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anyone living in stoke-on-trent and feel as lonely as me.

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I am lonely but do not live in Stoke on Trent !!! 200 odd miles further south. But hello anyway. I hope to find someone to chat to local to me but as yet been unsuccessful.

Rach

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hi rach

Thanks for replying sorry your feeling lonely too. This sight is my only source of support, I’m on most days looking for support and answers to the many questions i have. Don’t often post these days but after a glass of wine i felt brave.

Carole xx

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Hi Carole
Sorry you are feeling lonely and yes sometimes this is the only place where you feel you can have some kind of contact with others with some sort of understanding of where you may be coming from. What is your story?
Alice

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Hi Carole

I love the name Oatcake - love to eat them, anyway. I don’t live near Stoke either. I know where it is though. It is the home of the infamous Robbie Williams! I find this website very good for support. Sometimes, it is so much easier to write how you are feeling than just speaking face to face to people. What is your situation? Have you had treatment or are you waiting for it? I have glass of wine in hand also, so we can chat together!!

Cathy

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Hi ladies,

Have you thought about joining in the live chat session tonight where you can all chat in real time? The session tonight is a general session so open to all. The session is running from 9pm - 10pm just follow the link below:

breastcancercare.chatjet.com/bcc/index.html

Kind regards,
Jo, Facilitator

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Ah I forgot to add I do not live near Stoke, a good few hundred miles away, but that is nothing in cyberspace : ) Ax

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I am up for it, if you are Carole. Log in and we can chat on line

Cathy

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Hi all
Dont feel so lonely now.

My story, diagnoised in mar 06 after a long struggle to get seen at my local hospital had to travel 90 miles to outlying hospital then had to wait 3 weeks for test results. Once diagnoised was able to transfer back to my local hospital very good of them to accept me back espcially as i actually work there.I expect your noticing my anger still.
I have to say that once my treatment started it was 2nd to none, had surgery then entered the tact 2 trial fully excellerated,
25 sessions of rads followed. I had a lot of lymph node envolement several had burst so was zapped 3 times each rad session.Now waiting for results on recent brain scan due to servere headaches. My brain is scrambled cant remember anything.
Been back at work for about 12mths.
Have had the most amazing support from family and friends but still feel so lonely and unable to talk about the things that are really worring me.

Love to you all

Carole

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Hi Cathy

Sorry didnt continue our chat my laptop froze and by the time i signed back in everyone had left. Hope to chat again soon.

Carolex

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Hi Carole

Please keep on chatting, it was nice to hear from you tonight

Cathy
XX

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Hi Carole,

sorry to hear you’re feeling lonely, I know how you feel. I live in Essex, married with two lovely teenage boys. I was born In Alsager, only about 10 miles from Stoke-on Trent. I often go back up north to visit my parents who are still in Alsager. I have fond memories of shopping in Hanley (Lewis’s department store and Chelsea Girl!). I used to go the The Place night club in the early 80’s. Oatcakes with cheese and bacon are one of my favourite foods, my Mum’s lobby too! We were up in Alsager for my parent’s golden wedding anniversary last weekend. It’s about a 4 hour hour drive but I go up there whenever I can. I fact I’ve got tickets to go and see Paul Weller (my hero) at the Victoria Hall in Hanley on 6th May; it’s the week before my last Taxotere chemo so I really hope I’ll be feeling well enough to drive up there.

Anyway, I hope you’re feeling a bit brighter now and that your new “cyberspace” friends are helping to cheer you up and keep you company.

You take care duck. Liza xxxx

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i just came off the phone with a close cousin and still cant explain how i am feeling. but on here having people in the same situation really does help. i have been lonley too but people on here are so great and the support given is priceless.

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hi liza,
had to smile when i read your post, just had a little blip yesterday. I was in aroom full of people who have given me the most amazing support but i felt so alone. On
the whole i’m positive but as i’m sure your all aware when the down days hit they really slap you down and no amount of encouragement will tell you your glasses is half full and not half empty . If you are well enough to come up to Stoke and feel like a chat i live 2 miles from Alsager at whitehill.

you take care

Carolexxx

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hi hemly,
i totally agree if i hadn’t had this sight to go too in my hours of need don’t know what i would have done.

I hope your feeling better

Take care

Carolexxxx

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Hiya Carole,

Hope you’re feeling ok today. I had my second Taxotere chemo on Thursday. I was feeling great for a couple of days but the tiredness has hit me today and I had to go and have a lie down this afternoon.

It’s really cold here and we had some snow this morning.

I see that you have been back at work for about 12 months. How’s it going? I’ve got 2 more chemos, due to finish on 15th May, then surgery (not sure exactly what yet), then radiotherapy. I hope to have a phased return to work in September (I’m a teacher) but I’ll have to play it by ear.

Drop me a line and let me know how you are when you get chance.

Take care, Liza xxx

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Hi Liza

Snowed here today too, lots and lots its one of those days when you stay by the fire.

Works good started back on a phaised return,but think i went bac far to soon, really struggled in the beginning. I didnt do what the professionals told me, that was be kind to yourself and listen to your body, i think we ladies dont know how to do this, we just feel we have to keep going. Although treatment has finished i still get very tired, in bed most night by 9.

You be good to yourself

Take Care

Carolexxx

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Hi Carole

You sound (if thats the right word!) much happier today. Its funny what a difference a day or two can make in how you feel about things. You are very conscientious to go back to work so soon. There is no way I am going back until I feel right. My days of keeping going till I dropped have long gone! Starting radiotherapy tomorrow so glass of wine by my side right now for Dutch courage!!

Cathy
xx

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Hi Cathy

Yes much happier what a difference a day and a Chat makes.Good luck with your Rads i must admit personally i found my Radiotherapy the worst part of my treatment not because it was painfull or tyring but because it was where i felt my most vunerable.
Yes i did return to work far to early but i felt i needed to get my life back on track,
i went back for the first 12 months part time and it did help my mental health.Did i say i work at the hospital so was in easy reach of any professional help i may need.
Glad your still enjoying the wine I will join you in a glass later.

Take Care

Carolexxxxx

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Hi Oatcake,
Hope you are feeling a bit better. I think that everyone gets up and down days. I have screamed and cried one day and been perfectly happy the next. There is bound to be a BC support group near you if you check with your Dr Surgery otherwise you will always get lots of support from the lovely people on here.
Love and Hugs
Andrea xx