. Thanks for the replies. Yes I admit sometimes I am a bit hard on myself and I struggle to be selfish…so far I’ve been ok about everything, the odd day being low and upset but I sort of just pretend all is ok. Don’t know what happened this week, just hit me I suppose. Hopefully you ladies will keep me going! Xxx