Sorry, but it makes it more real if I write it, so it helps me: Well, my Mum is in hospital now, having tests. Just as always, waiting is the worst. I hope she is in good hands
hugs xxxxxxxxxxxx
Dear Maria,
I am so very very sorry to read your news about your Mum.
You must be worried sick, but having been through so much of this hospital/test/scan analysis recently yourself you will be well prepared to help your Mum with knowledge, tips and practical advice.
Obviously, I trust there is another reason for your Mum’s ill health but whatever the hospital tests show up it will enlighten you to know exactly what to do next…
The waiting is awful for your Mum and for you.
None of this is easy is it???
I just hope this won’t affect your memories too badly.
It’s a vain hope, I know but your emotional strength is paramount now.
Take the very best of care as you await results.
And scream as loudly as you wish. We’re all empathising with your plight.
Goodnight dear Maria,
Wendy x
Dear Maria,
Hope this is not an intrusion- as some threads seem only to have same regulars. Am very sorry to hear your news. Life is not fair. Coincidentally though, was sitting having my FEC on Monday, trying to take my mind off things by reading a magazine- turned out I could not avoid the big ‘c’ even there! But there was a very inspiring story about a lady who had discovered lung mets, some years after bx. That was 11 years ago. She is living a very happy life, now in her mid sixties I think. It was in ‘Red’ magazine I believe. Hope this does not sound trivial, just wanted to say there are some inspirational stories out there,
Tracey.
Thank you Wendy, for your kind and supportive words, as always, so well expressed.
TSR, You are welcome when ever, wherever. Thank you for your positive story, that is realy what I need right now, glimmers of hope. Thank you
Hugs to all if you are reading this
Maria
Maria
Just seen this post and wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and sending you massive ((((((hugs)))).
Talking helps, writing it down helps, pour it out whenever and wherever you need to; we’ll be here.
Just wish I could be there to hold your hand.
Nell xxx
Hi Maria,
Just wanted to share our experience and maybe it will give you some hope. My Mum, who is 74, was having chemo for inoperable lung cancer when I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago. She now has brain mets now too but treatment has been very successful. Her tumours reduced to be almost invisible and have so far not regrown. You don’t say what age your Mum is but some doctors believe that cancers in older women are less aggressive because cell renewal is slower in older people.
Obviously we live with the worry that sooner or later they might become active again but for the moment she has a really good quality of life. The only sign of her illness is that she has to take things a bit slower than before.
I wish a good recovery for you both.
Jan xx
Dear Maria,
I’m not sure how your Mum’s health is just now but I really do hope it wasn’t the worst news you were expecting…
All the more poignant at Christmastime when the whole of society is into materialism and having fun.
There are far greater qualities to value.
To love and cherish, to care, to not judge, to hope, to be patient, to learn, to consider, to nurture… The list is endless but I know from my own experience of you that you will offer these to your mum.
She has a very considerate daughter and your distance at this time must be quite unbearable.
I trust you are able to feel close despite the distance.
Goodnight dear Maria. Take the very best of care.
Wendy xx
I was hoping to be able to give you a clear up date, but things are still rather confused. My Mum does has secondaries in her lungs, but they are not 100% sure if it is from her bc or something else. Apparently they won’t know until mid January. She is benefiting from steroids, which has helped her breathing and is waiting for oxygen to be delivered at home, so she can spend Christmas there. She has (I think) started some oral chemo, but I don’t know the name. At least she is not considered too old to have some treatment. She was 80 the day after her new diagnosis.
Jan and Denise and Wendy, thank you for your thoughts.
2009 was bad, I lost my husband, 2010 was bad, I had bc again, 2011 is not looking good either, When is my luck going to turn ?
Not really fair, I have had some great times too and have been surrounded by love and by you lot.
Have the best Christmas possible
Hugs Maria
So sorry about your Mum and also not knowing exactly what is going on yet.Good that the steroids are helping and that they’ve started her on chemo.They don’t see anyone too old I don’t think as when having rads today DH was talking to an 86 year old woman having treatment.
Oh maria, such a lot to cope with. Huge hugs to you, enjoy your time with your sons and pfdil. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi maria big hugs there doesn’t seem to be an end to it all for you… take care xxx
Maria,
As long as your Mum is well enough to stand the treatment they won’t give up on her just because of her age.
Jan xx
Just an update:
I did have a good Christmas, but with a niggle in the back ground about my Mum
I’m afraid I was called to the UK in an emergency last Sunday, to help look after my Mum who became bed ridden just after Christmas, we managed for 48 hours, but then she was admitted to a local hospice where she has had wonderful care and they are have looked after us too. At her request and our blessing she is now in a sedated state and apparently comfortable. I managed to spend some quality time with her, and for that I am truly grateful. It won’t be long now before she will be with my sister (who died 14 years ago of bc)
It has taken just 3 weeks and it is so unfair, she had still so much to live for and to do here, I really don’t understand WHY.
Thank you to all those who have supported me here, and thank you to bcc for enabling me to have this support. (may be you can move this thread to “end of life” section.) I will be back and I hope soon on my “adventure” thread too, but it is not the time yet.
Love and hugs to you all
Maria
Maria
really sorry to hear your news sending you big hugs. Life is so cruel and it seems so unfair. I am glad you have managed some quality time with your mum and she is comfortable at the moment my thoughts are with you xxx
Thinking of you.
Polly xxx
Maria, I can’t do anything to help but I can tell you I am thinking about you and sending you and your family my love. Miss you, hope you feel up to coming back to us soon,
Huge hugs
vickie
xxxxx
Maria,
I omly just found this thread and had no idea what you had happening. No words can express feelings at this time. Glad that you have had some quality time with your Mum, a time for you to treasure in the future.
Hope you Mum remains comfortable and peaceful as possible, my thoughts are with both of you and your family, my hugs for you both are endless.
Love from Suze xxxx
Am really sorry Maria. I am glad she is comfortable. Thinking of you. Debx
So sorry to hear this news Maria. Thinking of you and your mum.
Love Sue xx