Hi, I was diagnosed with grade 2 ER/PR+ HER2- invasive ductal on 22/9. I’m 29 years old. I have a left sided mastectomy booked for just under two weeks time and then it looks like i’m starting chemo and then radiotherapy after that.
I’m feeling so overwhelmed by everything and so despondent about the future. I feel like i’ve just had bad news after bad news (originally just one area of concern, then 2 needed biopsy and came back for cancer, then a 3rd area shown on MRI) and i’m so worried i’ll have positive nodes on SNLB. I’ve had an appointment to discuss egg freezing but I don’t know if it will delay chemo etc - in which case I don’t think I want to do it.
I’m hoping people might have some positive stories to give me some hope for the future. Currently I just feel hopeless. Thank you.
Just sending you a big hug .The diagnosis totally shakes you to the core no matter how old you are. There are other young women on the forum and older ladies who had diagnosis at a young age hopefully they will be along to offer support and advice soon .Easier said than done I know but try not to let your mind race ahead too far as it can just leave you totally overwhelmed , take one stage at a time . If fertility preservation is important to you meet with the relevant doctors and then ask your oncologists their opinion on risk . There have been recent posts from ladies who haven’t gone down the egg retrieval route but still conceived after chemo so if its not right for you to go down that path hopefully you may still have other options . Best wishes Jill
sorry you find yourself on here there will be others who will reach out to you about egg freezing and who are younger women who have been through treatments and are currently on treatments and help you do have a look at the younger women section and they do arrange meet-ups take it a day at a time, step by step do reach out on here Breast Cancer Now and everyone is here for you, this is your safe space to ask away, cry, rant and believe it or not as everyone navigates they way through as best they can carry on being fabulous you don’t let it take your joy it will try but don’t let it we got you Shi xx
So sorry to hear about your diagnosis so young. Lots of support on here. Chemo monthly starter groups can support your through your treatment, sharing side effects and how to overcome.
Breast care now have a younger women section for under 45s as well. Some recently posted a similar situation to you about zolodex and freezing eggs.
@michaela1@jess_1 also in 20s recently posted they may know if others in your age range.
I’m 54 and hear to listen if you need I have a 26 year old daughter and can’t imagine what it would be like so young, it’s not a walk in the park for any of us but we’ll do it. This forum has so many supportive people on and the breast care nurses have more time to talk than those in clinics.
I can totally understand how you are feeling apart from the egg freezing dilemma as I am 56. When you hear those words that you have cancer it rocks your world. My diag is similar to yours. I have had mastectomy, drain removed, which was a massive relief. Twelve days on from surgery and I have just realised how much movement I have in my left arm now and I am really pleased with myself. Follow up call from surgeon expected next Thursday for results and next stages, although like you, he said initially to expect chemo and radio.
Three weeks ago I was scared, just like everyone else here. Today I just want to get on with whatever will be thrown at me because I’ve still got things to do and places to go and I’ll need at least 20 years to do it all!
Stay strong. You can do this.
Sending a big hug x
I received a similar diagnosis earlier this year and have had a left sided mastectomy, then a left sided lymph node clearance, and chemotherapy. You’ll need a while to adjust to your diagnosis and may feel that everything is moving too fast or too slow or both, but you will realise that you can get through it even though its scary. There is an end to the active treatment and you’ll get there.
So sorry honey big hugs.
I was told I had breast cancer again this is the third time even though I had a double mastectomy Iv had it twice. All I can say is you know your own body and if you ever notice anything different don’t be fobbed of challenge it
I was luck to have found them myself but I wish I had never had reconstructive surgery.
Get all the help and support from those around you.
I wish you well for a speedy recovery. The hardest thing is my brain said I can do this and that but my body was saying no, no you can’t do run before you can walk
I hope by the time you read this you are on the road to recovery
sorry you find yourself on here 
do reach out on here Breast Cancer Now and everyone is here for you, this is your safe space to ask away, cry, rant and believe it or not 
