hi
i posted last week as i have just been diagnosed with liver secondarys, i start chemo tomorrow, we have been dealing with the shock all week, today my mum has slipped on ice and she has had a nasty bang on her head they are keeping her in hospital as she isnt very well, my son has played up all day and we had a huge argument he is 10 my 6 year old was crying god i just dont know how much i can take now…
galen x
Hi galen,
It sounds like you’re having a really difficult time at the moment. If you feel you would like to talk to someone in confidence then the Breast Cancer Care Helpline is here for you, offering support and information. Calls to the helpline are free, lines are open Mon to Fri 9am - 5pm and Sat 9am - 2pm Tel: 0808 800 6000
I’m sure you’ll also get lots of support from the other users of this site.
Kind regards,
Kate, BCC Facilitator
Hi Galen
So sorry to hear of your secondary diagnosis, this is such an awful blow for you, no wonder you feel so low, but please be assured there are many women on this site who have lived with liver mets for years, and that new treatments are being trialled all the time so there is reason to be hopeful for your future.
I was diagnosed with bone mets nearly 3 yrs ago now and remember feeling the way you do now, and although I hate having this disease, I can tell you I have had many good times in these 3 years which I didn’t think I would do when first diagnosed.
I hope you don’t suffer too badly with the chemo, you’ll find a lot of support and useful tips on this site.
Linda
x
Hi Galen
So sorry to hear about your secondary diagnosis and the other trials and tribulations you’re enduring. Just to let you know I’m thinking about you and hope you find some calmer waters very soon.
Claire xx
Hi Galen
It’s no wonder you snapped at your 10 year old. Getting a secondary dx is one of the worst things you can be told and no doubt you are still reeling from this - believe me - I was. It’s also so stressful and things do have to give - especially at Christmas when we seem to get stressed anyway. As Linda has said there are many treatments out there and I found that as soon as I knew what was happening and starting my treatment plan I felt more ‘in control’ of things and this really helped me adjust. It’s not easy by any means but since my dx last year I have had many great times and, touchwood, feel great. Getting through chemo is tough but when you get good results it makes it all worth while. I hope you cope well with it and make sure you are looked after over Christmas - you need a bit of TLC.
Take care
Nicky x
Hi Galen,
It feels like the end of your world, and so close to the holidays too. I had this experience in the summer when I was diagnosed with secondaries in the brain, liver, bones and lungs. I didn’t think I would see this Christmas, let alone be making plans for next year and beyond. I had a very successful chemo with docoltaxere and am now on letrazole. I was most scared about the liver but the chemo has shrunk what was there and I am now fit and healthy, enjoying life to the full. My husband and I are really making the most of our time together and I am just begining to believe that I could live a good few years yet.
Have strength but feel free to vent here, it does help.
Louise
Hi Galen
I know where u are coming from. I was dx with bc and liver mets in July 07, and my kids were then 8 months and 3 1/2 years old. I didnt think I would see that first christmas, but am still here over 2 years later.
It is a shock and an emotional roller coaster of emotions and I think living with this and having young children is very hard. I snap at my poor babies sometimes, when I am really tired or just feel like things are pulling me down. Mine are still young and dont really know or understand.
Must be hard too having your mum fall and hurt herself, so more worry for you.
I had FEC and taxotere back in 2007 and then been on Herceptin for 2 years, but now also have to take Xeloda - am on my 3rd course now. I had great results on chemo for my liver and the herceptin too.
I hope that your chemo works well for you too, and hopefully things will settle down for you slowly, once you start to get your head around things. It is so hard to live with this, but hopefully your kids and OH will help you through the tough times.
Good luck and hope you have a lovely christmas. Take care and remember we are all here to help you, so either scream, shout or whatever, we will all be here listening and trying to help.
Take care
Love
Dawn
xx
Hi Galen
I am really sorry to hear that uou have secondaries it is such a shock. I was dx with secondaries straight off like Dawn I March 07/ I was given 4 months to live and I am still here now…You ae bound to have good and bad days but is does get easier to live with. The chemo should help you. Do you know which one you are having? Feel free to come on here anytime. Lots of you have been throught it.
Try and have a lovel Christmas
Love Caroline
Hi Galen,so sorry to hear your diagnosis ,its a nightmare any time of the year ,but think ten times worse this time of the year ,i got diagnosed with liver and lung secondaries in aug this year , after havin b/c age 37 17yrs ago,just in bed at the mo having had last chemo on thurs i had 6 taxotere together with herceptin,am carrying on with herceptin and also lexertrole "hormones"never had these before .It does make you feel bit better when they start the treatment ,at least the weeds getting some weedkiller !!!i also find it a help hearing other ladies stories on here ,surviving years with it ,i got scanned halfway through chemo and they had shrunk ,getting scanned again in jan so fingers crossed ,good luck with your treatment and hope you can enjoy xmas with your family take care barb x