Hi Ladies
I have a confession to make I haven’t been on to the forum for quite a while as I have been trying to live without it after relying on it and all of you lovely ladies for so many months.
But just thought tonight I would have a quick peek to see whats going on and to also tell you that life does move on after BC even though a few weeks ago I didn’t think it ever would.
I am now back to work (albeit only part time at the moment) I was diagnosed back in Oct 09 and had surgery and rads. After the rad treatment I honestly thought I would never feel well again and I had some awful days and nights, but on the whole I am slowly getting life back together again. I have a lot of support from my family and friends and I am very lucky to have a supportive female boss who has been wonderful and for that I will be forever grateful.
I still have very wobbily days - like last Weds went I went back for a second smear test which wasn’t pleasant at all (half an hour two nurses and 5 speculums later …I kid you not 5 speculums and they still didn’t get it done properly) I broke down and sobbed and couldn’t go to work!!
But after all that has gone on I am still here and still battling on and the wedding plans are in full swing (getting married in Sept) so keep going girls we are all strong wonderful women and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Also wanted to say thank you to all of the ladies that I have private contact with you are all wonderful and I count myself lucky to have you as friends.
phillippa x
lovely to hear that. Thanks. Good luck with the wedding
Hugs
Maria
Thanks Maria I just thought other ladies might want to read a ‘positive’ report on life after BC once in a while.
x
Hi Phillipa
I’m in a very similar position to you in that I seem to be moving on in my head - like to come on and check how people are doing every few days, but feel I need to go it alone a bit more.
Not back to work until Sept, and have asked for part time, but thats a huge move forward as just a few weeks ago I was sure I wouldn’t be going back.
Its wonderful how you just turn a corner and life outside of BC is just doable.
This is my second diagnosis and after the first it took me a long long time to get to where I am now, and I am sure that thats because of this forum. I owe huge thanks to many many people on here who have supported me in all sorts of ways and have made the journey possible.
I will be back on of course, but I saw your posting Phillippa and wanted to reiterate what you have said, and also to wish you well, you are one of the stars!
love to everyone
mon xx
thankyou for this thread,
vickie
i am moving on too… but finding it hard to give up BCC lol. feel im missing out if im not nosing on here to see what peeps are up to.
back to a brand new, interesting and exciting job after a year off… and my treatment all seems a distant memory.
although due to my wee naughty gene i still have more surgery ahead but that will be a few months away yet.
Lxx
I am really happy for you all but also very bitter xxxx I was told today by one of my tactless nurses that I won’t be back at work as I won’t have enough time!!! Whilst I
am so happy for those lucky to beat this
I am very angry and jealous but I hope you live your lives to the full
and thank god for each precious day xxxxx
some people are so tactless makes me embaressed to be a nurse at times. she is not my actual bcn but there is another one in the o0ffice was not feeling too good last week rang up for some advice and basically she said " willl do some tests as it sounds like it is spreading…" so as you can imagine the fear of god is now in me. she has not even met me and has the audacity without reading any info on me that she thinks it does not look good, so am having a few bitter ones as well
Aw it’s awful. They adopt an attitude of superiority like they know outcomes before they have any evidence. Did same with me re brain scan and when
it was clear she couldn’t hide her shock. Real sorry your experiencing it too and I feel it’s a
very diff attitude that prevails when secs are dx.
Anyway feel bad hijacking a happy thread xxxx
I am happy that some are beating this and wish u all the best xxxx
Brads wife, I have been posting bout probs with nurses in secondaries forum x feel free
hello signet and bradpittswife2b
I am so sorry you are having a difficult time - I know I would feel bitter and angry too in the same position. I feel its important, while we are well to enjoy every day - sounds corny, but the truth is that any of us could move to where you are at any time, so we have to go for it!
that doesn’t mean I won’t be thinking of all my ‘sisters in bc’ who haven’t been this fortunate, and wishing you well (and checking to see how people are doing)
sending you love
mon xx
I did wonder after posting this thread that there would other ladies out there who might read it and think ‘oh good for you moving on when I can’t do that’ and I suppose I would be the same if I was at that stage.
But I have to think positvely and as the saying goes make the best of each and every day whilst I am well as none of us know when the next day won’t be a good one’.
So to all of you whose journey is not a good one I am truly truly sorry and I never meant to belittle what you are feeling or going through as there but for the grace of god go I.
I won’t be coming on here again for a while as I have promised myself that if I am going to move on then that includes not being here, as I can’t get on with life if I keep looking back but I send much love and positive thoughts to each and every one of you.
xx
Just want to wish you all the best Phillipa,moving on is not always easy but hopefully your wedding plans will help you.Have a great time planning your big day.You really deserve a fabulous day.
Its good when we can look back at treatment and say “I did it”.
Love n hugs
Dot
xxx
Hi Mandeville and Daisyleaf So good to hear life is returning to normal - I’m also doing well after a few hiccups. Enforced time at home over the last two weeks has allowed me to check up on you all and it is truly heartening to hear how well your all coping , especially all the little extras it likes to dish out to us. Memo to 'Fate ’ must try harder because we’re a tough bunch . My husband calls me a weeble doesn’t matter how many times I’m knocked down up i pop!! not the best analogy but pretty accurate. Keep going girls Sxxxx
Oh Lazydaisy now you’ve done it!!! Can’t get that silly tune out of my head now “webbles wobble but they don’t fall down”!!! Showing my age now!
Kyra
x
Another one is to the tune of ‘When will I See You Again’ to the words When Will I Feel Good Again!’
Talking of tunes, does anyone else have the problem of a song getting stuck in their head for hours, or even days? I even wake in the night and it is still there! I only have to hear music and there it is, stuck. I had seldom had this problem before ‘low oestrogen’. Another side effect, I guess.
Ann x
