As a lot of you will already have seen on other posts Marychris died on Saturday. It has been a big shock to many of us and has brought home to many of us with secondaries just how quickly we can deteriorate.
We have made it a bit of a tradition on Secondary Live chat (tuesday evenings 8.30-9.30) to light a candle in memory of our friends when they die. We will be lighting candles for Mary tomorrow. I talked to Marys husband Keith earlier and he really liked the gesture. For those of you who knew Mary through the threads maybe you’d like to light a candle too, for Mary, or in rememberence of someone dear to you?
This is a wicked desease that takes too many good people too soon but when you light your candles remember the person, not the illness and let it be a symbol of hope as well as of rememberence - we all need hope!
With love to all, particularly those struggling at the moment.
Rest in peace Mary and thank you for your friendship and support xx
Thanks for this thread Julie, and what a lovely thought!
I’m always busy on Tues nights, so won’t be on Live Chat. Being one of the early posters on the “feeling low” thread and one of the firsts to hear the shocking news, I would certainly be lighting a candle for her.
English isn’t my first language, but this is for all of you who were touched by her:
A bright light has stopped shining;
A golden heart has stopped beating;
A beautiful voice has stopped singing;
A motherly woman has stopped caring.
But…
The flame of candles are lighting up the heavens;
The hearts you’ve touched are heavy with sorrow;
The voices of those moaning your passing are heard;
The people you cared for will never forget you.
RevCat, that’s lovely.
Losing these 2 ladies this week, neither of whom I had the pleasure of knowing on this forum, does bring home that this treatment won’t be successful for all of us no matter how reassuring the stats appear.
My thoughts and prayers are with their loved ones.
Like you SB, I didn’t know either of the ladies, but still heartbreaking to read the devastating news. Thoughts and best wishes to their families and friends, Simone xxx
It’s been a very thoughtful evening for me as I think about Mary and Cat and wonder about the what ifs…
Their untimely departures have deeply affected me.
I’ve considered my own existence this evening and vowed to make some small changes…
Life is so precious and I want to thank both these women for their insight, support and love for others. They were indeed great models.
There was no candle just a warm glow within my heart for all those families that are ‘struggling’ tonight with the same torture of Mary’s family and Cat’s.
I hope this glow will unite with you all.
The bond we share is so strong and yet so fragile.
Am so sorry to hear about Marychris and Cat. Thinking of them both, and their family and friends. Rest in peace Marychris and Cat.
My aunt also died of breast cancer on sunday, so have lit a candle tonight for them all. We were both having chemo at the same time last year, and she was always so caring and supportive…an amazing lady. We were very close and I stayed with her and her family for her last few days and was with her when she died. I’m a nurse so could also help look after her as she did not want to die in hospital. I can’t believe she is gone…am just so so sad.
Lighting a candle is a lovely thought, and as you said Julie - I am trying to think of my aunt and all the happy times we had, not the ilness, and hope that for all the family and friends of Marychris and Cat too.
M1yu - your post was beautiful, and summed up my aunt too.
Thinking of Marychris and Cat, and all their family and friends.
I didnt know either of these two wonderful ladies but I do feel for their families and friends nothing at all can prepare a person for the death of a loved one,
I will be lighting a candle each evening I think it’s a lovely thought.