Lobular Depressed want to feel better
what helped you i am depressed, trouble sleeping, sad, NED, seeing psyc and therapist
can’t forget about lobular breast cancer. How did you stop thinking about it, help me and others.
Praying for all of us.
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Hello katt,
Sorry to hear you are struggling right now, anxiety and low mood, struggling to sleep isnt nice. I too have lobular. Pleased to hear you are reaching out with a therapist and now on here, thats the hard part, but you are doing well, i just wanted to let you know, you are not alone in this journey.
Breast cancer now have a helpline with wonderful ladies who are brilliant, helpful in so many ways.
I too struggled to begin with, but once i knew my treatment plan/ process was able to move forward, along with counselling.
Im sure someone with the same prognoises as us will pop on soon and share.
Please keep in touch
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Hi Katt. I’ve just had my 1st clear check , I’m lobular .
Where are you up to with your treatment ?
You said NED , so out of active treatment?
I know it’s hard but have you tried exercise ?
Even getting out for a walk can make me feel better .
Some local authorities have services that you can be referred to for life after cancer.
It’s hard , we all understand x
Thank you, i do exercise but got foot drop and fell last month. the most difficult for me is worry, im trying to stop it its been many years . get help now, dont think psyc can help the meds have more side effects that’s why im asking for help the way i did it does not help me. i pray to God to help. love and saying a prayer for you
How are you feeling @Katt? I’m sorry you’re going through so much.
I replied to you on a different thread to say that the forum and our breast care nurses are here for you. Please don’t hesitate to give our nurses a call to chat things through. You can get in touch with them on our helpline 0808 800 6000 which is open Monday to Friday 9am-4pm and 9am-1pm Saturday.
As I mentioned in my other post, the Samaritans are also here - not just for times of crisis - to lend a listening ear 24/7 on 116 123.
It’s great that you’re seeing a therapist, would you feel comfortable asking them for extra support during this time?
Thinking of you,
Lucy
Thanks I feel so depressed, i hate feeling that way and don’t know how to stop it. i usually exercise 1st thing in morning but have not as of 8am. but going now. the drs here are very clinical- negative. i want to run away. i really feel im sitting here waiting to go to heaven. that might be a good place to go to but now when as i guess im pretty healthy except for the anxiety and fear. thanks for your help. the really sad thing is this may never comeback so i keep worrying and im wasting
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my time. i’m in Honolulu and a lot of family is in new york. i have very limited support system here. i go to bible classes but the people say that since im anxious then God is unhappy. i dont want to make God unhappy.
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Hi @Katt I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way.
As you mention that you’re in Hawai’i, our breast care nurses can only give clinical advice based on medical care in the UK. However, the forum is always here for you and I hope you can find some comfort and support here.
It is completely valid to feel anxious, and something many people here can identify with, and would never judge you for.
You mention that you have a limited support system where you are, please know that Hawai’i has a national 24/7 helpline here to talk through how you’re feeling anytime. You can reach them by calling or texting 988, they have more information on their website: https://hicares.hawaii.gov/
We’re thinking of you,
Lucy
I’m sorry @Katt but I think it’s wrong for the people in your bible class to try to use God to make you feel bad. To me that’s not a very Christian thing to do and it’s arrogant of them to assume to know how God would feel about you being anxious . I’m sorry perhaps I should not be advising you on religion as I’m not really a practicing Christian now though I do go to church sometimes and I am spiritual but I was brought up to believe that God is love and that being the case would show you compassion. Some people who have been through the cancer journey have been told ( sometimes shouted at ) by family and friends that they should be grateful they have survived and to get back to normal and live their lives - what you have experienced sounds very similar to me. Most of us who have been there know it’s not that easy and sometimes you just need to work through it. The anxiety may never quite leave you but hopefully it should become easier with time. Thinking of you. Xx
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Hello @Katt
I totally agree with @JoanneN that the people in your bible class should not be accusing you of making god sad because you are anxious and depressed. Nobody should ever deny another person their feelings and try to make them feel bad about themselves for being a human and struggling to deal with a trauma like living with illness and undergoing gruelling treatment. You need people who love you and support you and show you understanding and empathy - not people who judge you and then accuse you of making god unhappy!
In fact, I would say that their behaviour and attitude towards you and your feelings is the total opposite to how god would want them to behave and their behaviour sounds like bullying in the name of religion to me.
Is there perhaps another bible study group you can join? Or another church? Somewhere where the people show more kindness and understanding and can offer you genuine support.
Xx
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