hi anyone whos reading this, i had bc 5 years ago, im now 33 and it still affects nearly everything i do eventhough in a good sense because my life is full of good friends, family and doing things i would never have contemplated before, it does you good to be a little daring, my kids are now 15,10 and 8 if anyone wants to chat …feel free
Hi Shonagh,
Thank you for your posting. I’m 34 ad dx in dec 07. Sometimes i read things i shouldn’t and start putting a lifespan on my own life. Its good to hear you are 5 years down the line and doing things you wouldn’t have b4. i too admit it is a wake up call and makes you appreciate what you have got to what you haven’t. It also makes you realise who your friends are and how supportive your family is or isn’t.
My kids are 8, 4, & 2 and i must admit they really keep you going. it was only today i was looking at my little one thinking in 10 years time she’ll be 12 - it will be great if i get to see the next 10 years plus. Im still on chemo then rad and tamoxifen.
thankyou once again
Great to hear from someone who’s so far down the line. I was dx in jan and did surgery then rads and on tamoxifen for 5 years. Rads finished at the end of April and that was supposed to be an end of that palava - however I was in for bone scan today due to back-ache, I’m going with the theory of an over zealous GP and not something more sinister.
My son is fast approaching 19 and I think I need at least another 25 years to get him civilised enuff to be allowed to take over my flat and be able to find his own socks.
As yet I’ve not made any drastic life changes - basically just trying to get on with day to day stuff like work and running the home. The only thing I can honestly say has changed is that I’ve realised that for many years I’ve been there for loads of ppl and I now know who is there for me.
Hi all,
I posted on another thread earlier and said something similar. Life has gone on pretty much the same once the periods of treatment have finished. I am almost 3 years down the line but have had several rounds of treatment. I had one good holiday last summer before the crap started over again but I am out the other side again just on Herceptin. Like you all I have a family that needs tending too. I can relate to your son Lilacbushes but he is 24 with a pit of a bedroom but takes real good care of me.
On this thread we hear of folks going off on all types of adventures, good luck to them I say but it is not for us all is it.
Cheers
Carol
hi everyone
thank you for writing back it is great to hear from different women, we all have different ways to deal with the curvballs that life has thrown at us especially our kids,
my eldest is more concerned with how messy she can make her room lol my middle just likes me better with hair aparently lol, and my son cant remember anything, i still take each day at a time and panic if something hurts when it shouldnt but most of the time iv just hurt my self doing housework or something lol i still get yearly checkups and dread them for about 6 weeks b4, my next one is in january, and yes it lets u no who your friends are i have had people cross the road because they didnt no what to say and only recently tried to get in touch but ah well life goes on xxx
Great to read your message Shonagh - always so encouraging to hear from people who are doing well - I am sure most are far too busy to come on here, and that makes it extra special when you take the trouble to say that you are being able to get on with enjoying your life.
Lilacblushes - Just want to say good luck for the bone scan, and will be keeping everything crossed for you that it is, as you expect, your GP being super vigilant. You always write such thoughtful and kind postings to everyone - just want to say we appreciate it. Good luck to all of you. Sarah
Thanks Shonagh for you comments; it is nice to log on and read some positive threads. I am 29 and have two boys, aged 3 and almost 2 yrs. I was diagnosed in August 2007 and had surgery, chemo, rads and am now on Tamoxifen for five years. Until recently I did not think there was any way of shaking off the big black cloud hanging over my head. I found the time when treatment had finished the worse - it was so lonely, frightening and isolating.
Now I look back and feel so grateful that this treatment was available for me. Yes, it was awful. But I look at my baby boys and feel so grateful that the doctors threw everything they could at me. I have come out the other side and am slowly starting to build a new life for my family. It certainly opened my eyes to what is important. Many people say that having cancer makes them chang their lives and do something completely different. My experience was the opposite - it showed me that my life was pretty perfect before diagnosis and I will now appreciate every second with my husband and boys.
Sending lots of love to all of you brave and inspiring ladies. x