How are you doing Calamity Tess?I have hit the kerb twice so far today don’t think the tyres are going to survive this.Also forgot where I parked car hence much swearing and tears…
Oh Tess ,you do make me laugh!Maybe they have moved the kerb and I bet having passengers in the car unbalances it so makes it more of a challenge to drive in a straight line…I keep hitting the same section of kerb opposite the news agents maybe they have moved it a few inches … Stress,tiredness and hormonal changes all take their toll on concentration ,better be careful or DVLA will start asking us to retake our tests.I have appointment to see surgeon tomorrow morning so should know more then .Have been having palpitations which GP thinks is anxiety but he has refered me for ECG just to be sure.Hope it doesn’t show something and delay op just want to get on with it .
Hi Tess,hope you manage to have some happy memories of your friend today amidst the sadness.You know you said don’t say it can’t get any worse …Husband fell down stairs last night ankle swelled up like balloon can hardly walk let alone drive,so looks like I now in charge of the house
Hi Tess,hope you manage to have some happy memories of your friend today amidst the sadness.You know you said don’t say it can’t get any worse …Husband fell down stairs last night ,ankle swelled up like balloon can hardly walk let alone drive,so looks like I am now in charge of the house ,2 dogs and elderly mother in law 100 miles away plus still at work til Wed oh and I have cancer but that seems to be bottom of the list of problems at the moment !Do you think he has copied your husband?Hoping to hold off going to A and E ,as if it’s broken he will be in plaster and we really are stuffed.
Hi Ladies, I’m newish to this forum so on a steep learning curve.
Diagnosed two weeks ago - due for bi-lateral mx on 20 June with removal of lymph nodes on one side.
I’m booked in for day surgery which I’m finding quite daunting to say the least! First I think that the operation is so straightforward that you can go home even on day of procedure and get encouraged by that THEN I think, hang on a minute, this is a major procedure for me and what about drains and pain management and I’m having this done on a Saturday so will anyone be around to support me if I need it!!
Surgeon said I can take in an overnight bag in case I feel I want to stay.
Any thoughts, information/encouragement please!
With love and positive thoughts to ALL.
V
Hi Tess, oh yes the" things cant get any worse" saying! How many times we said that but they just kept coming…We had to laugh some days or we would have bloody well cried!!
Two weeks before my roller coaster started we buried a darling friend who had died of cancer too so to find myself diagnosed within a month nearly floored me, i thought i was heading the same way…
I didnt have to have Chemo as i had a low grade tumour and clear nodes ,mine was er +8/8 so on Tamoxifen for 5 yrs and had 3 weeks of rads so i do feel i got of lightly although cancer is still cancer and its been a hell of a few months!
I do feel really well in mind and body now and plan to enjoy my life to the full,my son is getting married in Sept so plenty to look forward to but a nice relaxing holiday first!
You sound like a strong lady with a great sense of humour and that really will help you through, just head down and keep going was our motto and eventually you come out the other side and boy doesnt it make you feel good!! ? we will all be here to cheer you along xx take care love jo Xx
Hey Tess,I didn’t cause a pile up on M6!I did drift off for a whole in between Leyland and Preston but it’s only 20 miles…Suddenly thought how the b**** y he’ll did I get here?I guess you recognise that feeling?Hubby can hardly walk going to A and E tomorrow ,now his Mums house is sorted she can go home to cause more mayhem and he can get put in plaster…Ancient dog has decided to mix it up a bit and poo in the kitchen and wee in the lounge rather than the other way round …all good fun…Hope you ok after your first day at chemo .Don’t go sitting in the pond I don’t want to see you on the news!
Ps ,the equipment to stop husband peering on floor would be useful,avoid anymore unnecessary accidents…
Hi Tess,how are you doing you must be knackered.I am up and about, a bit sore,got appointment for results next Tuesday which is quick will know more about what happens next then.Whilst I am unable to drive my elderly father has kindly agreed to terrorise the roads on my behalf!He appears to have forgotten that you need to use indicators to help alert traffic to what you are about to do next,he managed to get here 60 miles on motorway unscathed but I’m not sure about the other drivers…I have had to content myself with minor mishaps on the house instead ,falling over recycling boxes etc My husband is still hobbling ,he should have gone to A and E but couldn’t bear the thought of being in a caste while all this is going on with me and his Mum
Tess ,have you and Ken ever thought of going on the stage,you could be a bit like a male/female Chuckle Brothers they made a fortune …We still have mother in laws incontinent Yorkie and looks like he may be here for a while as she has to go into a rehab unit before going home.My dog is very fed up,cannot understand why he is being neglected going out with dog walker rather than us ,although hopefully later this week I will be out and about with him again.He is also having his nose pushed out by Yorkie. Cat is plotting Yorkie’s demise aka Tom and Jerry,fully expect to find trap door in kitchen floor neat his food bowl soon…
Tess, hope this reassures you, I had chemo from October 2014 to April this year and was amazed that my back pain of 25 years went away along with IBS symptoms. Unfortunately both returned in may. Doc and osteopath said that’s common because of anti inflammatory property of chemo and steroids! Hope you get some relief.
Well Tess, I suppose it was an accident waiting to happen as they say !Poor you it’s really scary having a bump,I got breathalised when I had an accident, was right opposite my sons school at lunchtime and was very embarrassing.They do it as a matter of routine after every accident they attend but still makes you feel like a criminal.You def did right thing getting back in the car again as it definitely shakes your confidence and you need the car to give you freedom and independence amongst all of this.Im looking forward to terrorising the local area again soon , hope they’ve fixed that troublesome kerb opposite the newsagents it’s a danger to the public…
I’m not sure driving and being asleep are very compatible…I hope the DVLA don’t monitor this website or we will be in trouble. Saying that my Dad at 85 is still a worse driver than both of us and they haven’t caught up with him yet! Ironic that all you have to be able to do is see to continue driving!Tess,I know it’s boring but have you thought of following your own advice and getting some more rest? What wig are you going for, I hear they all have names like" brandy " yuck!Hope you feeling more rested after the weekend.Bet you will be causing tail backs driving at 30, tell Ken you can get done for driving too slow.
Yeh ,the stuffing up the computer thing, I’ve done that it’s a bugger,get me very stressed computers .Came home at tea time to a nice fresh t**d in the hall thanks to elderly Yorkie, me and the cat are now working on a plan together …Mother in law gone into rehab ,never even knew she had a drug problem…
I know what will sort you out Tess,I have this lovely little Yorkshire Terrier…
Seriously though ,how can you help but have days where you feel really low amongst all of this ,whatever your attitude to life your body and mind are taking a battering.Don’t give yourself a hard time for feeling low,hopefully you will feel better tomorrow ,it’s gonna be a lovely week weather wise that does help your mood.Now get in the car and drive up here at 30 miles an hour and collect your new dog…
No Tess, I really don’t think anyone can understand who hasn’t been there.Your son needs to help out more,they get so used to us looking after them don’t they? When did you say you were coming for the dog??
Ok ,I will swap you dog for son for one week!Change is as good as a rest.Does son crap on floor?
Seriously though, you do not have capacity to deal with any additional stress at the moment.Despite Aspergers I suspect your son is like a lot of young men ,used to his mother looking after him and he is pushing his luck .You need to look after yourself.
Tess , friend took Yorkie for night to see how he might fit in at her house.Got phone call this am he had escaped and search parties needed!!!Always something to cause additional stress at the moment.He was (un) fortunately found by passer by within the hour.Friend now dubious and think he will be returning to c**p on floor in hall soon.Didn’t realise how stressful having him was until we had a night off…Hope you have a positive day.