Hi bluesatsuma
Welcome to our very special subset !!
I totally get it. With strong fam hist of bc, getting bc myself wasn’t a great surprise. However, with the stats being so low for lymphoedema (and it usually occuring many years down the track), when I got it exactly the same time after surgery as you, I felt far more angry and hard-done-by than I did about the 2 simultaneous breast cancers. It just seems SO unlucky and unfair that there’s yet more to manage and accept, just when you’d been so brave about, and were dealing with, the cancer ! Turns out I only had the one affected node which was found during mastectomy surgery anyway. So you could say, I have this lifelong extra burden unnecessarily … but I elected axillary clearance (over radiotherapy alone) because I HAD to know that a physical check had been done of my lymph nodes.
My left arm (but mainly the hand) are affected, initially visibly with my hand being very tight and ‘full’. There was a wait of many weeks for NHS clinic, so I went privately a couple of times and had a couple of sessions of heavy strapping (multiple layers of different wadding and bandages that apply constant resistence to the fluid build-up). Not fun, very debilitating for those few days, but was very visibly improved. The thing with lymphoedema is that you can push it away but it often fills up again quite quickly INITIALLY. But after your body has a chance to adapt, it gets much better at keeping it at a very low level (in my experience). The private therapist also administered Manual Lymphatic Drainage (MLD), to move the fluid.
Find loads of really helpful demos to learn from, about self-administered Simple Lymphatic Drainage (SLD), a light-pressure skin massage, on YouTube by specialist lymph therapists, particularly softly-spoken blonde American Kelly Sturm. I describe her thus, because her name doesn’t appear on her videos.
You can get soft-bristled ‘body brushes’ in The Body Shop with which to lightly stroke your affected area in the direction of other lymph nodes and channels. There is the Bellicon (or similar) mini trampoline to bounce on (because all exercise to stimulate your whole lymphatic system helps). A squeezy foam ball to exercise in a repeated gripping motion (hand, crook of elbow, and armpit - yes, even now) helps to stimulate the lymph flow and empty the remaining nodes through your hand/arm.
I found the Lymphoedema Support Network (LSN) has a rather doomy gloomy take on the whole affair, emphasising the incurability of the condition. On the other hand, a friend of a friend (who’d also developed it post cancer surgery and who was very positive and supportive), was convinced she’d got rid of hers long term, and swore by alternative and holistic therapies, some of which she offers to others such as ‘gong baths’ - basically a deep relaxation from the vibrations of gongs and other instruments. But I digress !
Next, I tried a couple of other, local therapists specialising in this who advertised online. They were both lovely and it was very pleasant, although effects were temporary (but it was early days, to be fair).
For general info, there’s also the British Lymphoedema Society, The Lymphoedema Training Academy (lymph.org.uk - for professionals but interesting), and LymphConnect (an online platform developed by JOBST, a compression garment manufacturer).
Eventually, I reached the NHS clinic where I met my brilliantly helpful (and amusing, jolly) therapist - a shout out to Amy Duffield in Sussex. She demonstrated how to do self lymph drainage, ordered me a raft of different compression garments to try out (and kept on going until I found the best to suit me), monitored improvement by taking a series of measurements regularly (apologising profusely for drawing all over me in ink), applied heavy strapping (freshly every day for a week, which was a combination of home visits and early morning trips to the clinic). She also gave me a month’s trial run at home with an electric pneumatic sleeve, which mimics massage with waves of different pressure zones. So easy to sit watching TV while it does its stuff (turn the volume up a tad). This did such a good job of keeping the swelling down to the very slightest pockets of fluid along the base of my fingers, that I invested £1,000 in one of my own which I use for 35 mins daily :
LymphAssist homecare range, model: Hydroven 12, supplied by company Huntleigh, but get it through the NHS to achieve this price. I notice that when I do make the effort to wear a compression garment all day, this further empties and slackens the skin across the back of my hand.
Anyway, after a few months of working things out, I’m now at a stabilised ‘norm’ where the difference between my two hands, and my two sets of fingers, would not be noticeable to anyone else. I can’t tell any visible difference between my arms. Sadly, I don’t think I’ll ever get my engagement and wedding rings back on the correct finger and I’m limited on any others I can get on that hand.
Such a lot of info - digest at your own pace.
After initial treatments and lines of attack, regular maintenance is the way to go to keep it at bay, but really don’t worry, it’s not that arduous or time-consuming.
Wishing you the greatest of good luck; keep the faith !