Mental Health
Mental Health Hello ladies,
Its been a long time since i last visited you all. Have lots to tell you but will do it bit by bit as all that info will be too much to handle.
Health wise im doing ok, mentally not so good. At the beginning of October last year i was made redundant, which made a big dent in my confidence but i fought off the depression and got another job which started at the beginning of january. ALL SEEMS WELL YOU MIGHT THINK. Well it isn’t. My weight went sky high while i was off work and i’ve been seeing my doctor once a month to try and get it under control. After coming out of a very dark tunnel called breast cancer you might think this would be alot easier to handle, so why am i finding it so hard to deal with? Not too sure, but like that dark tunnel im trying to take it a day at a time. Any ideas? would love some help
Thanks
Binner
hi, funny its the first time i have been on site for a long while.
I have traveled the same journey you describe and its not easy, even though i am now fine as far as bc is concerned and now dont have to see onc for 6 whole months.
but i have had alot of other problems and this has lead to depression.
There are some days that i worry, but i really do try to stay focused.
I have gained about 12lb and doc says its cos i have been sitting around, yeh well i have had three more surgeries in the time since bc struck so thats why i have not been as active.
I tried to go back to work and managed a couple of weeks before they realised i was not fit for work, so am back on sick no income cannot get benefits for love nor money, and went to see occ health consultant for an assessment and he offered to medicaly retire me ?
no thanks, looking forward to getting back to work.
I actually do voluntry work for my primary care trust, this has given me a bit of independance, and a lot of knowlage, and am training to become a advisor on smoking cessation and early detection of cancers, and this i really enjoy.
maybeeyou could try some kind of training, or going to college
i am still at college doing beauty therapy, and i often joke about being the bionic woman, i mean at 47 i have prosthetic boob.prosthetic wrist, and am in next week for another joint replacement on wrist, then they want to do my hips?
so there we have it one knackered me , but i will still get up every time i fall down cos i have too, its hard but i am learning to ask for help, which is never easy but give it a go
There are lots of ladies on here that will understand what you mean, as we all have had the same problems, try to get your self something to focus on, i know it may sound silly but thats how i stopped smoking, i took controll of something no one else could touch, or change, it was mine to control.
Istill today have to focus on not smoking, but hey dont ask me to stop the booze,
hope this gives a lighter answer to your problems, i am not being flippant, its just sometimes you have to look on the bright side( so let me know when you find it and i will join you )
lol
cyber ((((((hugs)))))))))
culkie
Thanks Culkie I read your post and felt miles better.
I packed up smoking in december 2004 just after my first dose of chemo. haven’t touched one since. Went cold turkey. Actually it wasn’t too bad coz the chemo gave me something else to think about. But like you I won’t give up the booze, not yet anyway.
There are times when I think I coped really well with diagnosis, treatment etc, but every now and then I get this nasty reminder and realise what could have happened. I do know how lucky i’ve been, I had and still have great support but I still get abit tearful, perhaps I coped too well.
It’s a life changing desease and it takes a lifetime to deal with it, but with good friends and family and especially this wonderful site and all it’s wonderful ladies we will all learn to cope and go on.
Thanks again Culkie
Binner